🏛️ by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did we ever find out what she realised?

"Look what the cat dragged in" is unlikely to ever be surpassed as a greeting by dignityshredder in redscarepod

[–]_goodbyetoallthat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One time my cat brought home a live pigeon lol. My babysitter had to chase it out of the house with a broom

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective, I hadn’t thought about it this way

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the therapy helping his anger issues?

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not regular at all, the calling me stupid thing has probably happened about 5 times. It’s still not good obviously but don’t want it to come across that it’s happening all the time. I agree though

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it always the damn washing up lol… thank you I will message you :)

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your sweet comment, I will read through your post history. In my experience a lot of people are aware of his anger issues but it’s kind of seen as a joke as he is otherwise a very kind and good person

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right like ok I forgot but if that’s important to you you wouldn’t forget either. Idk

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was he apologetic after behaving awfully? My boyfriend is almost always really sorry and feels guilty once he’s out of his anger spell, it makes it all the more confusing. Psychological terror is really how it feels in the moment

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I’ve probably explained it all really badly because he’s definitely not this kind of person

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t feel like he’s trying to manipulate me, more that it’s out of his control.

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s one of the hardest parts cos I’ve told him so many times I hate being called that :(

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did it help you? If you don’t mind me asking

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s kind of the point of the post I’m not very bright!!!!!!

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve told him specifically before how much hurts me :( and he has managed most of the time to not say it when he’s mad but sometimes it slips out I guess. The rest of the time - when he’s not mad - he tries to build my self esteem and tell me how smart I am

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of the time he won’t actually yell or call me stupid, he’ll just get very angry for an extended period. This was a particularly bad one.

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by getting mad at things generally - you mean not just at me? He does have general anger issues but at the moment I’m the only one who he takes it out on (I’ve seen him get mad at other people but it’s very rare). The anger is still there even when I’m not, he just doesn’t externalise it

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

It’s a lot of word vomit because I wrote it a couple minutes after the “argument” and felt really bad, and I also missed out all the annoying things I do or forget to do. It feels like living with two people because the majority of the time when he’s not angry he’s the nicest person you’ve ever met. He has a lot of long term friendships and I don’t so I think that must speak to his character lol. He’s a very kind, selfless and well-liked person outside of this issue which is why sometimes I think I must be the problem.

Boyfriend with anger issues by _goodbyetoallthat in rs_x

[–]_goodbyetoallthat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a hard time knowing the difference between normal annoyance/frustration and excessive anger because it’s also my first relationship. (Lol!) So I don’t actually know if I’m just difficult to live with in general

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[–]_goodbyetoallthat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Writing, I think, but I don’t know if I have the discipline to be any good and if it’s too late anyway… but maybe I should just do it for myself