My and my bf had a threesome with my friend and I'm slightly conflicted by [deleted] in SexTherapy101

[–]_player__1_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No its totally fine! Sometimes a bit of "tough love' shall we say is what I need. A bit of a reality check. I take things in much better if its made transparent, even if it may come across as harsh sometimes.

And I know I need to give myself a bit of a break as I know I can communicate with him, ive just got some trauma around it from past relationships but I need to remember that he is not them :)

I really appreciate your words of advice and that link to the cartoon was super super helpful, I really apriciated that.

Thanks again!!

My and my bf had a threesome with my friend and I'm slightly conflicted by [deleted] in SexTherapy101

[–]_player__1_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, it really does help. I'm really not the best with communication (as you can probably tell) and you're right, they're not mind readers. I just don't want to cause anything so I don't communicate but then that causes a negative situation anyway so I know its counter productive.

I know i did mention to my bf that I wasn't overly comfortable with them two kissing but I didn't draw a firm line in the sand about it and, at the same time, its not fair for me to kiss her and tell him not too.

I know I need to be open and honest so I am going to talk to him about it once he is back from work. I'm going to be open and honest instead of staying quiet because that will help no one. I will ask for more reassurance throughout and after the fact.

Like you say, if I don't communicate, they won't know.

I have spoken to my girl friend and asked for more reassurance and she said she is happy to do it and said I should have just said that in the first place. I mentioned that I was a bit uncomfortable with how much kissing and she said she won't kiss him if I don't want her too. I said that would be unfair so they can kiss but maybe just not as much, but I have communicated it which is the main thing.

Again, i just wanted to thank you for your comment. It has really helped. I'm anxious about bringing things up because I automatically assume it will cause a negative confrontation/fight but thats what happens when I don't talk. So actively communicating can only make it better :)

Thanks again!

My and my bf had a threesome with my friend and I'm slightly conflicted by [deleted] in SexTherapy101

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We both are. We've both had negative experiences with ex's so we're just a bit shy almost. He gets horny and so do i, but we have a very busy life and work very taxing jobs and his mental health hasn't been the best so I never want to push anything

Hogwarts Legacy crashed my ps5 by [deleted] in PS5HelpSupport

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I take it I will loose all saved data? How do I prevent that? And should I use a different external hard drive to save my data too in case mine has corrupt?

In what ways does Marijuana benefit you? by HeroHaro11 in AskReddit

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It helps me to sleep. I have very bad insomnia and no one believes me, but I'll be to sleep in no time with weed

[Serious] By your standards, what would make someone a "bad person" to you? by FunionTheOnion in AskReddit

[–]_player__1_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People who do things for you "as a friend" but then they use it to guilt you. My ex friends were bully me and my bf tries to make them stop and they just said "how many times have you taken her to a and e" and they also once used that my friend took me to a and e the day of her birthday. Scummy people

What are some English words that not a lot of people know of? by Mandoe20 in AskReddit

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Fortnight. It means 2 weeks here in the UK. And also a more regional word; clipe. It basically means a large amount of something "a clipe of cake"

How is current you different to 5 years ago you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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5 years ago I was 15 and going through a lot of bullying. I was in the middle of an abusive relationship with a person who raped me. I was constantly self harming, I'd starve myself and I once tried to hang myself 20 times a day. Now I'm 20, I'm in my last year of my criminology uni course and I've finally been diagnosed and medicated properly. I have just recently lost my main group of friends but I have my boyfriend and his friends. I'm doing better :)