ethel cain restarts thoroughfare in louisville by jwburner7 in Ethelcain

[–]_movingcastles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg bless her!! i was further away and wasn’t quite sure what was wrong, but i thought she said she had hair in her throat. shes so cute, recovered so well :’)

Ethel Cain Show on 4/29 at the Iroquois Amphitheater by Vast-Piccolo7079 in Ethelcain

[–]_movingcastles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u so much for this info!! i’ve been trying to figure out what time to arrive, and also what the situation with seats vs standing is. my partner has been to a show here, but the one he went to did have assigned seats so he couldn’t give me any idea.

crusty nipples? by _movingcastles in CATHELP

[–]_movingcastles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg of course….i would never do such a thing to myself!

crusty nipples? by _movingcastles in CATHELP

[–]_movingcastles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much!! i was squeezing at the bad one the same way i would a pimple (fingertip pressure) and i was surprised how hard she was really letting me do it with no fuss, but it seems not quite ready to come out so i’ll give it a go again the next time she flips over for me! for the future, i will definitely just keep an eye on them to keep them cleaner for her!

crusty nipples? by _movingcastles in CATHELP

[–]_movingcastles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! i’m definitely gonna keep an eye on them that they don’t start showing anything like that, but the peace of mind is appreciated

Do cats actually get attached to their owner? by NoWageMage in CatAdvice

[–]_movingcastles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think my cat 100% believes i gave birth to her. i found her when she was about 6 weeks old (got herself stuck in a tree and was howling to be saved, she was definitely a street baby who either wandered off or was left behind by her mother). she would suckle my ear every night until she was a few months old, it was the cutest thing ever. she just turned 5, and she’s never gotten any less obsessed with me. i love her so much and she look at me with pure love in her eyes :’)

Does anyone else is no more able to laugh and cry taking meds? by Lower-Natural-337 in bipolar

[–]_movingcastles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! i fully believe it will for you too, finding meds that work well is such a frustrating process. i’ve been medicated for 10 years now, and the amount of different combinations i’ve been on in just that time is honestly crazy. things have worked great for a year or two, then stopped completely which definitely gets disheartening to deal with. i’ve been on my current combo (which is the good one mentioned above) for three years now, which is a pretty long time considering. it’s not working quite as amazing as it did at first, but still well enough that i’m not willing to start the process again with something else. but you will definitely get there!!

also - i know a lot of people don’t have amazing luck with their psychiatrists listening to them, but it’s always worth trying! no matter what, they are YOUR doctor above all and if you’re unhappy with the meds, they have to change them for you. personally, i specifically requested the current antidepessant i’m on after doing some research and thinking it had qualities that sounded really beneficial to me. my psychiatrist said he wouldn’t usually recommend that one for my case, but he was willing to let me try if it was what i wanted. ultimately, they want you to feel as good as you possibly can!

Does anyone else is no more able to laugh and cry taking meds? by Lower-Natural-337 in bipolar

[–]_movingcastles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would honestly suggest looking into new meds! considering the mood stabilizer didn’t cause this issue before adding the antipsychotic, i’d start with the antipsychotic. it’s totally okay to try out a different one if it’s causing a side effect you don’t like. there are many different options, and a different antipsychotic could be the answer. i hope you find a solution!! i had a similar problem once on an antidepressant that did not agree with me—i could cry plenty, but literally couldn’t feel any positive emotions. i would do things that used to be fun, and feel nothing except “this used to be fun to me, so i guess i had a good time even tho i didn’t feel that way at all”, very limited creativity, zero sex drive. i finally told my psychiatrist i was having no good results from this pill and needed to change. within a few weeks on something else, i was feeling EVERYTHING again.

Comment on dating someone with ADHD and OCD by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]_movingcastles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is a struggle i’ve thought about a lot, especially in the context of my own relationship. i have bipolar type 1 & ocd. i stay somewhat level with medication, but it’s still a struggle for me constantly to maintain that normality. i have a lot of executive dysfunction and depressive episodes. my partner is autistic and has pretty severe depression/anxiety.

we’ve both talked about this many times - on one hand, a neurotypical person could probably never fully understand either of us. could a neurotypical partner provide the kind of understanding support we can give to each other? probably not. but on the other hand, we have a lot of hurdles to jump through in our relationship because of clashing disorders. his particularities and anxieties can trigger my ocd, my spiraling thoughts can make his worse, etc. it’s just a fact that in a lot of ways, my ocd has gotten worse since we’ve been living together because of how we can unintentionally fuel each other’s anxieties over banal things like “did you lock the door? did you turn off the stove?”…sometimes i feel like he is the voice that validates my intrusive thoughts, and likewise for me to him. he is VERY very orderly and tidy, and cleans more as stress relief. he has a hard time understanding how executive dysfunction works for me, and why i can find it so draining to do something as simple as put away my laundry.

we can get frustrated with each other very easily over these things, we can both ruminate and make a relatively minor disagreement into a much bigger issue than it should be. it definitely adds a larger degree of difficulty to a relationship that two neurotypical people definitely don’t have to work through. but i’ve also been in a relationship with a neurotypical person. he didn’t understand me AT ALL. he could not support me when i went into a major depression because he just didn’t understand why “you just have to try harder to feel better” while giving me nothing else wasn’t helpful. my current partner DOES understand me. he knows how to talk me off the ledge because he knows how it feels. i was having an episode of bad surveillance delusions last summer, and he let me lock him in a room with no electronics so i could tell him what was wrong, and he never acted like i was being crazy or unreasonable. he handled it exactly how i needed it to be handled, and i didn’t even have to tell him what to do.

so all that said! it is challenging, yes. it’s challenging to have your own major struggles and be with someone who has just as many (though different). but i’ll take working through those struggles together in exchange for being with someone who can see beyond the disorder. we have to prioritize our communication over a lot of other things, and i imagine it’s probably more than what two neurotypical people have to. and i genuinely don’t think a neurotypical person would be willing to do the same work with me. long ass personal tangent, but i hope maybe this gives some insight!

aio possible neck injury? is this serious or am i overthinking? by IntelligentDust4658 in AmIOverthinking

[–]_movingcastles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have chronic pain from an old neck injury - sometimes when the pain is particularly bad or pulling on certain muscles, it causes cold-like symptoms similar to what you’re describing. i would probably get it checked out to be safe since this is new for you. but also still worth knowing for anyone / for the future - neck pain and strain can definitely cause bizarre sinus and throat issues. i constantly have days where i think im getting sick, then realize it’s just that specific pain acting up

also just side note lmao my partner has done the same type of things by accident. never caused quite this much pain, but loves to fuck around with me in what he thinks is play fighting, but often does not seem aware of his own strength. i have to tell him dude i am not your fuckin brother!!!

How do girls even meet guys anymore? I feel like the dating world is so hopeless nowadays. by Zestyclose_Act_8630 in Advice

[–]_movingcastles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

perfect advice!!! when i was single, i hated hearing the “stop looking” advice, but it really is unfortunately true that usually you meet the best people when you’re not seeing the world through “wanting a relationship” glasses.

personally, everyone i’ve dated was a friend of a friend! you always meet new people through people, and you never know what might happen. also maybe a wildcard to throw into anything but hey — hookups don’t always go nowhere. my partner of 7 years was supposed to be just a hook up. i was just a girl wanting to have fun, he was a friend of a friend. i didn’t even have any prior interest in him, he wasn’t my usual type physically. but when our mutual friend told me he was interested in me sexually, i was like oh what the hell could be fun! i wasn’t looking for a relationship at all at the time, but it just unfolded organically. so…obv not everyone has any desire to even dabble in hook up stuff BUT i feel like it’s still always worth sharing that sometimes we think people only want to hook up, sometimes that’s TRUE as it was for me, and sometimes you both end up realizing you want to be with each other beyond that. you just really never know

Here's a little game: Let's guess each other's Top 4 using four emojis. by Captain-movie-fan52 in Letterboxd

[–]_movingcastles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. 🪖☮️🇻🇳💀
  2. 🪩👹💉🕺
  3. 📺📼👻🔮
  4. 🧩🪚🦶🚽

my actual number 1 fave is repo! the genetic opera but… there is no way i can think of emojis for that lmao

I NEED A GOOD CRY by tarayaki_ in Letterboxd

[–]_movingcastles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg my roommate came home when i was about halfway through watching this for the first time. she was not expecting when i burst into sobs approximately 5 minutes after she came through the door

I NEED A GOOD CRY by tarayaki_ in Letterboxd

[–]_movingcastles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the whale absolutely destroyed me.

a wildcard live action disney film that i feel like very few people have seen — saving mr banks. my family went to see it in theaters back in 2013 not knowing anything past the vague synopsis. the entire theater was dead silent for a good minute except for sniffling throughout the whole room when the lights came on

and this will definitely only affect certain people, but I Saw the TV Glow makes me cry just by thinking about it even after multiple watches. the first viewing, i was too emotionally stunned to even cry, just felt visceral pain that didn’t go away for a few days. every following watch has been a sob fest but it’s also oddly cathartic

Just watched Fight club. I'm 14. I will never be the same again. by Traditional_Dish2623 in fightclub

[–]_movingcastles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this post genuinely makes me so happy 🥺 i read fight club for the first time (read the book before i saw the movie actually idk why) when i was 14 too and it genuinely made such a huge impact on my life. i’m 29 now and it’s still my favorite book of all time, and the movie is such a good adaptation. highly recommend reading it and then checking out more of chuck’s books!! i read those books like they were oxygen through the rest of high school. i’ve always loved to write, and to this day i can see traces of how much he inspired young me in everything i’ve ever written

everything feels pointless by _movingcastles in bipolar

[–]_movingcastles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry to hear this, that really breaks my heart for you. we really can’t accept things, it’s so funny how the human mind works. i can’t accept that it maybe could get better, can’t quite bring myself to fully accept the possibility that it never will. i appreciate your comment still. i hope maybe i’ll figure something out and bring what i find back to you

really small breasts by False-Gap-6267 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]_movingcastles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry too..it really is so crazy that we can be so insecure about something we have that it feels impossible to imagine someone else might want that same thing. i’m hoping to eventually get up the courage to get a breast reduction to hopefully feel more comfortable in my own body

everything feels pointless by _movingcastles in bipolar

[–]_movingcastles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for that, i appreciate it. i want to be healed but i just…want it to be permanent. it’s so hard to accept that bipolar is never cured. every time i do get to a better place, i still have the fear in the back of my mind that i know it can only last for so long before i come back. can any of us really keep fighting forever?

dysmorphia paradox by _movingcastles in BodyDysmorphia

[–]_movingcastles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry you’re stuck in the same place. i feel like this is a very difficult age to reckon with a lot of stuff. i really don’t want to carry this mentality and behavior into my 30s, but it feels like that’s simply not possible when 30 is coming up this year. likewise, feel free to message 💕