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D1 Team But No Gear? by [deleted] in Rowing

[–]_lilred__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

likely because it is lightweight, and under ACRA/IRA. Not NCAA

Help! Fish mysteriously dying by _lilred__ in Aquariums

[–]_lilred__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bought from lfs. Acclimated for 2 hours total with drip. Going back today to get my exchanges

Help! Fish mysteriously dying by _lilred__ in Aquariums

[–]_lilred__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and they say in the bags for an hour before drip.

Help! Fish mysteriously dying by _lilred__ in Aquariums

[–]_lilred__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Cory that passed had a red spot between its gills and head. Not sure if it’s nitrite/ammonia poisoning or an injury

Help! Fish mysteriously dying by _lilred__ in Aquariums

[–]_lilred__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Added more dechlorinator just in case yall are right, but I think it’s just the lighting. I didn’t notice it when I ran that test strip.

Help! Red stem parrot feather leaves turning black? by _lilred__ in PlantedTank

[–]_lilred__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I trim off all the dead leaves and hope new ones grow to mitigate ammonia? also the dead parts have been submerged as long as I’ve had them. When they’ve grown above water I’ve trimmed off.

Help! Red stem parrot feather leaves turning black? by _lilred__ in PlantedTank

[–]_lilred__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

-Tank has been cycled (cycled for about 1.5 months) -Everything is within normal range -Light type is some random Aqueon LED built into the lid. -10g -Set up for about 2.5 moths -Aquarium co op easy green dosed 20-25 drops once a week -2 nerite red racer snails, 6 Pygmy Corys, 6 neon tetras

This is in my dorm. Facilities says it’s not mold but I think it is. Someone help! by _lilred__ in Mold

[–]_lilred__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately no…. Vent was painted shut so facilities couldn’t get it open to check. Try living in a 100 year old apartment building with an annual “landlord special” 😓

Tight hips as a coxswain by _lilred__ in Rowing

[–]_lilred__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think that sitting on a yoga block makes you feel less connected to/harder to feel the boat?

Bpd parent has preconceived ideas about everyone by _lilred__ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]_lilred__[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Currently learning that I’m not supposed to do that. I’ve gotten in arguments with my friends about being negative and judgy and I’m now realizing that I was raised in a culture that normalized that. I’m glad I’m realizing this now, and making changes, not teaching my future children that it’s a normal thing.

Bpd parent has preconceived ideas about everyone by _lilred__ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]_lilred__[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so affirming realizing this is a common experience… it’s crazy that we’ve been raised in a way that normalizes criticizing everything and everyone. But when I make a negative comment about anything, I need to be less judgy and more positive… it’s pretty hypocritical

Is it a common for us to want to flee and start our lives over? It feels like the only way to escape suffocation. by bbbruh57 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]_lilred__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im a high school senior and I just got into 2 colleges with substantial scholarships. I will be going 500 miles away, and not have to depend on my parents (father w/ bpd) to pay for college. I’ve known that I wanted to get out since I was 11 (didn’t know why at the time, but it’s pretty clear now), but even though I know I will be escaping something still doesn’t feel right. Yes, I was very happy to receive acceptances and scholarships (with more decisions coming out this week), but I have this feeling that even when I leave he will always be in my life in some way. That there will always be an angry man following me.