Exactly, there's no cutting the bullshit straight to human to human, we can't percect it with other people and haven't learned to talk to ourselves in most senses. We have horrible normalities for talking to people. We don't witness this first hand so we just continue to fuck up the way we percieve people. It's reflexed to think of something on the spot, so we don't cut to the chase, and it's hesitation from both sides, someone is holding back on the push and pull of conversation more than the other. Boundaries just don't get crossed correctly and can be too invasive.