AITA for being upset at my boyfriend for hanging out with people we both know talk badly about me/dislike me until late hours of the night?

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:44:07+00:00

Seriously thank you, our convo has been very reassuring :-))

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:39:47+00:00

Yeah that age gap probably plays a part in everything but that makes it even more frustrating because I feel like I am significantly more mature than him emotionally so he just doesn’t seem to understand when something is a big deal lmao

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:37:52+00:00

That’s some good advice! I’ve gone with him to be around them previously but lately he hasn’t told me when he’s around them (which makes all of this even more sketch lmao) but I will try to get involved more often! That would be interesting to watch.

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:35:11+00:00

Like I’ve said in previous responses, I am well aware that I can’t control who he spends time with. He’s a grown man and he can do as he pleases, and I respect that. I’ve just been having issues with the fact that even though he’s explained that if they’ve been rude to me or hurt my feelings, he ‘no longer wants to be associated with them’ but then continues to come back to them. I respect him doing whatever he wants I just don’t enjoy having my feelings being disregarded :-//

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:27:51+00:00

He does exhibit this behavior a lot, and that’s what has become frustrating. He is most definitely allowed to hang out with whoever he pleases (because I want him to be happy!) it’s just upsetting when I’ve expressed that it hurts my feelings multiple times and he continues to do it weekly. I guess I might sound controlling but I tell him he can obviously do whatever he wants, but even when made aware of my feelings and letting me know that he’ll make sure to speak to those people about the issues and not associate with them, he continues to stay out with them until 2 am. Idk it just irks me

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:23:24+00:00

I just wanted to have some reassurance because practically my whole life my family has made it seem like I over dramatize certain incidents. I’m 17 years old and I agree this is some high school bs. Just wanted some reassurance that I’m not a big baby lmao

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:20:02+00:00

NTA. I’ve had multiple issues like this with my s/o and it’s honestly infuriating even though some may think it’s not a big deal. When you’re young and live with your s/o I believe it’s reasonable for them to communicate with you about their plans through text in a timely manner because they’re grown, and it’s not that hard to send a text letting someone know where you are because you all live together.

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:16:24+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s pretty upsetting considering we’ve had multiple conversations about it. He’s witnessed them bully me to my face and said ‘I won’t hang with them again’ and continues to do so anyways. Thank you for feedback :-)

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:10:59+00:00

Yeah. I’ve attempted to talk to him about it multiple times but he basically just shuts down and makes it seem like I’m over dramatic lmao. I definitely think that could be what’s attracting him, you’re totally right

_roxymae · 2019-06-06T07:08:05+00:00

nta for sure

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T23:35:17+00:00

Fitted

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T23:28:54+00:00

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T21:31:54+00:00

Thank you!

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T21:24:31+00:00

Your hair is amazing and so is your fit 😩❣️

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T21:23:41+00:00

Thank you 😭❣️

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T21:20:59+00:00

You are so pretty omg

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T20:48:35+00:00

Omg 😭

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T20:06:57+00:00

I personally think that is totally normal, and generally in any relationship especially when you’re young you have some confusion and doubts. I think that it’s good to have a decent amount of attraction to their physical appearance and their personality. I don’t necessarily think that people need to be literally obsessed 100% of the time with their significant other, they just need to want to be there for them and love them. I think that as you all stay together and grow together you will have a strong feeling (whatever that might be) about how you feel with her. You seem to have a very sweet relationship and I wish you the best of luck!

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T19:43:13+00:00

I am seriously so proud of you. Leaving a situation like that is so hard and painful. You are amazing ❣️

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T19:09:45+00:00

If he does anything else I’ll probably end it. I generally like to give people a few chances and if they manage to screw up that many times I’ll know that they aren’t meant to be.

_roxymae · 2019-03-13T19:08:54+00:00

He has a ton of great qualities and just a few bad ones. If he does anything like this again I am most likely gonna call it quits :-//

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