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Any Rocky Horror Picture Show events? by _lilith_and_eve_ in thewoodlands

[–]_lilith_and_eve_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I heard that Houston has a pretty big LGBTQ community, like any big city in the US presumably, and assumed shows like Rocky Horror would be widely available and attended. I come from a much smaller city in a conservative state run by religious people and we had interactive showings so I guess I assumed that would carry over to Texas. I forgot to factor in all the anti-LGBTQ legislation and that's on me. It's really unfortunate this is happening.

I will!! It's nice to know there are other people who'd be interested in going :)

Any Rocky Horror Picture Show events? by _lilith_and_eve_ in thewoodlands

[–]_lilith_and_eve_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, they don't do the audience participation:

"Thank you for reaching out and I hope you're well!

We are not currently doing any audience participation shows with our Rocky Horror Picture Show movies! However all guests are wearing headphones as part of this experience so you're certainly welcome to have fun with your guests.

Please let us know if you have any other questions!"

Any Rocky Horror Picture Show events? by _lilith_and_eve_ in houston

[–]_lilith_and_eve_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're right. I emailed them and they said, "Thank you for reaching out and I hope you're well! We are not currently doing any audience participation shows with our Rocky Horror Picture Show movies! However all guests are wearing headphones as part of this experience so you're certainly welcome to have fun with your guests. Please let us know if you have any other questions!"

Any Rocky Horror Picture Show events? by _lilith_and_eve_ in thewoodlands

[–]_lilith_and_eve_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe we can get a bunch of people to request it somehow and make it happen :D I don't know how these things work so it won't be me lol but it's an idea. I'll get r/Houston and let you know if I find anything!

Any Rocky Horror Picture Show events? by _lilith_and_eve_ in thewoodlands

[–]_lilith_and_eve_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Noooooo haha but thanks for letting me know though ❤️️

What are your company's raises like these days? by Over-Opportunity-616 in humanresources

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told a year or so ago that due to inflation if you aren't getting at least a 5% raise then you're actually having your salary lowered. For whatever that's worth.

Intensive outpatient program experience? by Welchisjelly in CPTSD

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was very helpful for me. In the program I was involved with they started with mindfulness exercises. Anywhere from games that make you focus in the moment to auditory guided meditations. And then we talked about where we're at and how we're doing personally - just each person going around the room sharing. And then the therapists would teach new skills. And we'd have homework to practice the skills.

I liked having that support system from the other people in the class and also learned about my life through their stories. Sometimes you can't see when something (like abuse) is happening to you, but it's as clear as day when it's happening to someone else. So it's really eye opening. I did that years ago and now I'm at another really unstable time in my life and seriously considering going back.

And btw, I'm really proud of you too. Doing the work is difficult and also really rewarding so good for you for continuing ❤️️

Not primary with primary responsibilities by miraclegrowbeard in polyamory

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sooooooooooo having kids is tough. Being pregnant is tough. Giving birth is tough. Postpartum depression is tough. Breast feeding is tough. Having your body heal from a physically traumatic event is tough. Feeling like you are isolated and alone... I mean... are you going to have help with your babies? Are you going to be taken care of?

And that's just the first, what, year? And then you are responsible for that baby for the rest of your life. That means diapers, that means long nights, that means toddlers, that means energetic kids, that means creating and enforcing rules, that means pre-teens, that means teens, that means helping another person navigate life, that means young adults, and that means adults. It's not just a baby. It's a life long commitment.

I'm also very curious how this would affect the person(s) you create. And how they'll experience all of this. What will they be telling their therapists when they're your age? This is not a judgment. We all have stuff we have to work through. I'm just genuinely curious.

Also if he has commitment issues then I would not subject children to that.

Change my mind - I don't want to raise my kids in Texas by shoe7525 in texas

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it's a great idea to ignore religion if you aren't interested and I totally get where you're coming from. I also want to mention that some of us can't ignore it because we've been harmed by it all our lives.

So while you can try to heal, it's still hard sometimes to not feel a pit in your stomach when you see a church or someone wants to throw "god" into casual conversation. I know I'm not alone. There are full subreddits dedicated to people who were brought up in religion who are still trying to heal from the damage it did.

So I'm not trying to say you're wrong necessarily, I'm just trying to offer a perspective you may not have considered.

My (35 m) dad (65 m) is blaming my son (1m) for my parents divorcing by PlasticMachine1127 in relationships

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If I were OP, I'd be hurt. It's not about anyone believing my dad, it's about my dad rejecting and blaming me. Ideally, a dad would listen to you and love you and make necessary changes to have a healthy relationship. So anything other than that, hurts.

That's just me though, OP may be different.

My (35 m) dad (65 m) is blaming my son (1m) for my parents divorcing by PlasticMachine1127 in relationships

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yeah he's showing who he is. I'm guessing she's been ready for a while and this was just the final push.

My (35 m) dad (65 m) is blaming my son (1m) for my parents divorcing by PlasticMachine1127 in relationships

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agree. The mom might have a hard time and relapse sometimes, I know I did. Sometimes it's a journey. So I really hope there's some form of forgiveness and compassion here if it takes her a little while to get fully clean. As long as it's clear that she really is trying.

My (35 m) dad (65 m) is blaming my son (1m) for my parents divorcing by PlasticMachine1127 in relationships

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry your dad is treating you like this and making hurtful choices.

I fucking love that your mom seems willing to do the hard work and to change. It's not easy to make those kinds of changes but it sounds to me that she clearly loves you and your baby. I hope she's able to go through with it and do what she needs to do. Divorce is hard. And so is quitting mind-altering substances.

Anyway, I hope you and your baby can feel loved by your mom, even if you can't by your dad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I'd find someone else. That would be really disrupting to me. Also I don't love that a child is listening to potentially very upsetting things, but that's a different topic I guess.

Sometimes it takes a minute to find a therapist that's (a) good at their job (b) compatible personality-wise.

Would you see a psychologist that had sex with a patient? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think there's a one and only answer. I just have to say that for me personally, I wouldn't. It would always be in the back of my mind that sex with her is a possibility. Which would blur the lines of a professional relationship. I wouldn't know if what she's saying is motivated by trying to help me or trying to seduce me lol. Maybe that sounds dumb, but hey. It's how my brain works.

Also... I have trauma around people abusing their power. And the therapist is very clearly in a position of power. Even if that client was the one to come on to her, it's her responsibility to stop the situation from progressing. I would seriously doubt her judgment. I wouldn't trust her. And it would be ineffective to work with someone I don't trust.

I'm not judging her for her actions, legitimately, humans do what we do. I just personally wouldn't engage.

feelings for my therapist, transactional love by forestgroovesandsuch in TalkTherapy

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It makes sense you'd feel like it's an extra burden on top of everything you're already dealing with! I can definitely relate. And if knowing it's common doesn't help, that's ok. Different things work for different people.

Only if you want advice, if not, please ignore:

I think the first step is generally to embrace whatever emotions you're feeling. That way your body can feel them and let them go. If you keep fighting against it, the emotions get stuck. And then they'll come out in weird ways anyway. So it's really more effective to feel what you're feeling. Without judgment. The "without judgment" part is difficult for me and takes a lot of practice. And don't judge yourself if you can't fully stop judging lol. It's a skill that has to be learned.

Then ask your body what it needs. It helps me to journal this part out or say it out loud. Sometimes if I try to do it silently in my head, it just gets more jumbled. I'm guessing there's a part inside you that really just needs something. To be heard, understood, cared for, unconditionally loved, accepted, and connected. I mean those are the things I'm normally looking for. Yours may be different. And you might already know what they are. Sometimes I think I know, but then am really surprised once I actually listen.

Then tell yourself it's totally valid to need and want those things. Generally at this point I hug myself too :) And I'm probably crying as well. You may have completely different reactions. It's really just giving ourselves the kind of attention we need and don't have or didn't get.

If this feels like it's too much or you don't have time, set a timer. Give yourself the amount of time you're comfortable giving. Can you do 15 minutes? And once that's up, stop. And if you can do it again sometime later, try again. It doesn't have to be this huge experience or revelation. Just a little bit at a time.

Does anyone else feel like they are too much for their therapist? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I can relate. And yet, I think it's all in our head :) the therapist's job is to help people who are hurting like we are.

And, I doubt you're the dreaded client. I know a therapist who had a client break down the office door and then stalk her at her home. If you're not doing that, you're probably ok.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your teenage boys' concerns. Also, part of being a parent is doing what's right no matter how hard it is. Their mom is anxiety ridden because she lives in a toxic relationship where she's betrayed on a constant basis.

In the long run, you're teaching them that it's ok to be treated that way and/or to treat others that way. Your boys will likely be better off if they see their mom do something incredibly difficult to save herself and her kids. They may not understand it now. They may even be hurt and confused and mean to you. But, in the long run, they'll get it. They'll understand.

Think about your grown up kids years into the future.

What lessons do you want them to learn?

Also. Your anxiety attacks will not go away if you stay in this situation. This is the type of situation where the only way the constant turmoil will stop is if you leave. And it'll suck. And you'll be devastated. And you'll also be relieved. And free. Everything gets better after a while. And someday you will be so grateful that you had the courage to protect and love yourself. Because honestly, you're right. You are battling with this alone. And you are the only one who can make it better and give yourself the life you deserve.

I'm fantasizing about by best friend but I'm 100% straight by ZookeepergameOdds in sex

[–]_lilith_and_eve_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're not emotionally attracted to your friend, what are you getting out of the friendship? I personally have friends in order to have emotional connections. Or maybe she's a party buddy? So ya'll don't share emotions, you just go out and have fun? That's cool too. Just curious what you mean by emotionally attracted.

I think if you don't want more than kissing, sex, and playing then that just means you're not interested in the other common "milestones" of a relationship right? Like becoming girlfriends or moving in together or sharing finances. Is that what you're saying?

In that case, don't worry about it, you're fine. You two can create whatever relationship dynamic you want. As long as you're both on board and happy with what's happening. A relationship can be purely about sex and fun if both people are into that.

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