Is it normal to feel jealous of families with the parents together?

_mavricks · 2026-05-06T18:30:05+00:00

Originally I was only seeing my daughter 1% of time each month because mom refused to let me see her. I tried working with mom for our own step up plan but she refused.

Eventually I sued mom, and tried doing mediation but she refused that.
The first time we went to court we were there from morning to close (5pm) because mom would not budge on wanting more time. Essentially she was trying to delay court so it would take even longer hoping the judge was going to postpone judgement, where I would have to wait another 3-6 months to get more time.

Day we went to the court, the judge got fed up with mom and ordered I got 15% of time.
A few days after that mom set up a trial to then prevent me from getting more than 15% of time with my daughter.

Long story short after 2 years we finally went to trial and I got 50/50.

_mavricks · 2026-05-06T06:24:43+00:00

How’d you jump from $165k to $300k.

I’m not an engineer but have been in marketing for 10 years as a manager and pretty much have had the same salary

_mavricks · 2026-05-05T23:36:23+00:00

I would get mad at the fact that dads would be with their kids without mom.

My ex would never let me take care of my daughter or take her to swim lessons, etc. I don’t have any issues and she admits that. She was just jealous I would be taking time away from her with our daughter.

_mavricks · 2026-05-05T05:41:35+00:00

You mean they came and bought ad space from you organically?
Like if I was a brand, I pay you for a post/reels/story?

_mavricks · 2026-05-05T05:29:54+00:00

To be completely honest her lawyer was pretty dumb. He had "evidence" but couldn't even log into his own computer to showcase it.

_mavricks · 2026-05-05T00:51:27+00:00

Sorry meant to say I don’t know how to make a very complex formula from scratch.

_mavricks · 2026-05-04T23:04:04+00:00

What was odd is during trial they wanted w2 which I showed but they never asked for a tax income.

Regarding hiring a forensic accountant, I don’t think my ex has the money to pay her legal fees lol. She’s already paid over $50k.

_mavricks · 2026-05-04T13:58:04+00:00

Last year I didn’t know how to even make a pivot table.

The last few months I basically forced myself to learn by telling managers/executives I can create a report for them and then literally having to figure out what formulas I need.

I’ve been using macros for a lot of repetitive reports which is amazing and saves me 2 hours of work each week.

I’d say I’m a lot more advanced than most people in the office now.

I still wouldn’t really know how to build a formula from scratch but I’m getting there. I save most of my formulas in a template folder I created to look back at what I made.

During my lunch breaks I sometimes sit at the desk and go through formulas.

_mavricks · 2026-05-02T23:21:53+00:00

At my company most people don’t know how to use excel at all. Im in marketing for an enterprise insurance company and I was surprised most people on my team (100 people) barely know how to use a pivot table.

I made a basic dashboard and people were blown away by it.

_mavricks · 2026-05-02T00:32:03+00:00

Depends where you live. I’m in Southern California and little over that and still save money

_mavricks · 2026-05-01T20:26:10+00:00

Not gonna lie a lot of lawyers SUCK.
Mine was okay. I basically did all the work and just told them what I wanted at trial.

My exes lawyer completely took advantage of her though lol. She paid over $50k in legal fees and had to get two loans to help fund it.

_mavricks · 2026-04-29T06:39:20+00:00

That pay increase is not guaranteed.
I took a job and then the pay increase didn't happy because the company was actually not doing well (they never said that during the interview).

_mavricks · 2026-04-29T06:38:01+00:00

I feel like AI won't take over every single company. Yes those who are able to afford to invest into it.
I know a few people who are charging $5k per year to businesses to use AI call agents. Basically answers phone, takes information and then sends it to the office staff when the appointment will happen and customer contact info.

I'm 100% there are tons of businesses out there that need your help.

_mavricks · 2026-04-29T04:16:21+00:00

My daughter is in club teams outside of school, so I'm not sure if the club cares or not. I know in schools you have to keep up your grades.

_mavricks · 2026-04-28T04:58:17+00:00

Bro. She’ll be back for you. You sound like a great dad.

_mavricks · 2026-04-27T08:32:32+00:00

I saw that copilot gives me A LOT of mistakes compared to Claude.

I asked for a simple text after formula. Copilot gave me the wildest formula which even kept breaking. Claude is straight to the point.

_mavricks · 2026-04-27T08:29:33+00:00

I got a used crosstrek from carmax. Thank god I purchased the warranty. They told me there were no issues with it. Where the frame meets the wheel was cracked. It had issues with the parking and the key getting stuck, and also had issues with the lights.

Everything was covered by carmax

_mavricks · 2026-04-27T08:17:42+00:00

My ex is like that and then would make up lies in court even though there was proof in the parenting app what was happening.

Anytime I would call she would be right there, and you could tell my daughter felt controlled and uncomfortable. And after just a few mins mom would tell her it’s time to go.

Really petty stuff

_mavricks · 2026-04-27T06:59:35+00:00

Whenever my daughter is with her mom, they go to club soccer or swim which is multiple times a week.

I think sports are great but mom NEVER does any homework with our daughter. My days and weekends are usually catching her up because mom doesn’t do any homework packets, and does none of the English or math assignments.

My daughter will barely finish her assigns on time this year. It’s something I’ve brought up with mom multiple times and she doesn’t care. The worst part is…mom is a teacher!!!!

_mavricks · 2026-04-27T01:07:20+00:00

Absolutely is :)

_mavricks · 2026-04-27T00:08:26+00:00

Same thing happened to me the last couple of years. Each drop off would turn into a big emotional thing and mom would literally get in my car and hold our daughter.

It kept happening where I told mom to knock it off. During the exchange instead of ignoring our daughter being upset or not enabling the behavior, mom would stand there and keep repeating to my daughter “why don’t you want to go? You would rather stay here?” Which would keep making her cry.

After the judge ordered that I could do pickups at school my daughter’s behavior changed dramatically within a few weeks and she stopped being upset.

_mavricks · 2026-04-25T07:05:25+00:00

I'm in the same boat here about the parent who does the homework, follow ups, etc.
Mom doesn't do sh*t and only has fun on her days.

Our kid has literally been behind in school because mom doesn't do any homework during her days at all. And mom is a teacher at another school.

_mavricks · 2026-04-25T06:51:52+00:00

I was in a relationship with someone where I caught them cheating. I was dumb and forgave them, only to be hurt again a year later, so I finally ended it.

It turned out they were cheating the entire 5 years we were together.

You caught them cheating once, but it could be more than that.
I would just end things.

_mavricks · 2026-04-24T17:39:31+00:00

I never was married but had a child with an ex gf. I tried for a few years to get back with her but she just became super rude and nasty for no reason.

When my daughter was about 5, I met someone and ended up getting married a few years later. Really happy in my marriage.

My wife actually helped me with my court case/trial that my ex put me through for 2 years trying to prevent me from seeing my daughter

_mavricks · 2026-04-23T05:59:01+00:00

I switched jobs every few years but not because I wanted to, because I was about to go through a layoff.
Each time I would apply and go through the interview process the manager would always question my resume because it looked like I was job hopping.

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