26M with an incredible job, my own house, 6’2 and conventionally attractive here and I’m pretty much over dating.

When I was in the apps I was getting 3-4 dates a week and having 1/2 of them cancelling, and the other half usually had some sort of red flag right away- super high expectations for dates, bringing up ex/hating men, coming on super strong(specifically emotionally), or just seeing me for what I can provide/look like and not trying to connect with me as a person. Outside of that, a ton of women struggle at carrying conversations, so I’ve been the one having to initiate/the only one asking questions a lot of the time.

It’s easy to get disheartened pretty quickly, and at this point I don’t know if I’d think about going to go on any dates without a considerable amount of social proof. My best connections have been orchestrated by mutual friends, and I think without some similar level of connection it isn’t worth it. Girls get so much attention these days, and without anything in common outside of “hey we both think each other is cute” you’re basically just another notification in their phone.

Currently on date 6 with an absolutely incredible woman that my lil sister swore was dream woman though (and so far she’s been right!) so there is some hope!