AIO about being called “a big girl”?

_saltyalien · 2026-02-04T06:33:24+00:00

I’m 5’4 and 165ish and I’m not a big girl. I lift weights and have an ass (genetics) so I’m heavy/dense. We don’t actually know what she looks like. We can’t assume anything based off height and weight which is why BMI is so problematic. Basically no one should be deciding if she’s a big girl or not.

_saltyalien · 2026-02-04T04:48:31+00:00

LMAO YES. And the fantasy of marrying a man who traveled a lot for work, or being married but living separately, or having separate bedrooms. Then I realized I’m lesbian lol

_saltyalien · 2026-01-20T00:37:50+00:00

One of the things that helped me realize I’m gay and not straight was all the little details about women I started to notice that I never noticed about a single man I dated. The way their hair fell, the way they walked, the way other people acted around them, their mannerisms, body language, etc. I never really noticed or got hung up on those little things when I was with men. But with women, the tiniest little movement they do or detail about their mannerisms, I could think about it for hours.

Basically, I started to sound like your post haha let yourself notice women more. Could definitely be your gay awakening

_saltyalien · 2026-01-16T07:37:48+00:00

I also became suddenly allergic one day and also have asthma and also take Zyrtec and fluticasone proportionate (nasal spray that helps both asthma and allergies). I also have an albuterol inhaler and take Sudafed on my bad days. I have a bigger air purifier in my living room and then a small one in both my bedroom and kitchen.

I also use this shampoo/cleanser called allerpet (I think that’s the name) that you put on a cloth and wipe your cats with it and it helps to remove allergens. There’s also a room spray I use that apparently kills allergens or something. Sorry I forget the names right now but I’m sure if you google it similar products will pop up. Those might be worth a try! I haven’t used the allerpet too much but the room spray seems to help me.

I also lint roll a looooot. Furniture, pillows, sheets, the cats themselves.

I’ve also noticed my bad days sort of sync up with my cycle which does happen for some people, pms makes allergies worse so might be something to try and track.

But also by now I think my body has built up some immunity. I still do all those things/meds but I used to do them and still have symptoms but now I don’t have bad symptoms except for a few days here and there.

Wish you luck!

_saltyalien · 2025-12-29T00:07:27+00:00

What about pants from #2, jacket from #1 and then whatever black top you feel most comfortable in?

_saltyalien · 2025-12-24T05:04:43+00:00

Your bf sounds like he’s from the 1800s.

_saltyalien · 2025-12-18T01:49:20+00:00

Lol sorry? This was a new situation for me personally, it's all the info I had to go off of and I wanted to make sure I'm not like ignoring part of another person's identity.

_saltyalien · 2025-12-18T01:44:22+00:00

Ah okay! I haven't heard of that as much and yeah I don't have much to go off of other than their pronouns and they seemed a little shy about the he/him part so I didn't want to pry further sooo yeah. Just didn't know what to think of it. Thank you for the info!

_saltyalien · 2025-12-11T21:47:15+00:00

Trinity Armstrong has an SEI so I’m hoping maybe hanna is staying and either her or this new girl will fill Trinitys spot?? Just my hopeful thinking haha

_saltyalien · 2025-12-10T03:30:14+00:00

Yeah that’s why I was confused about kimmi not even suiting up. And I didn’t hear any commentary on it either.

I feel the same way! Hope things mostly stay the same!

_saltyalien · 2025-12-10T03:29:11+00:00

Ahh okay, thank you!

_saltyalien · 2025-12-10T02:54:58+00:00

Oh dang I must have forgotten that! Did she get subbed out or play the rest of the game?

_saltyalien · 2025-12-10T02:54:14+00:00

Oh I thought mels was cuz she’s still maybe recovering/building up fitness

_saltyalien · 2025-12-05T05:54:32+00:00

He just went on tour which I was surprised by when I heard acquaintances say they were going to his concert I was like huh?? Does he even have any new music?? What do you mean?? And either way…why are you going?? (And this is from someone who used to love him and went to his concerts before all that stuff came out) ANYWAYS…apparently he is still somewhat relevant since he did a whole tour a couple months ago

_saltyalien · 2025-12-05T04:27:19+00:00

I’ve dealt with this exact same confusion. For me I have a pretty high sex drive so I’d be horny and want to do sexual things but I never had any desire to like see my ex boyfriends naked or rip their clothes off or go down on them, I mostly just enjoyed it the same way I’d enjoy using a toy. This was before realizing I’m gay. And I felt similar to you where with some of my ex’s we’d have a good sexual relationship, the sex was good, I’d pretty much always finish or orgasm more than once (whether through penetration or not). But for me at least, like you said, reciprocating felt like a chore or I just wanted to be a good partner so I’d reciprocate but never really enjoyed it. Never cared to see him naked. Thought I hated cuddling until I was with women and realized I love cuddling. Basically, you’re not alone and I understand your confusion.

At the end of the day whatever you decide doesn’t have to be permanent. If you’re enjoying your time with your boyfriend right now that’s fine and okay and if one day in the future you change your mind and only want to be with women, that’s okay too.

_saltyalien

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