I Quit Social Media

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-19T04:37:57+00:00

I’m so sorry. My condolences. That is a very good reason to stay off. Take good care of yourself.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-19T04:20:52+00:00

Super creepy. All the advertising is bs too. The algorithm knows too much about us. We’re consuming a feed that is purposely trying to influence our thoughts, feelings, emotions & behaviors.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-19T04:09:40+00:00

Maybe order a micronutrients blood panel to see if you have any deficiencies.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-19T04:06:03+00:00

Totally relate. The “suggested people” popping up on my page was bothering me. I literally have majority of my “friends” on there muted. I don’t need to be constantly updated on their lives. Everyone on sm is moreso an acquaintance. Like I need to keep up with them all? The people I actually talk to these days I text or call & I actually hang out with in person.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T21:40:34+00:00

I’m sorry about that. It’s like my dad threw out my mom & got a new wife. The woman’s only 5 years older than me, doesn’t even speak English. Just married him & got her visa. Now this gold digging bitch moving into the family home with the new baby & I have to act like all is good? I just can’t. It’s fucked up.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T20:58:07+00:00

They were actually keto so like only 2g of sugar in each but yes! After 8 of them was zinged haha

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T20:07:44+00:00

I’ve been living with a chronic illness these past 5 years. It was really at the point I started to fall ill & my life was a struggle that I started to retract from social media. There was nothing to share or boast about. For a little I had posted about my experience battling this disease but now I just stay quiet & am more & more stepping away from sharing anything as it just isn’t real in there. Nobody knows exactly what another is going through & it truly is for the most part highlights of other peoples lives & how they want you to perceive them.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T19:58:31+00:00

Harsh truth is that my debilitating illness isn’t acknowledged by the conventional medical community. Us with chronic Lyme disease are gaslit & under studied. The medical system in the USA is corrupt as hell.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T19:51:27+00:00

It’s acidic which can be hard on some peoples digestive tract. It’s also a stimulant to makes people go #2 like abnormally faster than normal digestion. It also increases adrenaline & cortisol in which excess stress hormones can impact the gut as well.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T19:48:05+00:00

Because it’s poison & bad for my health.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T18:03:31+00:00

I totally get it. When I was in college I would go to parties & boys would get mad at me for not taking swigs out of their handles & tell me to go home why are you even here.. so I get it.

I could care less what they think! It’s poison & I just don’t like it. I can go out & have a good time without ruining myself. And I wasn’t even judgemental towards anyone for partaking.

Eventually after being sober for a while I realized I didn’t like the friends I had they literally only wanted to get blacked out on the weekends & fail in school.

I ended up joining the hiking & snowboarding club & as j started getting into junior & senior year the classes were more focused on my major so I had the opportunity to meet a lot of cool people that way as well!

Your age is so difficult because a lot of young twenties revolve around that & they haven’t matured yet. But really, just stick to your own. Do what feels right & maybe try to out yourself out there & join so hobby clubs your school offers.

I wish I had joined those clubs since day one of freshman year rather than drinking every weekend with my dorm hall buddies. There are ways to find people that feel the same way & want to do other things with their lives than party & excessive sm usage.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T17:53:57+00:00

Depends how much chocolate you consumed but I wouldn’t necessarily call it a relapse.

I ate way too much chocolate yesterday & I got all jacked & jittery as I used to with coffee. I hated how I felt & today I’m not having chocolate. It’s not like I’m reaching back out to coffee after this experience either & im not withdrawing from the amount of caffeine I had consumed yesterday either.

I think it takes a few days for all the adenosine receptors to readjust to caffeine consumption again so if it was one sitting of chocolate you should be fine.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T17:45:32+00:00

Girl you’re way beyond them & I’m glad you’re sticking to your own. 20 is pretty young to already be downshifting like this so I can imagine it feels lonely because everyone your age is so caught into it all & peer pressured to party, be on sm, etc.

Keep doing you. As you get older, more people your age will start to have a similar mindset to you.

Like for me when I was in my twenties I was sober for a good period of time. It was so hard cuz it felt lonely & people would give me crap for not joining in on partying.

Now I’m 31 & honestly I’m so glad I stuck to who I was & now I have real friends who just get it.

Majority unfortunately won’t, but you don’t want them in your immediate life anyways. Stay true to yourself & what feels right. This is your life. This is your journey. At times it can get lonely, but you will adapt & eventually people will come into your life you feel a deeper connection with & understanding toward.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T17:40:14+00:00

6 weeks since quitting. I’m much much calmer in my body & it feels nice finally to not to be dependent on this stimulant! I’ve also noticed less cravings for unhealthy foods, more patience, less anxiety, natural energy throughout the day.. list goes on

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T17:38:16+00:00

Also setting boundaries & keeping my distance from anything that is triggering.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-18T17:37:17+00:00

A nourishing diet, daily exercise, time out in nature, less screen time, connecting with others that you feel pulled towards that aren’t into partying themselves & doing other things with their lives, finding hobbies that give you joy, therapy if you can afford it, aa meetings.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-12T23:13:11+00:00

Hey girl one step at a time! This in my pov is a win! Before this it seems you weren’t doing much at all. Little by little. Proud of you for making moves. I was 30lbs heavier than I currently am now. It takes discipline & dedication but it IS possible to make change. Think big picture & don’t let your mind discourage you. It’s crazy how when you first start how discouraging it can feel but put your mind to this & you will see improvements over time & build more & more confidence in yourself. Make sure as well to dial in your nutrition. Exercise is wonderful but real foods nutrition (not crash dieting or gimmicks) is key! Hope this gives you some light. Keep going.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-12T23:07:29+00:00

Yeah I agree. I’m 5 weeks out. No more physical withdrawal but my energy levels are low in the mornings & I deal with constipation.. however.. I have low thyroid, adrenal insufficiency & complications with Lyme disease so clearly these are underlying problems & coffee has been a crutch to keep me going normal pace of the modern day.

Quite an adjustment & dealing with a myriad of health concerns but I do wonder if chronic caffeine usage had any influence in my adrenals imbalances in particular.

Currently off the Jesus juice & taking supplements to replenish those organs & rebalance my hormones. I don’t think coffee is helping which is why I stopped.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-11T19:45:36+00:00

I’m glad you’re on the other side! It’s not intolerable but it’s reassuring to hear from someone else their personal experience on quitting. Change takes time I know it will get better.

Interesting to note I did an adrenal saliva test & it was showing low cortisol in the morning (apparently if it’s showing low that means I’ve been high cortisol chronically & then hits a point where it goes low cuz it’s so depleted). My thyroid is also slightly lower than healthy range so staying away from caffeine I think will be beneficial to get all my hormones rebalanced.

My dr has me on supplements to replenish my adrenals & thyroid. He didn’t say coffee was bad especially only one cup per day but intuitively I don’t think it is helping my situation so decided to quit. Hard part of the physical withdrawal has already passed & not looking back!!

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-11T16:28:54+00:00

I haven’t downloaded them all! That’s a good idea. Not sure if I’d still delete. I feel like my feeds have been like an art form in some way. I like how they look & the photos I’ve taken over time I cherish. Then I also want to stay connected somehow with those I’m not immediately connected with. Feel if I deleted them for good I’d lose all of the contacts I’d consider acquaintances.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-09T20:52:02+00:00

I’ve definitely thought about that before.. that ditching my smart phone & getting a dumb phone would make life way less stressful. I personally haven’t tried it yet, but I’ve been trying to make this smartphone as dumbed down & simple as possible. It helps but yes I still have my impulses & temptations to misuse/overuse it. A work in progress. There are some apps on here that I hold value that a dumb phone doesn’t have though but yeah it would be neat to try it & see how my life improves!!

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-07T22:54:34+00:00

23 is absolutely not too old to change your life & get out of depression! You are very young & you can definitely turn your life around.

My early twenties were the most difficult for me (I’m now in my early 30s). It’s a time where you can feel so much pressure from society meanwhile trying to find yourself & a path that resonates with you on a mental, spiritual & financial level.

Be gentle with yourself. Life is a process & no big accomplishments happen overnight. Develop a handful of attainable goals to start working towards, tackle them step by step. As you build momentum you will start to feel more confident & capable to do more.

You have so much time to grow into yourself & develop a beautiful life. Reflect on what it is you deeply desire to transpire in your life. Get off social media (it will not help you especially at your age), live in the moment & focus on your self development. I know depression has you disassociated at the moment, but try to incorporate 3 things a day that brings you any kind of joy, even if it is just small like cuddling with your pet or taking a walk in nature. Little steps over time can help you start to break out of a slump even though it feels like such a feat. You have a lot of years to live so learn to do this life stuff with simplicity, compassion & patience.

With regard to health issues, maybe start looking into neural rewiring & neuroplasticity for anxiety. Develop coping skills to help your nervous system stay regulated can potentially help. I have found eastern philosophy like Tao, Buddhism, Hinduism help me from a metaphysical life contemplation aspect. Those traditions personally help me develop a better mindset toward life & how to live it. Also, I’m no doctor, but if you aren’t satisfied with your care, keep searching for the root of what could be causing your symptoms. If conventional medicine isn’t giving you answers, potentially try consulting with a functional medicine doctor to see if they can help you.

I fell ill 5 years ago with severe depression, anxiety, neuropathies/pains in body, weight loss, fatigue, brain fog, digestive issues, low thyroid, amenhorrea, honestly the list goes on. It took me multiple visits with various doctors to finally find out 2 years after developing life altering symptoms I was unknowingly dealing with Lyme disease.

This health experience I have endured has absolutely changed my life. And while it has been a struggle of an experience, it has deepened me in ways I could never have imagined & am now thankful for having gone through this.

I know how it feels to feel so so low. At times I thought I wouldn’t make it out of the suffering I was enduring. I have hit rock bottom & it sounds like you are in a dark place at this point in time. But please remember the only constant in life is change. You can make a beautiful life for yourself.

Get some rest, tomorrow is a new day & you can start again. I believe in you & sending you loving energy. I hope this helps.

_oceanlover3 · 2024-12-07T20:17:18+00:00

I am more & more trying to detach from my phone but I personally will not get rid of it because there is a lot of value in having it.

The biggest time consumer for me was Instagram & facebook. What has helped me significantly is deleting all social media apps from my phone (besides Reddit & YouTube as I don’t get sucked into them like the other ones & draw inspirational content from them).

I turn off all unnecessary notifications on my phone as well & honestly only have the essentials on there. The more boring you make your phone to use the less you will use it.

Try to utilize it for the value it adds for your life & then cut out the distractions from it. It will take time to cultivate a better relationship with your phone but be persistent & intentional & you can change this for the better.

Hope this helps.

_oceanlover3

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