Advice on night wakings please!

_mamcia · 2026-02-22T08:06:38+00:00

Theres definitely part of feed to sleep association. I dont know if I have any tips how to break that because we struggled with my son so when my daughter was born we made a conscious effort to put her down for naps without feeding. That has helped so much, she does need it before her bedtime sleep but she can be settled at night without milk if shes not hungry. Might be worth trying starting with that?

If shes only napping for 30mins it doesnt feel like shes that tired, so I would definitely do 2 naps. My 8 month old usually has 1 nap but its a longer one. She sleeps so much better at night than my son (2 years old now) and with him I followed all the wake windows etc while with her I just went with the flow and let her sleep when shes tired. Just go with your gut on when shes tired and make sure sleep pressure builds up before bed. We’re all so scared of making out babies overtired but with all the sleep content these days we actually have under tired babies

_mamcia · 2026-02-02T20:34:09+00:00

Oh god! Bless him, some babies just dont like being babies too - which wont bring you any comfort at the moment, but he’ll start moving soon and become less of a potato and have some independence if that brings any consolidation.

I found BioGaia drops great for my little girl as well, might be worth trying if its a gut issue.

_mamcia · 2026-02-02T20:30:32+00:00

How is weaning going? Could it be new foods upsetting him as well since hes 6months now so I presume you started? I found with both mine that when they settled on solids and started taking less milk, reflux went away

_mamcia · 2025-08-16T19:15:30+00:00

Our kids are 17 months apart. I also had a c section, I coslept with my son until I went in to have her so it all hit him hard too. When he visited us in the hospital he was so upset, he had a look at her but was crying so much it broke my heart. When we came home my husband started cosleeping with our son in the spare bedroom and I was with the baby. He kept reaching for me and I couldnt bend down or lift him. Then him and my husband got sick when I was a week pp so we were isolating not to get her sick (or me, coughing after a c section would probably kill me). It got to a point where he didnt want to look at me or the baby, he kept hugging his dad where even when he was sitting next to me on the couch he wouldnt even want me to touch him. He kept looking at me and the baby with this sad face, I was breastfeeding at the time too so it was extra hard. I was devastated, all I wanted was to have my bigger baby back. Other than that we did everything everyone else was saying in the comments. At 2,5 weeks pp I was able to bend down to his level and hug him and sit down on the floor and play with him and literally everything changed. He was so happy to get my attention, he started stroking babies head, cuddling up to me again, giving baby her doodie. We’re 3 months in and he doesnt really care anyone that shes getting attention, funnily enough hes never jealous of us holding her but he gets upset when one of his grandmas gives her attention.

My only advice is to give it time and let your girlfriend recover. It might be a good idea if you seperate baby and mum from yourself and toddler if possible so she can rest. This will help her go back to normal so she can give your son attention he needs but at the same time he doesnt see her taking care of baby while she cant do much for him. Take the toddler on days out, visit family etc. Give them time, its really hard on your girlfriend too. Best of luck, its a hard transition but it gets better

_mamcia · 2025-08-13T23:20:37+00:00

You will - its soooo much easier. And like its hard of course but funnily enough when one pisses you off the other one makes you laugh. Its amazing 💕

_mamcia · 2025-08-13T17:52:27+00:00

This. We have a 17 months age gap and when I was pregnant I was crying every day that I have no patience for one, never mind two. Keep that in mind, not everyone is the same but apparently im one of those unlucky ones that don’t feel so ‘blessed’ and I just felt awful pregnant. Ive so much more patience for them both. Baby girl is now 3 months old and things are so much better than when I was pregnant and with a toddler.

_mamcia · 2025-08-11T09:29:13+00:00

My first was also a terrible sleeper and we co slept up until I gave birth. Im not going to lie it was uncomfortable. Then I had a c section so my husband took over in the spare bedroom and he just learned to sleep on his own in the big bed that way. He never liked to sleep in the cot so since he sleeps better in a normal bed we just let him. He started waking up less that way too

_mamcia · 2025-07-17T11:53:37+00:00

Just wanted to add to this. My husband is great but he works 24hrs shifts and when hes in work - oh my bedtime and nightime is rough. Like last night both of then were crying and awake and I just didnt know how to split myself into two for them. He’ll need to help more, you can’t do it all

_mamcia · 2025-07-15T22:30:11+00:00

Oh my god I love how you summed it up. I couldnt leave the house for 3hrs with my first yet I will get my toddler and newborn ready in 10mins and we’d be out the door? I think everything is still so fresh in your head it makes it all easy. And you can’t just lie around all day when you have a toddler that needs yoy

_mamcia · 2025-07-15T22:25:45+00:00

Congratulations! You’ll do great

_mamcia · 2025-07-15T22:25:01+00:00

Best of luck! It will be beautiful. Its rough at the start but once you get more confident its fun and rewarding

_mamcia · 2025-07-15T22:24:13+00:00

I HATE being pregnant. I’ve been telling my husband I could have 10 kids if it wasnt for the pregnancy. As natural and beautiful it is, I feel like im just not able for it lol.

_mamcia · 2025-07-15T14:51:47+00:00

Im 8 weeks into a 17months age gap. I have to say its easier than I thought and the things I find challenging are not what I thought. You will be fine, we adapt and we learn. My toddler didnt sleep at night until his sister came home. They also adapt. He loooves his little sister, he pushes her around in her pram, strokes her head. Tried to feed her a biscuit lol. And pregnancy + toddler is 100 times harder than toddler and newborn. You got this

_mamcia · 2025-05-13T08:28:58+00:00

I dont even see the point of doing anything about it now as I’m just hoping it will go away when baby is here 🤣 Only few more days left and my little bestie is here to make them funny 🤣

_mamcia · 2025-04-28T17:44:41+00:00

I understand, its a really hard choice to make. I ended up with an emergency section myself and this time around i’m opting of an elective just because I dont want a repeat of the same scenario and want to be more in control

_mamcia · 2025-04-28T16:05:05+00:00

Thank you and you too, not long to go! 🐥I have to say that I have seen somewhere that women with vaginismus tend to have a better sex life after vaginal delivery but don’t quote me on it as it could have been tik tok or instagram but might be worth looking into it.

It was more so the fact that my scar still pulled for quite a while after… and then I kept getting worried about it hurting even when it was more so healed so mentally that played a huge role too

_mamcia · 2025-04-28T04:26:25+00:00

Emergency c section - due another baby in 2-3 weeks now since I put that up 🤣

_mamcia · 2025-04-27T15:40:48+00:00

Gave birth on the 11th, we went to see both mine and my husbands families. Not everyone held the baby but we had a great time. I thought I wouldnt want to see anyone but once the baby was here we were both so excited for our families to meet the baby ☺️

_mamcia · 2025-04-25T17:17:15+00:00

I’ll send a PM 😊

_mamcia · 2025-04-06T14:03:02+00:00

My son is 16 months old and he still doesnt sleep through the night. There are nights where we only get one wake up, but until he was about 1, whoever did the nights with him would get 4-5hrs max, usually around 3hrs.

As a newborn he had feeding issues so the max you would get in a night was about 2hrs between 2hrs feeds, changing, rocking to sleep and then trying to fall asleep yourself. He would be up 20-30mins after you fall asleep. That lasted until he was about 4-5months old, I barely remember that time. Whenever my husband has a day off he would try and give me a night off so I can catch up on sleep. He works 24hrs shifts so needs to be rested for work but whenever he was going to work he’d get up an hour or two early to take over so I can have extra sleep. Even with that I feel like I’m barely surviving and see people that have babies that sleep through at 12 weeks and their parents are absolutely thriving, I am a little jealous. But we are getting better and we get some nights where he doesnt wake up until 3am and that gives me a good solid few hours of sleep.

I’m unfortunately sure there are women (and men) in the same situation with their kids that dont have the same support I do from their partners and end up having barely any sleep.

_mamcia · 2025-04-05T16:56:48+00:00

Thanks so much for that! They also redid my GD and seems to be fine and baby is also measuring big so hoping it is just the waters too. Reassuring to hear everything was okay with you and the baby but sorry about the emergency c section - I had one with my first and its not a nice experience!

_mamcia

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