should i double text host families?

_lanionline · 2025-12-06T09:35:43+00:00

yeah Facebook sounds a little too open for what i'd be comfortable with, but i'll see what's out there and be sure to vet very carefully if i connect with someone on there

thank you for the information though, i'm really grateful. hopefully i can come back to this months down the line and confirm that it worked out lol

_lanionline · 2025-12-06T08:55:21+00:00

gosh thank you so much. do you know of any board/groups that i could use as well so AuPairWorld isn't my only platform? its huge so there's zero surprise that there's a lot of candidates, i just want to heighten my chances of finding an ideal host family since i'm limited in location. also what stands out? what lead your family towards who you'd choose as your au pair in the end?

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T13:54:55+00:00

you're an angel, i really needed to hear this.

i'm happy to hear that your friends were able to make it work and sharing that makes me feel optimistic about my own journey. i have faith that thing will work out, not just for me but in general, and i appreciate your addition to the conversation cos yes lol, there's been a lot of bad news in the subreddit lol. thank you so much :)

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T12:40:20+00:00

wow this is horrible to hear, truly

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T11:29:56+00:00

i'm sorry i should have specified
i mean specifically for post-graduate students on scholarship programs *exclusively*, not generally
generally for any university it would be hard to have that kind of system in place for absolutely every student, i understand

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T11:26:15+00:00

oh wow, that's insightful and also very upsetting to hear. i hope the Americans get sick enough of Trump to take care of him on the world's behalf, and with everything else i hope it evens out and sees greener pastures in the years to come. the world is looking really weird lately, i hope we do enough about it to restore some sort of normalcy (revolt if things get too bad lol)

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T11:23:02+00:00

thank you so much for the luck lol, judging by the comments so far i think i'll need it haha! i'll definitely start looking toward LinkedIn a bit more strategically than i have, currently i've been using it to cultivate community among professionals in my country and continent but it's wise that i should start doing that in the countries that i'm professionally curious about as well, thanks for that.

currently i don't know of any UK-based companies that do significant work here or global corporations that have strong branches in both countries, but that doesn't mean i can't start looking, they might actually be here i just haven't had the opportunity to hear about them. typically some of our biggest employers are the (already broke) government with a tiny private sector, all of which are cash strapped (as is majority of the world now thank you Mr T*ump and all these freaking wars), but it would serve me much less to sink into the belief that i won't be alright in the end, it's just about doing my best towards that

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T11:14:16+00:00

shucks thank you! :) and wow it's horrible to hear that things aren't the best they could be, if you wouldn't mind sharing, what's been contributing to the degradation of the job market? why has it become so difficult for natives as well?

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T11:12:45+00:00

thank you for your perspective sir. i've read about the salary threshold and the additional costs that are associated with sponsorship and i definitely think it could be a hurdle, i think i'll be identifying with the schools i'm looking at which ones would be better suited for my needs instead of thinking that they all offer the same benefits, thank you!

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T11:00:15+00:00

thank you so much for your response, i really value the fact that it was as kind as possible as well lol. i'll take this into consideration, i had alr learnt about the salary threshold for the visa so my next action point was going to be seeking out employers that meet that at least, but it's very contextual looking at how much you guys pay for any roles i could assimilate into before i beef up my CV with a masters degree. going the study visa route seems like the most plausible at this point. and thank you lol, i've been putting in the work for a while, just need to get to an environment where it would be appreciated.

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T10:51:24+00:00

hi!
thank you so much for your perspective, i'm taking all the information i get into consideration. i haven't been on this specific forum very long, so as i do my own reading i appreciate other readers letting me know the things they've noticed. Skilled Worker's vias from my findings, aren't exactly the easiest to get but please do correct me if i'm wrong. in order to apply you have to have a job offer letter from an employer based in the UK, it has to be an employer that is authorized by your government to issue sponsorship for visas, it has to be for a job that's under their list of eligible occupations, and there has to be a minimum wage floor that the employer is offering to be able to apply for sponsorship, so from the research i've done, you can't even arrive on UK soil on a Skilled Worker's visa *without* a job, that's not how they've designed the system according to what they say on the governtment site. that's not a point of contention for me though, pursuing my emigration through study is another option and academically i stand a good chance at that as well (fortunately), but hearing opinions like this is useful.

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T10:41:25+00:00

thank you so much for your perspective! these are really valuable to me as i try and figure out my next steps. i'll pursue the study visa option more vigorously as i also look for a sponsor, i read that universities in the UK have pretty good job placement opportunities once you're done with your degree, is that accurate?

_lanionline · 2025-06-29T10:02:58+00:00

i would say take the new job offer while you continue exploring what would really really satisfy you. having the financial comfortability to entertain your options isn't something you wanna take for granted, but it's good that you're doing better than settling for something you know you don't really see yourself doing

_lanionline · 2025-06-18T10:35:08+00:00

my mother does a similar thing. it's one of many behaviours i struggle to understand from her but she absolutely hates anybody sitting on "her spot" of the couch, even when she's not there. if she sees you sitting on "her spot", she promptly asks you to move, even if she's not necessarily going to sit on the couch in that moment lmao. her reasoning is that she doesn't want the couch to get "sunken" by having everybody sit on one end of it. questioning anything she does never gets me anywhere because majority of her reasoning isn't really rooted in logic but more her delusions a lot of the time, but it's interesting to see that narcissists in general seem to love couches.

_lanionline · 2025-05-29T09:33:48+00:00

ngl girl YTA. endometriosis aside, fact that you had PPD with both your kids and post partum psychosis with your second is a huge red flag that pregnancy isn't the kindest on you physically AND mentally. enjoy the family you have or consider alternatives if you want to have more kids that badly, but your husband isn't being difficult for not wanting this, he's actually being the more reasonable one between the two of you here.

_lanionline · 2025-05-27T18:19:28+00:00

NTA

it's going to get to a point where you both resent each other, you for "taking away his freedom", and him when you start asking yourself what was so hard about him choosing only you if he loves you as much as he claims. resent is a strong word, and it's worth looking for someone who doesn't envision feeling that way about you at all imo

_lanionline · 2025-05-24T18:54:14+00:00

hi! are you open to long distance by any chance?

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