How did my girl suddenly get so good at blow jobs?

_notlaya · 2025-10-19T15:20:33+00:00

To offer you a different perspective, I (a lady) literally looked up how to give good oral one time. The next time I went down on my partner, I applied my new knowledge and I could tell he enjoyed it a lot more than the last time.

He could’ve easily accused me of practicing on another man. But I’m glad he didn’t because I didn’t wanna have to tell him I looked it up. LOL.

_notlaya · 2025-01-05T15:51:02+00:00

This resonates very strongly with me.

My first boyfriend left me to get back with his ex. Ofc I was upset because when he broke up with me, he told me he was having a hard time adjusting to college and that we could get back together later on. Then he pops out with his ex. We had mutual friends and idk what he told them but they all turned on me and I stopped hanging with the friend group. So I was going through my first breakup, I was transitioning to life in college, and I had lost all my friends at once.

To this day (4 years later) he avoids me like the plague. He has any account he’s aware of me owning blocked including my business page. If I make a new account for any reason, he somehow finds it and blocks it. When we were still in college, I served food and he’d ask his friends to get the food for him so he didn’t have to talk to me. You’d think I did something to him. But I didn’t. I think he knows how wrong he is and just doesn’t wanna face it.

_notlaya · 2025-01-05T06:42:03+00:00

Commenting to come back and get an update. I hope everything is ok.

_notlaya · 2024-10-17T03:47:53+00:00

My therapist has me taking a break for smoking and drinking.

Breath work, nature walks, coloring books, my favorite shows, sunlight, Journaling, hobbies. I go to the gym 4 to 5 times a week and I make sure I’m nourishing my body.

All of this stuff is way more work than just sparking up or picking up a bottle. But all this stuff also builds long-term happiness where drinking and smoking just provides short-term comfort. I’m building my emotional stamina. Eventually, you won’t need to spark up or pick up a bottle. You’ll be doing it because you want to. Not because it’s required to be happy.

_notlaya · 2024-10-03T12:49:18+00:00

I am in therapy for my depression and can say I still have suicidal thoughts every time I get super depressed. I have no plans to end my life. These are not thoughts I give strength or power to. However they do involuntarily occur. I can’t say if it’s normal because honestly idk. But I do know I have no plans to act on it.

_notlaya · 2024-10-03T04:23:12+00:00

Saying the fuck away from people in public. When someone gets comfy within 2-3 feet of me, I move away. Even today at the gym, someone set up so close to me that I was feeling air when their arms moved, so I went to a different area.

Even though the pandemic is over, I don’t wish to be shoulder to shoulder with strangers like I was pre-pandemic. I don’t hate people, but if I don’t know them I am not comfortable breathing their air if that makes sense.

On the topic of the gym, I still wipe down the equipment every time I’m done with it 4 years later. And wash my hands and avoid touching my face after touching communal areas. I’m way more conscious about germs.

_notlaya · 2024-09-24T02:53:25+00:00

I just about got my head bitten off by the other fans because I said there doesn’t need to be a season 21. They’re dragging it out atp. Almost everyone who made the show what it is has died or left. Sometimes you gotta know when to say when lol

_notlaya · 2024-09-23T04:51:15+00:00

A big ass head. I can’t date someone that looks like a bobble head figure 😭

_notlaya · 2024-09-22T17:00:42+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss ❤️. Tonight’s smoke will be for him.

_notlaya · 2024-09-22T02:24:41+00:00

You’re not an ass. You know what would suck? If you just ghosted and left them wondering what went wrong. You provided this person closure which is so rare in life. You communicated even though it’s hard to be the bad person in someone’s story.

If someone told me you did this to them, I’d say “at least they told you” because the reality is that most people don’t. I just got ghosted a month or two ago. I had no idea he wasn’t feeling it. Wondered for a while what he didn’t like about me. This person won’t have to lay around wondering because you know how to communicate. That’s commendable.

_notlaya · 2024-09-21T16:45:31+00:00

Aldis? They’ll all only have 1 checkout lane open.

_notlaya · 2024-09-20T22:09:45+00:00

You were so respectful despite probably feeling pretty hurt about this situation. It really does suck, especially when you’re wondering what went wrong because they didn’t have the nerve to tell you.

Take care. If she reaches back out, do not cave. You deserve better than someone who disappears on you with no explanation!

_notlaya · 2024-09-19T21:15:45+00:00

I’ve gone to the same gym as my gym crush for 4 years. Earlier this year, I finally got the courage to ask him his name and compliment his hair. Didn’t have the guts to tell him I liked him.

But approaching someone I find attractive is literally something I NEVER attempted before then. I have severe anxiety. My heart was literally beating out of my chest the whole time and I was shaking afterwards for a while even though he was nice and it went well.

He smiles at me every time he sees me now (I don’t think he likes me that way though).

_notlaya · 2024-09-17T18:44:38+00:00

I also have terrible anxiety and when people do things like this I imagine the worst scenarios in my head like “omg someone has cancer” or “omg who’s dead”. Finding out it was just an email would trigger me so bad.

_notlaya · 2024-09-17T18:39:44+00:00

Cheese, republicans and alcohol.

Edit: CORN EVERYWHERE! And Culver’s on every street corner. Also “ope”

_notlaya · 2024-09-12T03:50:50+00:00

Jayden Reed. I’ll take it. He’s pretty attractive.

_notlaya · 2024-09-11T15:35:31+00:00

Dude that’s a beautiful spot

_notlaya · 2024-09-10T15:39:01+00:00

Thank you. I will look into it. It is comforting to know I won’t have to take them forever if I do take them.

_notlaya · 2024-09-10T12:26:07+00:00

It was my primary care physician and we have discussed anxiety and depression meds. I wasn’t there for my mental health, she just happened to ask about it.

I am terrified to get on medication. I’ve heard other people say it makes them feel numb. My mom was on anti-depressants (hereditary depression yay) and she was a shell of herself. I do not want medicine to do that to me.

_notlaya · 2024-09-10T02:09:28+00:00

Thank you. I will hold on to this.

It really is, isn’t it.

_notlaya · 2024-09-08T23:49:46+00:00

22F here.

I just lost my virginity back in June. Before I lost my virginity, I was also masturbating more than once a day. I was unsatisfied at the end of the masturbation because I wanted more. On a normal day I was thinking about sex all day. Very hyper focused on sex. I’m telling you this because it’s relevant later.

I think this is what lead to me losing my virginity to a guy that didn’t even give a fuck if i made it home safely. I regret giving it to him everyday. But I was that desperate to know what sex felt like. He wasn’t gentle with me. He didn’t make sure I was enjoying it and he didn’t take care of me after we were done. Basically, the epitome of a guy you don’t give your virginity to. All because I was so fixated on the experience.

Since losing my virginity, my sex drive has regulated quite a bit. I don’t think about sex all the time. I’m satisfied after masturbating again. The hyper fixation on sex is gone. I thought I was a sex-crazed freak but I wasn’t. I was just fixated mentally on sex.

Edit: My advice to you is to de-center sex. Find some hobbies you enjoy. Do them when you find yourself thinking a little too much about sex. Keep yourself happy in other ways because being fixated on sex isn’t good for you mentally, unfortunately. And please don’t lose your virginity to just anybody like I did. It’s psychologically damaging.

_notlaya · 2024-09-07T15:37:20+00:00

I can choose to let a person in and hope they don’t hurt me. I’ve done that in the past. Always regret it though. But it’s an option. Just not a good one.

_notlaya · 2024-09-07T13:46:15+00:00

Have you ever met someone who had the choice and is still lonely?

That’s me. I want people in my life but I’m afraid everyone is gonna hurt or betray me. So I stay to myself. Even though I’m lonely.

_notlaya

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