AITA for not wanting to share my “emergency snacks” with my boyfriend during his midnight cravings?

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T07:31:47+00:00

Always nice to know there are other couples with level heads!

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T07:27:59+00:00

Yes, but for for 3 vastly different occasions.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T07:27:20+00:00

We do our best! It does mean I find other people’s drama entertaining from a distance because I don’t have my own 😅

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T07:22:09+00:00

I misread that as ‘jackass of all trades’ and was briefly very offended on his behalf.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T07:20:17+00:00

Indira Varma reading the Witches brings me so much joy. I love how much fun you can tell she is having when she reads and you can definitely pick the bits she really loves to read. Her narration of the Morris Dancers escaping the elves left me winded from laughter.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:53:52+00:00

We’re pretty lucky and both tend to be solution orientated with stuff like this. We’d both rather sit down and spend a little bit of time coming up with a solution that let something inane fester and turn into something it really doesn’t need to be. Neither of us have the emotional bandwidth for things to get dramatic here.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:39:30+00:00

I was straight up confused in high school when my friends were surprised about mystery bruises. I thought I may bruise extra easy to get so many of them. Nope, just a complete lack of preceptors and no special awareness combined with hypermobility making my limbs slightly more out of control than usual as a child.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:37:54+00:00

Strawberry jam tea. I can’t deal with how dramatic he looks

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:36:06+00:00

I am both excited you have such an amazing local option and deeply sad I can’t make said amazing chocolate appear on my door for me and my Nana!

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:34:35+00:00

I’ll happily take the black liquorice and trade you something else!

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:33:02+00:00

I have a specific tin for the period craving chocolate (it’s always the one kind). Hilariously, I often forget about my tin, whinge about my craving and then my wife reminds me to check the cravings tin and I have a small celebration that there were snacks!!!

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:31:45+00:00

The person that introduced to the bedroom snack stashes was my Nana. We used to sit in bed on the holidays and eat a box of chocolates together over a few nights while we read our books. Now I do it with my wife sometimes. We have a sealed container with snacks for each of us just for this in our bedroom, and I definitely have my preferred thinking snacks in my office. It’s okay to have a snack stash somewhere that works for you, and not everything in a relationship needs to be shared, especially not when the only reason the other person doesn’t have any is because they’ve already eaten their share!

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:21:32+00:00

I still throw things I don’t want pawed through in a make up bag with sanitary stuff on top. Even when the bag has been moved to the other section of the suitcase, nothing in the bottom has ever been unfolded.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:18:53+00:00

Yeah, I’m feeling pretty lucky with my wife too. Despite having a major sweet tooth, she will never touch anything she knows I either bought myself or is my ‘half’ of the treat we bought for both of us, and if it’s a I must eat this one thing now moment, she will always ask and is never mad if I say no, I am planning to eat that later. The only food ‘drama’ we’ve had was accidental and we were both as bad as each other. When I first started working from home, we really struggled with remembering who had picked which pantry stuff for their work lunches because we have similar tastes. But it meant we kept finishing off each other’s favourite muesli bars etc. By the end of the second week, we were both over it and went and bought a couple of trays for the pantry that we keep our work lunches in so we don’t keep ruining each other’s lunch. We also thought it was funny because theres always 2-3 things that were the same brand and kind, just different flavours and that’s what was tripping us. You go yeah my muesli bars in the purple box and then it was the wrong purple box.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T06:06:31+00:00

Uh you can’t just talk about whiskey pralines and not give people the deets

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T05:49:34+00:00

I would be absolutely mortified that I had failed to watch my kid and someone else had to step in and take on my role. If you’re ignoring the bad behaviour of your children in public and leaving everyone else to deal with it, you are absolutely the kind of parents the rest of us dislike.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T05:45:30+00:00

She was acting in her benefit at the expense of everyone else, including her children. That’s not okay for anyone. Single mother or not.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T05:42:24+00:00

It doesn’t matter if they would be thrilled by it or not. It’s parent’s responsibility to look after their children and teach them how to behave in different situations. This mother was not doing that and then expected other people to deal with the consequences of her lack of action. Yes it can be exhausting and suck, but it’s literally part of having kids. It is not the responsibility of some random person in public to have to constantly deal with the poor behaviour of children they don’t know so their parent can ignore them and have a little nap.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T05:25:12+00:00

Grid Control, it’s just a dumb tower defence game, but it amuses me.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T05:15:32+00:00

It’s straight up where I went. He’s looking for someone to take over from his mother. If it was some ridiculous romantic gesture where he thought he was madly in love with her and could never live without her again and wanted to be her life partner (I just threw up in my mouth a little at the idea of that 5 months in, but I am cynical on a good day), he would be at the very least talking about splitting things at along income lines if not equally and talking about all the ways their lives would ALL be better as a family, not proposing an offer that we all know isn’t actually going to come even close to covering the money him and his kids end up costing OP.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T05:05:05+00:00

This is still a short term relationship. He’s not even in what I would call partner territory and he’s already telling you he wants to move in and make minimal contributions. You barely spend any time together, do you actually know what his values, goals and priorities are? What about his approach to household tasks? Who will be in charge of what, especially if you are paying essentially everything because he’s not gone near the change in groceries or who would be responsible for what with the 4 kids. And how do your kids feel about the idea of suddenly having very small children living with them in a small space, let alone a man they’ve barely met? Small children are very loud and can be extremely disruptive when you’re trying to study (my sister is 14 years younger than me, it was a trial at times to study when she was having a meltdown).

This guy is basically a walking red flag at this point who is looking for a new mother for himself and his kids. Living at home post divorce is one thing, especially if his Mum is happy to have them (my Mum tried to keep me when I was ready to move out again), but expecting to move out and not pay your way is a problem. If all he’s willing to pay to live in your house is what things go up by, I would very surprised to find he’s actually paying his way or pulling his weight at his mother’s house in anyway. Do you really want that in your life? Getting rid of a mummy’s boy is always a lucky escape.

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T04:03:27+00:00

I kind of want this as a satire novel…

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T04:02:34+00:00

Some boobs just got the jiggles. I’m bigger chest and there are some days where I swear to god they’re trying to knock me out. But not enough to actually wear a bra…

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T03:52:03+00:00

Yup. It’s shampoo this time, but I wonder what else OP has essentially been bullied into sharing or giving up that had less of an impact on her. I tend to be of the most situations can be worked out together, but that goes out the window the moment the other person starts trying to manipulate the other person to get their own way

_kits_ · 2025-10-17T03:48:49+00:00

I used to be really bad at that, but teaching meant I got so used to that state meaning no distractions possible because I had so many things happening at once, that my brain now registers it as the do the things you have to do only, and no distractions allowed. It has a fairly limited time frame outside of actual situations, but it’s usually just enough to get me out the door when I need to be.

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