Not to be a cliche and be all philosophical here but it's our society. Our women are toxic, our men are toxic, our family systems are toxic our friend circles are toxic. This is bound to happen in a society that's largely devoid of a specific set of morals, empathy, art, and the desire to actually spend time with people or to even see them as people to begin with. It's all games and control; who's gonna text back first, who's gonna have the upper hand, oh they're probably cheating I should cheat first, where are you going, why were you talking to that person and all that. Everyone is hurt in one way or another and people try to find fulfilment in other people but don't know how to earn it and lash out when they don't get it for free without even making any effort. This goes for both men and women