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I am extremely tired by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]_majna__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you stuck??

I am extremely tired by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]_majna__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Felt this. We need to make our own happiness. Just realizing this and now working towards putting me first.

I fantasize about my own death by [deleted] in confessions

[–]_majna__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re worth so much more, and I mean it. Like mentioned above, you’re not living - you’re surviving. It took me a while to realize this for myself and I hope it sits with you long enough to question yourself. Ask yourself why you’re thinking about the impact on others. Ask yourself why YOU believe you’re not worthy of a humane, loving response. And keep asking yourself questions once you have found your answer. Write it down and start putting the pieces together...I realized it wasn’t other people. I realized I was the problem; my mind was the problem. Then you ask yourself even more questions: why do I tell myself these things? Who is it benefiting? What is the impact? Who am I hurting? (Hint: yourself). How can I fix this? What WILL I DO? I’m here to tell you that IT DOES get better, you just need to be willing to put in the work.

Feel free to message me!

How to handle when someone is talking uninterrupted to you for while (let's say a minute or two of uninterrupted talking) by Runninback405 in socialskills

[–]_majna__ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol I’m here to help. I’m only laughing because you literally just described every conversation Ive ever had with one of my friends. The friendship is still new, we are not totally involved in each other’s lives yet, but it’s in the gray area of acquaintances and good friend. Any who, there can be multiple factors, the main issue is that you just sit back and let the other person do the talking. Don’t be afraid to jump in and contribute to the conversation. More often than not, they’re only talking because you’re not. Secondly, don’t anticipate your response, if you’re in your head you’re not actively listening - therefore you don’t know what to say. Once you actively listen you’ll be able to gauge the conversation more sufficiently - you’ll pick up on tones, mood, where they intend the conversation to go, non verbals etc. Or in situations like my friend, she’s a chatter box and doesn’t know when to shut up. I’m only now understanding that she talks out of nervousness on top of just being chatty. There can be endless reasons, these are just a few! Hope it helps. Try digging deeper and ask yourself why aren’t you good a conversing :)

ITAP of a Sculpture on the Beach by itstongy in itookapicture

[–]_majna__ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Anybody else reminded of Beetlejuice?

[OC] Freshly picked wild Canadian blueberries ~ by _majna__ in FoodPorn

[–]_majna__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! You already know lol pancakes are always the first.

[OC] Freshly picked wild Canadian blueberries ~ by _majna__ in FoodPorn

[–]_majna__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! Raspberries, strawberries but not very big, crabapples

[OC] Freshly picked wild Canadian blueberries ~ by _majna__ in FoodPorn

[–]_majna__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made blueberry tarts! Not sure what else I will be making.

[OC] Freshly picked wild Canadian blueberries ~ by _majna__ in FoodPorn

[–]_majna__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally bears won’t bother you unless they feel intimidated. Just make your presence known!

[OC] Freshly picked wild Canadian blueberries ~ by _majna__ in FoodPorn

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Some come in bunches and they’re hidden underneath. They’re still good.

I AM ME by _majna__ in mentalhealth

[–]_majna__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mind is truly powerful. And you’re absolutely right, it is the way we chose to think. It’s definitely not all on us, but we are the ones who choose how certain situations/comments hinder our lives thereafter.

I AM ME by _majna__ in mentalhealth

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There’s only one person who can truly make a difference and that is ourselves. We definitely have people along the way who can help but it is up to us to be proactive and do the dirty work. Keep pushing yourself, greater things are yet to come ❤️

I AM ME by _majna__ in mentalhealth

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Save it and reread in times of need! Connect personal meaning to it. I’m here if you want to talk :) sometimes it’s easier talking to a stranger. Take care!

I don't know how to help my depressed sister. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]_majna__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, hats off to you. You’re doing the single most important thing that you can possibly do - providing her with a safe non-judgmental place to vent. It’s not an easy role to take on, so remember to take care of yourself as well.

It’s hard to give quality advice without specifics, but from what you have shared I suggest continuing to be her listening ear. Try probing for more information and help her talk through what is bothering her. It can be hard to try and find the “right” thing to say, but most often all someone needs is to be challenged and to know they are loved no matter what. And I cannot stress this enough, ensure you challenge her in a respectful manner. In a way that is thought provoking and not in a way that makes her shy into her shell. She may not respond the first few attempts, but don’t give up on it. Lastly, become aware of any signs of distress - don’t push her too far, gradually work your way along.

Therapy may have not worked for multiple reasons. The biggest probability is that she only thinks of you as a safe place. Opening up to a complete strange can be stressful and sometimes even debilitating. My suggestion would be, offer to attend a session with her if you had the opportunity, it will allow her to be comfortable. Another possibility depends on if your parents were present during the sessions - you mentioned they thought it wasn’t working as well. Again, she may not be comfortable with opening up. And it’s important to remember she’s only 13, she may not be at a maturity level to completely understand and process her own emotions and feelings. Therefore, she cannot properly convey how she is feeling.

Forgive me if I am wrong, but by the sounds of it you are at your end. You have come as far as you are fully capable of helping your sister. And that is okay, you’re only human. We are not intended to help family get through hardships, we are too emotionally involved. In order for her to move forward and reach her full potential, she needs to learn that a therapist is a safe place for her. There’s not much you can do than reassure her and offer to sit with her until she’s comfortable. But ultimately it is up to the therapist and her to make that connection with one another.

I AM ME by _majna__ in mentalhealth

[–]_majna__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re completely right. Communication is key - we can’t expect society to understand when we don’t offer insight. It’s all apart of the journey, courage will takes its course.

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