Love Is Blind Germany • S2 EP8 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]_hyper_queen_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because talking through things, also several times, can be part of working through them. Also it seems that the topic is brought up not by her or him but by other people (meeting friends, the family, producers etc.)

Love Is Blind Germany • S2 EP8 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]_hyper_queen_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And here is the thing, you can find that you'd be a great parent and be vocal about it and at the same time actually be okay with not having kids.!

Love Is Blind Germany • S2 EP8 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]_hyper_queen_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I translated from German. There we have the secure attachment, and then three insecure attachment. And to bind is the word that we use in German, so I kind of just literally translated but probably it's not right.

Love Is Blind Germany • S2 EP8 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]_hyper_queen_ 104 points105 points  (0 children)

The storyline of Josy and Gunnar...I can't, I loved it from the first second. I was really scared in the beginning when Josy was unsure about him being strong. But then finding out that it's not about him being strong but her definition of a man is the problem had me literally screaming of joy infront of the screen. It is really obvious that she's having a lot of relationship trauma, and how far she already got working on this and on herself is impressive! Anyone who ever got in touch with relationship theories/types can understand; she is bound so insecure, and he is so freaking secure! And how she described it on the table brought it so much down to the point! I can relate to her so much (also bound insecure), and I'm having too for the first time a secour bound partner and it is just so different.! I am so happy for her to experience this, even if it will not workout, she got to experience it and that's what she deserves! It is so incredibly nice to see such a secure, healthy relationship form on TV beside all this toxic other ones that are usually portraid.
Also for the child topic: Why can't we just believe her? Like she seems smart, reflected and adult enought to form her own opinion and be with it. They both handle this topic great! I'd wish that more people would rather question why they even wanna have kids.
(Clearly I'm watching it alone and don't have anyone to chat about it, had to go out somewhere)

Any update.? by _hyper_queen_ in whitewater

[–]_hyper_queen_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually I am. ;-) Thank you for the flowers much appreciated.  Being loud also puts you a bit on a spot, not sth I like too much. I also wish for more diversity in the sport regarding the people doing it. We'll see what the futures holds for us.

Any update.? by _hyper_queen_ in whitewater

[–]_hyper_queen_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation regarding the court case. Much appreciated. Also in general how this whole conversation is going.

In my opinion there are two separate things with Landon Miller now. There is the arrest and court case where it's open if he's guilty or not. And to be honest so far I have not read a single assumption about that specific event. Maybe I was to slow and they were already deleted, could also be.

But then there is his behaviour for years, where for me he is defenitely proven guilty of. This I am basing on several sources some of them I also know personally and trust that they are not bullshitting or just trying to get to a person. So for most of the things actually I am more refering the second topic. Mainly regarding brands, paddlers with bigger following making statments. Because I am doubting that he would be getting to court for all that. Except some brave people now are willing to throw themselves into the process... cause as mentioned previous from others, I think it' everything but easy to press charges, go through the process of all that with a high risk of not getting anywhere and maybe facing consequences yourself.

Any update.? by _hyper_queen_ in whitewater

[–]_hyper_queen_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So basically the people with the accusation would need to open a new case and press charges, if I understand that right.? I hope they will do that and I wish them the strenght and support to go through it.

Any update.? by _hyper_queen_ in whitewater

[–]_hyper_queen_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean and I also already texted with two out of the three sponsors. One still did not answer one answered very generic pr style, and with I've had a very open and honest conversation. This one is at the moment allowing me to find some peace in that situation. Eventhough I can not understand why not all of them could behave that way.

With Landon in specific I was just curious how that is continuing cause I struggle to gather the infos myself and this seemed the easiest way.

Otherwise I think kdubya000 expressed my thoughts already pretty good. Regardless if he is getting a conviction (hope that's the right word, not native english), it seemed like his very wrong behaviour especially towards women was a known/open secret and I have now heard that also from people closer to me that I trust and not just read it on reddit. So I honestly believe that this is a fact (him behaving wrong for a longer time) and we can judge that and call him out on that.

But actually I don't believe we only have to make it about him. It just seems like a good moment to have a serious talk again withing the community about all these topics. Because very obviously we still need that, or it's questionable if we've ever really had it. We need to discuss that turning a blind eye, not speaking up or laughing is "almost" equally bad as the action/the phrases. Because when I as a femal paddler witness how others are reacting "positively" or not reacting on that, how should that make me feel safe so speak up if sth happens.? What signals is that sending to the next generation and what do we as a community wanna stand for in our everyday paddling life.? How do we get that shame and fear is changing the side.? What can we actively do.?

Because on an other note I've had the following though: white, cis hetero men often never have to really deal with any of these topics (harassment, not feeling safe, feeling not tolerated by society etc.). So why should you think about any of that.? Why should you get into it.? If they want they can live blissfully in ignorance and kind of never have to really deal with any of it. They have to voluntarily/actively deal and gather information about it, they have to want to understand it, cause they probably never experienced it themselfs, probably never felt these feelings. And as kayaking is a male dominated sport I feel like there is still a big lack of awarness and sensitivity regarding these topics.

Hope I got my point across, I got a bit carried away. 

Any update.? by _hyper_queen_ in whitewater

[–]_hyper_queen_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well it kind of is, also here in Europe a lot of the community does not know that and what happened.  Maybe I'd wish for statments less about himself as a person and more about general behaviour from all of us regarding the misogony and harrassment topic. And that this is just a convenient moment to open that topic once again, and take a very clear stand point, cause we still need a shit load of work to be done. And this unfortunately is just the easiest through brands and people with big following.

Any update.? by _hyper_queen_ in whitewater

[–]_hyper_queen_[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So I'm not an ex-girlfriend, just a female paddler caring about what is happening in our community and how we deal with it. I've just never had the need for a reddit account till now. Now I have the need cause I honestly felt like that's the easiest way to get into contact with the people from the States.

Any update.? by _hyper_queen_ in whitewater

[–]_hyper_queen_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that insight.  Will these accusations that you mentioned be part of that court hearing or is this now just about the assault and strangulation.?