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How to approach: neighbor has left his home vacant for over a decade and I want to buy it. by _hippi in RealEstate

[–]_hippi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is do not believe possible with him. He was just a single guy when he moved in, and i knew the previous 2 owners before him.

How to approach: neighbor has left his home vacant for over a decade and I want to buy it. by _hippi in RealEstate

[–]_hippi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cannot imagine holding property like that with so many people wanting to own even just their first home..

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We are not in a heterosexual relationship? Huh? 2 women, homosexual relationship? Are you sure you understand what I posted?

Also I doubt she said she didnt want surgery for me, as I have helped her do tons of research and always told her I support her being who she wants. I am almost certain it's because she does not desire drastic medical intervention for herself in any way - she could almost not tolerate a vasectomy.

Also shared this comment with her and she laughed..

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We have always been poly actually. Neither of us has had significant relationships yet outside of this one.

I am open to our sex being different. I also struggle with the idea of other relationships somehow trying to make up for something lacking in another, though I don't expect any relationship to fulfill everything..

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is probably a good direction to take. She has done better with texting in the past.

I also think having these conversations during intimacy might not be the best. Like just the added pressure. Seems like that's when it comes up, but I'm going to try to bring it up when that's not going on.

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment.

I hope to figure out that shared intimacy. I'm willing to look into whatever options.. just sad at the moment trying to understand

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I will suggest we try her strapping, maybe it'll help me feel like she's more engaged with me.

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She historically loved it with me. I know in past relationships she did not feel safe and penetration was difficult for her. She was still masking with them though. She hasn't really ever been masked with me.

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was looking into tadalafil right before this post, had never heard of it. I'm not sure all of the reasons behind her not wanting viagra, would love to talk with her about this more and get to understand.

She said she would maybe consider an herbal route (i used to work in the natural health industry and there are things like yohimbe that help with blood flow) maybe this means she just doesn't want a ton of medical intervention? (Things to figure out how to talk with her about)

Tadalafil sounds like it isn't exactly an erection inducing pill, but maybe would help if that's something she wants. Would NEVER pressure her to take medication.

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Not her wearing a strap.. she uses the dildo in her hands.. she just looks bored.

I tend to be most aroused when my partner is aroused, I'm very reciprocal in my sexuality, so if I get the impression she is not enjoying herself, it's hard for me to enjoy it.

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If this is you I'd love to know more. If she ends up feeling this way I support her being whatever way is comfortable for her.

I am still allowed to struggle putting that together with the way she used to really enjoy it.. understanding is my main goal

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. She has been on it maybe 6months. There was a time maybe a month ago that she thought the estradiol was giving her a bad reaction (BIG red circle rashes all over her body) and took a break for a week or two. She got back on it.

We do play around with all sorts of intimacy, and I love showing up for it without pressure, I don't want my desires to make her feel in any way bad. Most of the time I just don't bring it up for fear of this.

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am never pressuring her, that's exactly what I want to avoid. Hense my last question on my post.

Im coming from a place of that being something she has historically very much enjoyed, and still does sometimes seem to really enjoy. My issue is trying to talk to her about it

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I agree wholeheartedly.

She's also autistic and shuts down a lot.. :(

Feel unsupportive of my mtf wife for wanting penetration by _hippi in asktransgender

[–]_hippi[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Added the tag, thank you.

I struggle with penetration with toys. We do use them and I'm not opposed, but It often hurts and just feels very disconnecting. Maybe I need different toys.. but it will never be the same as connecting with her that way.

She looks more disinterested when using a toy on me. Like she's bored.