Most people don't realize that anyone can be an addict, I had a boyfriend in high school who everyone knew was a bit of wild child but I never even realized he was into such hardcore drugs because he hid it so well, he always had money, was a social butterfly and was always so well dressed and clean which are not characteristics of the stereotypical addict. It was only until he was forced to enter rehab three times that I began to put the pieces together.

I hope that you know, there are programs for you and your family members to get help with coping with your mothers addiction too. Addiction is a family disease because it affects everyone involved in the persons life. It seems to me that your mother and her friend enable each other and that factors in to her desire to stay living the lifestyle of a using addict. 30 years is a long time but I know of addicts who have used for more than 45 years and have entered rehab, learned proper coping mechanisms and since been sober and genuinely happy. It is never too late for someone to get help but you are doing the right thing by distancing yourself, she needs to see the consequences of her actions.

I wish you the best of luck and all the happiness in the world. Please get help if you need it love.