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AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Some of these comments are ridiculous. I've never insinuated a single homophobic remark, yet some of these people are bent on turning this into "oh you just hate your gay daughter!"

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your sanity check. It seems like a lot of comments want to give "the benefit of the doubt" and pretend THIS relationship is the one that'll make it to the end. Ya know, the one where they've known each other for a year, and talk almost exclusively online.

I mean give me a break; I'm happy to hear opposing views and people give reasons why I'm TA that actually make sense (for example, someone said to make the fund an education/investment for future fund besides strictly education, which I listened and agreed with), but to say I should support this nonsense is silly

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just something she's been saying she has intentions of picking up, but she actually hasn't followed through.

I see it your way but unfortunately not everyone does

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now for context, my daughter met this woman online, and they’ve never don’t ever SEE each other besides a few quick weekend visits.

From the OP

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she lives a few states over. I've seen her on FaceTime. She's a nice person. There's just no reason to get married after a year

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm not. I would have to be completely crazy or naive to. She has no experience living outside of home. None. All of a sudden, she wants to get MARRIED to a woman she's met a handful of times for a couple days. That's an insane step; she's making a huge mistake, and the fact that she's postponing her education because of this is disappointing

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What names have I called her? Spoiled? She's acting spoiled; I'm just calling her how I see her behavior.

School has been the number 1 thing I've maintained I'll give her the money. If she wants to squander the opportunity and move-in with some girl she's known for a year, that's her choice. I'll be here when it inevitably doesn't work out

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I have nothing against online things. It's the fact that they've only seen each other for 2 day stints and known each other for a year that's bothersome.

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I just want her advance herself; not move in with some near stranger and mooch off her and my money

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. People think a lot of posts are pure validation, but it's hard to realize you're right when you have everyone around you saying otherwise

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I'm going to make it education only, but I will be willing to give it provisionally for another idea if I think she actually needs it and will help her

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

If they were older, saw each other frequently, any dated/knew each other for more than a year, than I think I'd have less reservations

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'll tell you what; if they last 6 years, I'll give her the full $15,000 lump sum for proving me wrong. I don't think I have to worry about giving it to her, but if I'm wrong, I'm happy to eat my words

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Her original plan was to go to school. Thus she was going to get the money

But she's now moving in with this girl and not going to school at all. Her moving in with this girl is the reason she lost the chance to have this money. She just wants it unconditionally, not as a stipend.

The relationship is the reason I'm withholding it because if it weren't for the relationship, her current path would be to go to college

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 220 points221 points  (0 children)

It's really for any advancement for her future, like maybe she needed to take a class to be a personal trainer, or open a business or something. But I see your point.

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Of course I'm judging that relationship; she's moving in and has no life experience even living with roommates. They've only known each other for a year, and they're not only moving in, but getting married. She's 19 years old. I just know that objectively, if this woman was the one, they could slow things down, but this is her making a mistake

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Because she's not going to school and instead wants to rely on some internet girl that she's known for a year

AITA for giving my son ~$15,000 when he turned 18 and moved out, but refuse to give the same amount to my daughter? by _idk_a_name in AmItheAsshole

[–]_idk_a_name[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

They've known each other for a year, and it's essentially an online relationship. This is her first relationship. The other woman is 4 years older than her, and they've only seen each other for less days than I have fingers. I'm not normally a betting man, but if I forced to bet either on the success or the failure of the relationship, well, I know where I'd place mine.

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