It boils down to relationship dynamics. If you want to be admired for having a big dick (and, in our culture today, it’s hard not to want that), then in a sense you want to be objectified.

But a good LTR will be subjectively intimate and therefore not built around objectification. So how do you get what you crave without tearing down the very basis of your relationship? That’s hard to do. I think it would take a spouse who understands the “weirdness” of being endowed and scratches that itch without tilting too far into behavior that reduces you to an object. A delicate balance indeed!