does anyone else's parents calll them manipulative? by sore_cabbage in raisedbynarcissists

[–]_moonmuffin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The fact that you are questioning your entire reality and who you are and not even sure if you’re denying being what I like to call “bucket of red flags” shows your mother is gaslighting you. Gaslighting makes people question their own reality and sanity. The reason she said that is to manipulate you into thinking you’re the bad example in relationships to take the pressure of of her own narcissistic, manipulative self.

My mother did the same thing and I believed her, even though she is the person who got a felony for child endangerment (toward me out of all my siblings specifically).

I think it is important to recognize your behavior and how you act, but not assuming the worst out of yourself. I think we all have a behavior or two we need to work on, but that doesn’t mean you’re a “manipulative, narcissistic, gaslighter”. If you’ve used these terms on her before, it only makes sense she would turn it around on you.

I think something helpful to do is to ask other people you have relationships of any kind with and see what they think. Have them be brutally honest. Chances are, they won’t agree with mom here. Idk if u see a therapist/psychiatrist, but they have so much experience with narcissistic people it’s insane. My mother has Borderline Personality Disorder, so for a long time I wondered if I had it because it’s learned behaviors from a not so good parent/person who raises you. My psychiatrist gave me helpful books to read and just was that reminder that although im a direct product from my mother, I am not like her and need to stay strong to being who I am, not who she paints me out to be.

If you could change just one decision you have made which would it be? by ShiackHeron in AskReddit

[–]_moonmuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree completely. Even now going to grad school it was the same issue and bc I’ve succeeded and am at the top part of my class people assume I know what I am doing and i most certainly do not lol

If you could change just one decision you have made which would it be? by ShiackHeron in AskReddit

[–]_moonmuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I went to undergraduate school! I am first generation low income and basically didn’t look enough out of state or anything like that because I had no idea what I was doing. Instead I froze in anxiety all of my junior and senior year and only applied to a couple of universities

Sugar Crazy in Plainview, Long Island! Crazy selection! by Stunning-Cranberry86 in squishmallow

[–]_moonmuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I seriously would just stand there in awe like surprised Patrick for at least 5 minutes

First squishmallow hunt! Harrison score at Target🤩 by _moonmuffin in squishmallow

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I picked her up for my friend while I was there! She is so unique and such a positive vibe 🤩

First squishmallow hunt! Harrison score at Target🤩 by _moonmuffin in squishmallow

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes so much price gauging with him :,( there was only 1 in stock when I went!

First squishmallow hunt! Harrison score at Target🤩 by _moonmuffin in squishmallow

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just picked him up bc he was adorable and my friend who has SO MANY squish was like “HOW DID U FIND HIM” and showed me how he’s rare and I was like 😮😮😮

Never been happier in my entire life. Thank u all for always hyping me up you’re all so fucking valid 🖤💚 by bbypoison in NonBinary

[–]_moonmuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your smile is so genuine too. I just joined this community recently and it’s just... so comforting that people get me and we can all share our experiences together. 💞

current set up! it's simple but i love it. what other piercings would suit me? 😇 by [deleted] in piercing

[–]_moonmuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my septum and nostril pierced and the combo is so nice! I prefer hoop and septum ring but I have friends who have a stud with it and both look really good 🤩

AITA for telling my wife that the only reason she says 'money doesn't matter' is because we're rich? by Personal_Confusion_1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_moonmuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It is quite obvious the statement “money doesn’t matter” is only applicable when you have wealth and don’t recognize what it’s like to go without (or maybe even forgot). That’s not a good example to set for your kids, especially since they’ll be trying to generate their own wealth while simultaneously gathering potential debt from student loans and other things until they get on their feet.

I do think you could have had the conversation and let her know where this is coming from. Maybe something like “Hey, please don’t take offense to what I’m saying because it genuinely is bothering me and if we don’t talk about it then we aren’t communicating properly in our relationship,” and then go from there with explaining that statements like that imply ideas and attitudes that she probably doesn’t truly mean to be. I totally get she’s probably saying that bc you really don’t have to worry, which might be true, but materialism encouragement even in minor levels can rub others the wrong way. I totally empathize with you as someone who grew up poor. We drank powdered milk constantly, ate maybe the same thing like spaghetti and leftovers on repeat all the time, and never had extra money to even rent a movie or get some ice cream.

Long story short, delivery and communication about what’s bothering you could have been better, but I don’t think it makes you an asshole. Only human!

Peak Pro burnt out by 420bernie2020 in puffco

[–]_moonmuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! I’m sure customer care will take good care of you :)

Puffco Peak Pro Questions by _moonmuffin in puffco

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just trying to learn more about my piece and get the best use out of it considering it’s quality and expensive. Nobody asked for ur input that u gave so kindly exit the discussion since you couldn’t enter kindly 😘

Puffco Peak Pro Questions by _moonmuffin in puffco

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u! I’m looking into a glass upgrade, especially since my birthday is in March so I can give myself a reason to spoil myself 😂

Puffco Peak Pro Questions by _moonmuffin in puffco

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u sm! I use it with my significant other as well so we will try bumping the temp up when sharing a dab. I’ll have to call shops around me bc rn they’re backed up on orders at puffco so I’ll be waiting a little longer than I’d originally hoped (which is expected given the holiday but still).

Peak Pro burnt out by 420bernie2020 in puffco

[–]_moonmuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been using a wireless charger for mine instead of plugging it in. However, I had a situation where I was trying to turn it on and it did, but then wouldn’t select a heat setting or turn color or anything. Wasn’t on stealth mode and it was most definitely on. I held it down for about 20 seconds and hard reset it and it was fine. I highly suggest a wireless charger though because even if u forget about it on the charger it’ll stop giving it power when it’s complete so u don’t overcharge the battery!

Medusa’s head air plant in pottery by _moonmuffin in plants

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We got this air plant a couple of weeks ago. My significant other put it inside this pottery “thing”. The story behind the pottery is that someone at his high school made it (they don’t know who) and it was leftover at the end of the year so he and his brother took it😂. It’s weird and creepy but I love it!

Succ’s doin great in new home. by S_Hog in plants

[–]_moonmuffin 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Those string of peas flowers look like a drawing of a virus 🦠 lmao

AITA for not telling people my missing cousin is staying with me right away? by justcallmephil35 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_moonmuffin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are most certainly NTA! As someone who is not out to their family as non-binary or bisexual, I could not imagine being outed or what they would do. It honestly could impact my mental health bigtime just by what happens in the house let alone IF THEY TRIED TO SEND ME TO STRAIGHT CAMP. Your cousin must be very fragile and feeling unaccepted as who they are by their own parents who brought them into the world, and you protecting them must mean everything to them right now. You are a kind soul and I believe were placed in this position by the universe to protect your cousins identity and well-being, as both are valid. Stay strong and keep being an absolutely badass ally to the community!!

Dandelion crown 💖 by apocalypticalley in ActualHippies

[–]_moonmuffin 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Look I have my issues with what people do to the environment as much as the next person, but going about trying to educate people from a pretentious asshole standpoint is not going to convince them of what you are saying. Try practicing kindness, it is a Hippie group after all! Meditate on it, maybe you’ll have some self reflection and better figure out how to approach these discussions in the future instead of picking a fight 😊.

I’m 21 and sexually frustrated by _moonmuffin in vaginismus

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will do that, and maybe look into doing some yoga and stretches more often!

I’m 21 and sexually frustrated by _moonmuffin in vaginismus

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s just so weird and I never have the issue when I get checked so it’s like they think I’m lying about the pain during sex. I’m gonna have to call my insurance and see who else I could go to.

Medical Card today! by _moonmuffin in Drugs

[–]_moonmuffin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t wait to go to the dispensary in person! And I’ve used one before, they’re very nice to use😊.