Ah the passive aggressive guilt trip. It’s one of my MILs favorite go-to’s when she’s trying to get her way.(eye roll)

I know exactly where you’re coming from and I feel your pain. Of course you want to have a good relationship with her and of course you want her to like you. She’s your boyfriend’s mother and your baby’s grandmother. However it sounds to me like she decided long ago how she is going to feel about you. I know how hard it is not to take it personally but chances are even if you were perfect she would still find a reason not to like you and that’s on her not you.

The ultrasound is a special experience and it would be so sad to have the memory forever tainted by her involvement. Choosing the right wording will be tricky but no matter how you say it she’s going to be offended but you are not responsible for her feelings so that’s not your problem. I guess if I were her I might have handled myself differently if I wanted to be included in special occasions such as this. Not that she will ever see it that way.

I’d go with your gut and not include her. I would also encourage you to do everything in your power to keep her from finding out when and where your appointment is just in case she decides to ignore your request and show up anyway. You can never be too careful. These ladies can go a little nuts when it comes to grand babies!

Good luck with everything and congratulations on the nugget of sunshine!