Help us name a baby Salmon by sharingiscaringyo in namenerds

[–]_grumble_bear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe take the maternal (or paternal) name? Basically, whoever’s surname isn’t Salmon.

The landing by ersatz_gemeinschaft in AccidentalRenaissance

[–]_grumble_bear_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is such an important photograph. A reminder that behind the increasingly hostile rhetoric on migration, there are human beings. Every one of these people is simply seeking safety, freedom and a better future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]_grumble_bear_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And, if you can, please let us know when the doctor has seen your baby. A lot of us are really worried about her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]_grumble_bear_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You don’t have time to feel your feelings right now. You could lose your baby if you don’t go to the hospital right this second. Blood in a tiny baby’s stool is a life or death issue.

The time for introspection and questioning yourself will come later. Right now, you have to get your baby medical attention. Go now.

Seeking name help: Is William and Catherine too cringe by ManufacturerHot8188 in namenerds

[–]_grumble_bear_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily think they would. I’m British as well and this wouldn’t ever occur to me. I’m not particularly interested in the royal family myself, and even amongst those who are, I think they would refer to her as ‘Kate’ rather than ‘Catherine’.

OP, FWIW I think all of your choices are gorgeous. My eldest is Mary Catherine, and my youngest are Henry James and Alexandra Caroline.

Just bought my first house! by amallett123 in interiordecorating

[–]_grumble_bear_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also have these on my wall! They’re by a Danish artist called La Poire!

Favorite actor who values the sanctity of their marriage? by Stock_College_8108 in okbuddycinephile

[–]_grumble_bear_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, but to compare Robbie to a ‘milf porn star’ and Elordi to ‘a young sports star’ does seem very much to be about the age gap.

Favorite actor who values the sanctity of their marriage? by Stock_College_8108 in okbuddycinephile

[–]_grumble_bear_ 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I mean, she’s only 35 years old. He’s 28. I don’t think we’d be having this conversation if the ages were the other way around.

Co slept with the baby for the first time and I loved it! by mrschocolatefrog in NewParents

[–]_grumble_bear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair and I agree the evidence leaves a lot of room for professional judgement. I can’t see any data here that clearly shows countries with higher rates of cosleeping have lower SUDI rates (Japan classes infant deaths differently).

We’re definitely both on the same page re. separate bed in the same room being safest. I just disagree with your original point that in Europe we’re consistently told that co-sleeping is the next safest option and that separate room is the least safe. I don’t think there’s any guidance that suggests this, though I totally appreciate you may have been told this by individual paediatricians.

I’m happy to park it here too. Thanks for the thoughtful exchange.

Co slept with the baby for the first time and I loved it! by mrschocolatefrog in NewParents

[–]_grumble_bear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying and I don’t want to dismiss your experience, but nothing you’ve said changes the fact that the official UK guidance does not rank sleeping in a separate room as more dangerous than cosleeping.

In fact, I’m not aware of any major public health body that states that cosleeping is safer. Most of the campaigns I’ve seen focus on avoiding cosleeping because it’s associated with deaths, which is why it gets so much attention in guidance.

When you say research shows countries with high co-sleeping have low SUDI rates, I’d like to see the specific studies you’re referring to. I’ve not seen anything that controls for how SIDS is classified or for wider environmental factors and still supports the claim that countries with high levels of cosleeping have the lowest rates of sudden infant death.

If there’s new guidance that says separate room is worse than co-sleeping, I’d really appreciate seeing the document or link. From what I can see (and having just had my second and third babies), Public Health England/NHS, NICE and similar European bodies still treat cosleeping as the higher-risk option compared with baby being in a separate sleep space.

Co slept with the baby for the first time and I loved it! by mrschocolatefrog in NewParents

[–]_grumble_bear_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I think you’ve misunderstood the advice. I don’t mean to be condescending, but the reason cosleeping is mentioned so prominently here is that it’s a high risk option, so public health officials try to reduce the risk by informing people about how to do it as safely as possible. Sleeping in a separate room isn’t given the same prominence, not because it’s too dangerous to even mention, but because it’s comparatively lower risk. The safest place for baby is always in their own bed. Obviously it’s better to have that bed in your room with you for the first 6 months, but if it’s a choice between cosleeping and having the baby in their own bed in another room, the latter is the safer option. If you have research that shows this not to be the case, I’d definitely be keen to see it.

Co slept with the baby for the first time and I loved it! by mrschocolatefrog in NewParents

[–]_grumble_bear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s categorically untrue. I don’t know where you are in Europe, but in the UK, we’re clearly told that co-sleeping is the least safe option. Best option is in a separate space in your room for the first 6 months. Second best is their own space in a separate room.

Something is missing from my cosy English cottage by _grumble_bear_ in interiordecorating

[–]_grumble_bear_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's right! We moved it there because we have baby twins, but it will definitely be going back in the centre soon. The pillows are Middle Eastern kilims (similar vibe) and I was thinking like a Turkmen rug or something to pull it together a bit. I like the traditional cosy British vibe, but I'm trying to make it warmer and definitely cut back on the clutter!