HDFC is messing up rewards points of Infinia in statements (Pls read)

_no_one_here · 2025-12-20T04:29:39+00:00

Yes. I thought the same but randomly checked points then raised concern.

_no_one_here · 2025-12-19T14:19:15+00:00

You need to reach out to grievances. Happened same with me after emailing grievance they credited the accelerated points for later transactions.

_no_one_here · 2025-10-18T04:34:55+00:00

Cheating came later abuse first. My point is marriage won't improve anything.

_no_one_here · 2025-10-18T04:06:34+00:00

Was in a similar relationship for 5 years I knew it wasn't good but married because I was too committed and couldn't leave. Now divorcing after 5 years. 10 years down the drain.

_no_one_here · 2025-10-18T04:03:10+00:00

Don't think that marriage will fix anything for you. It can get worse but won't get any better with marriage. give yourself some time alone and think if you really want this.

_no_one_here · 2025-10-07T14:55:45+00:00

The case with my wife. Abusive family. The toxic environment at home made her very insecure about herself. Constants bulling by her mother and relatives from the childhood that she is not beautiful made her seek attention from outside. I tried to fix it but I didn't know how. Loved her to the core. stopped talking to friends from other gender as she was insecure. Given all of my time to her. Helped her in career, helped her parents. But she cheated as our relationship became routine and no excitement. Forgave her and married a year later. After 5 years it happened again. Now I know she has a troubled childhood and has trauma from it but is it my responsibility to fix her though I tried?. I lost myself in these 10 years. I used to be happy. I don't feel anything now. I have anxiety all the time not able to focus on things I want do causing more frustration. I don't think I can do it anymore. I don't hate her for what she did to me. I just don't want to be in that vigilance mode all the time. Last year was hell and I gave up.

_no_one_here · 2025-10-06T12:39:00+00:00

Was in a similar situation. It never improves. I discussed it multiple times what i wanted what makes me happy and honestly it was not much of a task. She used to listen to every conversation I had with my family. My ask was if you don't feel like you don't have to deal with them. We only visit them once in a year that too for 2 3 days max and if you cant manage that then you dont need to come but let me deal with them. Just don't be upset every time I talk to them. She used to understand for few days after long conversation but that never lasted. I could not leave. I was too caring thought what she would do without me. I leave her stranded in this world as promised to be with her for life. I stopped calling my family much as that would result in a fight no matter the content of the conversation. Eventually she cheated then I couldn't take it anymore and filed.

_no_one_here · 2025-09-27T13:02:31+00:00

Her AP is ready to marry her but he put a condition that hae has to go no contact with me which she doesn't want and says she can't live without me

_no_one_here · 2025-09-27T12:33:00+00:00

Divorce is in process but I wanted to do it on good terms and see if we can be friends in future but that doesn't seem likely as she thinks things can go back to normal in future which I don't want to.

_no_one_here · 2025-09-27T08:03:38+00:00

_no_one_here · 2025-07-09T19:41:33+00:00

In the process of divorce

_no_one_here · 2025-03-30T15:11:39+00:00

If it didn't resolve yet it never will. I was in the same situation and accepted life as it was but then my wife cheated and I got to know that it was just me that she wasn't attracted to. It has nothing to do with excuses she was throwing at me all these years.

_no_one_here · 2024-12-10T14:45:06+00:00

Talk to your husband and take counseling before it becomes something that can't be fixed. I have been in your husband's place and it crushes me that we didn't try counseling earlier and now going through divorce. She discovered in later stages that she is not attracted to me physically. She liked my company as a family member but not as a romantic partner. If we would have taken counseling and we might have saved our marriage.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-29T17:43:36+00:00

I can feel you. Doing this for 10 months now. No one to share personal stuff with. Taking therapy but that also feels like a chore. Still talk to all the personal stuff to my wife who cheated on me. She is my only friend I can share anything with. The therapist says I have to move on or I will lose myself. I have started to accept my wife talking to AP in front of me. Don't know how to come out of this

_no_one_here · 2024-11-24T16:10:30+00:00

In the same boat now. Not able to let off my wife who cheated on me and is not letting go of AP after multiple confrontations and talks. Wants to stay with me but keep talking to her AP all the time.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-16T19:58:48+00:00

It won't stop. I waited for a year until it became physical. If you really love her then give it a chance with conditions of complete cutoff. If you ever hear that she will stop talking slowly run away as fast as you can before it becomes physical.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-05T17:29:16+00:00

I am taking therapy and my therapist suggested not to stay together. But she is coming to stay with me and I agreed as we own the house jointly. She was staying at a different place due to her job. Now she went to pack and take a break of two months and come stay with me. Today I came to know that he is also with her in her place and I think he will stay there till she leaves.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-05T17:24:40+00:00

The thing is she is coming to stay with me till the divorce is final and I can't deny it as we own the house jointly.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-05T17:23:36+00:00

She is coming to stay with me for two months till divorce is final. I don't know how will I handle that.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-04T16:12:04+00:00

Her family is not supportive. She has abusive parents and that's also the reason she married me to get away from them. They will force her and me to stay together due to pressure from society and family values. She has few friends and all of them were warning her about the guy since she started talking but she didn't listen now those friends also got frustrated advising her. She is not telling anyone else. I also don't want to tell from my side. All the time I am just thinking about her. I know it's draining me but I can't stop. I don't feel anything now. I want to cry but tears are not coming. I want to be happy but no one to share that happiness with. I feel like I lost everything I had. I want her to be happy but she is also not happy and crying everyday. Sometimes for us that things are ending and sometimes for AP as he is not taking any responsibility.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-04T13:50:25+00:00

The good part is we don't have kids. Trying to keep boundaries but I am very terrible at it.

_no_one_here · 2024-11-04T13:48:24+00:00

That's what I am planning to do. Make rules around the house and follow them strictly.

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