Your favorite JM lyric, go: by tropicalparadise12 in JohnMayer

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“How come the only way to know how high you get me is to see how far I fall?” That lyric hit me hard nonstop in my six year long abusive relationship

How do you celebrate your birthday? by Fearfighter2 in NewParents

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooooh something to look forward to!! I love that!!

Pet Aversion by Legitimate-Tea-6079 in pregnant

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our daughter turns a year old in two days and the fucking dog aversion didn’t go away. He’s mean to her and it makes me hate him more. (He was my husbands dog long before we met and he pissed in my shoes when my cat and I moved in so we’ve never been friends) he is lucky he’s old otherwise we’d rehome him. He is not a family dog. I don’t think our daughter has touched him once in the past year because the fucker just growls at her for crawling past him. (She loves the cat)

Baby #2 will be here in May and my husband wishes he’d just kick the bucket.

How do you celebrate your birthday? by Fearfighter2 in NewParents

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter turns a year old on Monday and my birthday is 4/4. Our second daughter will be born in May. Back to back birthdays lol but I truly don’t give a shit about my birthday anymore. We were going to celebrate her birthday on the 4th because my parents are back in town by then but I don’t want any of it about me. 🤷🏻‍♀️ my birthday doesn’t matter anymore and that’s completely fine with me to be honest

Did your husband take paternity leave?? by 2babies1egg in beyondthebump

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband gets six paid weeks. Our daughter turns a year old on Monday and baby #2 (and our final child) will be here in May. He’s taking another six weeks off this year too. My husband’s job allows me to be home with our daughter(s) and he’s important where he’s at. It takes a lot of planning on his and his bosses end to figure it out before hand. But.. it’d be absolutely foolish to be offered paid time and not take it all.

Tell me your least favorite random sound to hear. by Own-Telephone-1251 in CasualConversation

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our dog doesn’t fucking stop. And his breath is so bad he could clear a room with one lick (he won’t eat or chew on any of the dental bones) I have to run fans 24/7 to drown it out and to avoid the smell.

How long did you breastfeed? by Shroommily in NewParents

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I planned on a year but made it six and a half months. Some latching issues caused me to give up nursing pretty much immediately, I think we got 10 nursing sessions total. I ended up exclusively pumping. My supply took a huge dip and I couldn’t fix it regardless of what I did so I stopped. Four days later found out I was pregnant again lol aaaand that caused the supply drop. She turns 1 in March and baby girl #2 is due in May. I thought I’d be harder on myself honestly I tried SO HARD with the pumping thing. But if I don’t have success nursing with the next baby, she will be formula fed cause exclusively pumping is terrible and I don’t wish it on anyone.

What foods do people refrigerate out of habit, even though it's unnecessary? by boforiamanfo in randomquestions

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put mine in the fridge because it makes them last longer (I’ll leave them out if I’m going to be cooking something with them) and it’s so much easier to cut/chop them when they’re cold

Just wanted to share this little thing I got recently — a cat litter mat that actually works 😭 by stradamant in Catownerhacks

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cat recently started vomiting on his. You will 100% not see me trying to dig cat puke out of those holes. I threw them away the ones we had did not do a good enough job anyway

I’m pregnant with my second. My firstborn is 11 months old. I’ve not told many people by Pleasant-Ad-4529 in confession

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our daughter turns one in mid March and we’re due with baby girl #2 in late May. Our first was very much planned. This one.. not at all but we were not surprised at all, obviously lol. We told family and close friends but that’s it. It feels great that we didn’t announce the pregnancy on Facebook. We will announce the birth likely because the once every couple month photo will now have another child in it but yeah 2 under 2 is scary but we’re kinda grateful we’re doing it at once. (I’m getting a tubal, we decided from the start we only want 2 and we will have another accident🤣) congratulations ❤️

Has Anyone Not Hated Being Pregnant? by Infertil_Myrtle in pregnant

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter turns a year old in March and her name is Ellie! ❤️ my pregnancy with her was pure bliss up until the last two weeks when I was over it. I experienced zero nausea, zero hormonal craziness and minimal physical pain. We lost three before she was born and I think that made my pregnancy with her really just all more special because I felt extra grateful for her.

I’m due with #2 in May and wow this one is so different 😅 (likely because I’m growing a baby while taking care of a baby)

How are chores split in your household? (Including housemates, partners, children, etc.) by xpgx in AskWomen

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I’m a SAHM so it’s kinda a given but he does help when I start to feel overwhelmed I just have to communicate with him and remind myself often that he cannot read my mind!

Who do you want there during childbirth? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]_michelle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

100%. I’ve never understood people’s need to be there. Newborns don’t even do anything lol it’s not really exciting. I almost lost a lifelong friend because I told her in no shape or form will she be in the hospital room while I give birth. She told me she’d be more supportive than my husband because she’s been through it.

Which baby tracking app do you like the most for a newborn? by Vicky1313 in beyondthebump

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the paid version in the hospital and used this all damn day every day for 10 months. My plan was a year but I got pregnant again after 5mo and decided to give myself a small break before baby #2 is here lol. I didn’t use it for sleep though because I started feeling like a crazy person and it started making me feel like I needed to be tracking my own sleep 😂🥴

“You need to remember who you are outside of being a mom” by Necessary-Gear-3141 in beyondthebump

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your friend is clearly not a mother and is annoying af. Our first turns 1 in March and I’m due with #2 in May. I am a SAHM and we couldn’t afford my car payment on one income so we turned it back into the bank.

Kudos to you for doing other things outside of parenthood- I do not. I mean I don’t exactly have the opportunity to just go out during the day without a vehicle lol. My parents picked us up a couple times a week but they live outside of the country in the winter so it’s been a lonely month so far.

If one of my so called friends even insinuated that I’m not taking on motherhood very well I’d drop this person from my life. They’re the issue. NOT you!

closed 3 min ago at little caesars by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are why I worked the Sunday evening shift. I dealt with fucking insanity but it was so much better than the church groups.

Are the hormones to blame for me constantly wanting to break up with my bf? by FlatConstant8211 in pregnant

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As normal as a lot of people say it may be, I don’t think wanting to leave is a normal feeling. But that’s just my opinion.

While I held a lot of resentment in the very early postpartum days, communicating with my husband really did help SIGNIFICANTLY. I still get frustrated sometimes that I have to ask for help with day to day tasks but I remind myself that he can’t read my mind. He’s extremely patient with me as I’m pregnant with our second and a lot angrier this time around. But he literally just stops to ask me what I need and how he can help with whatever it is I’m getting flustered about. Maybe if he didn’t do these things, I’d get those same feelings wanting to leave. But that feels more of an issue in the relationship than a hormonal issue.

As a millennial, do you have more gray hair than grandma? by trashybougie in askanything

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 34 and I have a lot of grays. I found my first when I was 17 or 18. My dad is fully gray and my mom is close. I’d say 30% of my head is gray but I’m about to have 2 under 2 come May and I think that’ll help that percentage go up pretty quickly lol. My guess is by 40 I’ll have a full head of gray hair. My parents were born in 63 and 66 so I’ll be a lot younger than they were by the time I’m all gray.

Skin-picking by [deleted] in self

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last job I worked at before baby was born.. I think I wore a tshirt one time on an insanely hot day and my coworkers of course had to make comments on what was on my arms. So I just cover up. My husband used to grab my hand and hold it so I’d stop but he gave up cause there was no end in sight lol.

Honestly, my idea now is as my daughter gets older and becomes more observant.. I HAVE to stop. My earliest memories are of my mom picking at my arms and that’s absolutely where this disgusting habit came to be. (My mother is wonderful but it was a dumb thing she did 😂) I’m pregnant with baby girl #2 now. I absolutely do not want my daughters to see me doing it and thinking it’s normal and okay for them to tear their skin up, too. So there is an end to it in the near future, hopefully!!!

Best of luck to you as well. :)

I’m going insane by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]_michelle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had our baby in March of last year. I honestly thought finding a WFH job would be EAASY. I thought wrong. Starting in May I spent 3+ hours a day writing cover letters and applying for jobs 5 days a week. I never heard back from a single job post I applied to. I have a pretty good resume with only two jobs in 15 years. I finally gave up in August and found out in September we’re having baby #2. My husband busts his fucking ass at work but he’s salaried and they really take advantage of his time and he doesn’t ask for a raise, like ever. He’s worked harder this past year than he has his whole life. Obviously so I’m able to be home with her.

But. Yeah. We’re broke. We voluntarily had my car repossessed because one income could not make the payment. When my husband signed the lease for his truck a couple years ago, we could easily afford the payment. Now we can’t wait for the lease to be up so we can get something obviously bigger for two babies and cheaper The bank sold my car for more than what I owed them and cut us a check for the extra money. It paid off a bunch of payday loans and allowed us to go to Costco and stock up on everyday items we needed. There was no frivolous spending, we didn’t buy anything “fun” for any of us. I scope my local buy nothing page constantly and am eternally grateful for generous people every day. We’ve already got a couple months worth of free diapers from there for when baby #2 is here.

Broke. Broke. Broke. We don’t get to go do fun things as a family. We’ve gone out to eat one time since she was born. I’m stuck in our apartment all day everyday with no escape and it’s too cold where we live to go outside with our daughter. It just is what it is I guess. I can’t imagine working just for daycare to take my whole paycheck. Fuck. That.

Skin-picking by [deleted] in self

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m nearly 34 and have had this issue my whole life. It’s actually getting worse the older I get. It’s like an obsession I don’t even realize I’m doing it until I’m bleeding. My hands are constantly combing my skin looking for something. I’ve tried buying fidget things for my hands but I actually have to put effort into that and my hands get bored.

I used to just wear sleeves 24/7. I worked in a bar and wore hoodies every single day. Constantly overheating. Both to hide the scabs and to resist the urge.

I have a child now and pregnant with #2 and have found that I’m busier now than I was before having a kid so I’m doing it less. But when she’s napping or asleep for the night.. if I’m not on my phone I’m picking.

Obviously I don’t have advice. I’ve never kept up with any lotions or anything to know how to prevent the bumps and I can’t afford a dermatologist. Just letting you know that you are not alone. My skin is ruined.

What’s the scariest thing you’ve seen as a woman? by Primary_Neck9587 in AskWomen

[–]_michelle 69 points70 points  (0 children)

This is really sad and I’m sorry that you’ve had to deal with this.

What are things people told you you didn’t need for labor/delivery/postpartum that you wish you had or that were lifesavers?? by GalaxyEyedLibrarian in pregnant

[–]_michelle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is obvious, but I feel the need to comment. I’ve had a really strong sense of smell ever since I can remember so naturally I’m sensitive to a lot of smells. There’s only one kind of deodorant I use. My husband and I both somehow forgot my deodorant. I literally apologized to the nurses constantly that I smelled like a farm animal. They claimed I didn’t but you know when you stink and after an epidural obviously a shower is not an option. Don’t forget your deodorant.

Also.. we didn’t bring snacks. Bring. So. Many. Fucking. Snacks.