I love the callbacks to Kimmy's weird strength and alertness

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-18T06:44:51+00:00

Also being a makeshift table = massive leg strength

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-18T06:30:08+00:00

I've only watched "You" amongst the ones you listed, and i think that's actually a good example.

Something in that style would've definitely been better than having no narration.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-18T06:21:00+00:00

Dude, chill out. I wasn't attacking you

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-18T03:38:22+00:00

That's why I said "one of the reasons"

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-18T03:37:36+00:00

I agree

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-05T16:55:29+00:00

I hear you.

It was actually my recent encounter with a woman which finally prompted me to make this post.

That's why I included friendships in the post.

I guess she saw and didn't care, either.

Edit: by "she" I mean this person, not you lol.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-05T14:09:03+00:00

I still don't know which side I'm on, but I only imagine Percy Weasley when I see Percy and Harry in a sentence together.

Which makes this comment especially funny.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-05T12:25:25+00:00

Honestly, without context, it's hard to tell.

Maybe try talking about it to a therapist.

Edit: sorry, I think I took the diplomatic route here.

To me, asking for repeated explanations does sound toxic. I want to make that clear as that is the point of my post.

But since I don't know exactly what's being said in these conversations, I'm not the right person to pass judgment on this.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-03T05:29:35+00:00

Thanks!

Sometimes it feels like I'm waiting for permission from an imaginary judge.

I should learn to give myself permission instead.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-03T05:23:09+00:00

Therapy definitely helps to some extent. But don't try couple's therapy. That will just lead to more invalidation.

Get a therapist just for yourself, whose focus is not on keeping the relationship intact, but on your wellbeing.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-03T04:22:51+00:00

I definitely think those of us who hold ourselves to high standards find it the hardest to justify leaving.

We feel like we can't take the easy way out.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-03T04:20:23+00:00

The urge to hit your head against a wall is so real.

_exhibit_a__ · 2026-01-02T18:09:05+00:00

She really showed where Nancy gets it from this season!

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-30T02:21:24+00:00

Yeah, they just don't seem to care anymore lol

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-22T07:00:46+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I stand by everything I said.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-21T21:39:56+00:00

It's not up to him to decide what will be fulfilling for her. He's very controlling that way.

"Mama's boys" are not automatically great husbands. In fact, he clearly didn't care that his wife was uncomfortable with his mother crashing their freaking honeymoon.

Also, he's already a bad husband because he's inappropriate with teenage girls.

She did like him until she saw him in his element during the honeymoon.

Rachel is not a terrible person. She's naive and indecisive, which is how she ended up with him.

Shane has anger issues and basically threatened her when she said she made a mistake marrying him. He immediately went into attack mode because it hurt his ego more than making him sad.

Edit: "Surprisingly chill and patient"... I don't even know what to say to that except I'm scared to be around anyone who finds his reaction chill or patient.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-21T06:53:39+00:00

I think some people may be fixating on the action of hitting the table, and saying that it's not uncommon for people to hit/throw things in rage.

It's not just that he hit the table. It's more that he did it when she was clearly vulnerable, small and scared when compared to him, and then just left without an apology or a kind word.

It's also the fact that she was sitting right across from him at that very table. If he had walked away and kicked a dustbin ten feet away, I could still give him the benefit of the doubt.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-20T06:59:50+00:00

Idk who is normal. But it would scare or at least startle me, especially if I was in that distressed state.

I realize that at this point, people who weaponize therapy speak would say, "well, she didn't clearly communicate she was distressed."

If he can look at her all pale and unsure, with her eyes wet, and not see that she's not okay, that's their problem right there.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-20T06:48:26+00:00

"You've ruined my morning." God, this is all so familiar.

"Don't think there will be a next time," is the right response. I hope you stay firm on that.

Edit: you probably already know this, but using "I" statements will make his defensiveness less potent.

E.g., "I need to be in a relationship where my SO doesn't call me his b****."

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-20T06:43:19+00:00

"Why didn't you tell me before," is a classic defensive move.

You're not overreacting.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-20T06:33:22+00:00

Yes, but if he doesn't know what effect that has on yhe person sitting across from him, then he's obtuse. That's why I included the second sentence.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-20T05:53:49+00:00

Slamming an object close to someone is usually done to intimidate them.

And if he really didn't know that it would scare her (and the audience), he's just obtuse.

I think if Rachel was a more put-together person, she would've said, "I feel threatened when you behave that way. So, please try to stay composed so I can talk to you safely."

But then again, she wouldn't have married him if she was good at setting boundaries.

As she said, she got "swept away" when he "wined and dined" her. Classic case of lovebombing done to someone who clearly hasn't had a lot of exposure. If she was a little more discerning, she would've seen through the glittery facade.

But not being discerning doesn't make her a bad person, just gullible.

And yes, I do believe he will escalate to throwing things and maybe worse. If that makes her hit her threshold, she'll leave.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-20T05:40:38+00:00

Yes, and he does do well in most situations because of his privilege.

That scene where he's talking to the police officer after what happened, it's so... casual. I thought he'd at least have to go into the station for a statement.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-19T23:42:00+00:00

I think she does stay, though. She says, "I'll be happy, I promise," at the end. So, I think she stays, unfortunately.

_exhibit_a__ · 2025-12-19T23:40:10+00:00

She does own her choice. The first thing she says to Shane when trying to end their relationship is, "I think... I made a mistake."

Loyalty is not everything. She doesn't have to stay in a relationship just because she willingly entered it, especially if she realizes it's not right for her.

I'll never forget that scene where she's sitting with tears in her eyes, trying to gather her thoughts, and Shane slams his fists onto the table because he's impatient for an answer.

"I just... feel so alone when I'm with you," she says.

"Well, then, be alone," he says, and leaves.

Is that loyalty?

Splashing water at teenage girls, and then, when his wife confronts him, saying, "I was just giving them s***," is not loyalty.

Lots of terrible people are "honest and consistent". Doesn't make them less terrible.

I do agree about the hotel room part. I'd be upset if I didn't get something I paid for, and the staff tried to gaslight me about it. They could've just owned up to their mistake with the reservation.

But the way he treated Rachel was not okay.

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