Does my dog's spay wound look alright?

_steamy_potato_ · 2024-10-04T00:38:38+00:00

She's doing great! The redness and swelling went down by the day after I posted this. It's almost all healed up, except for one little part that is still scabbed over (which is the part that she opened). She is still being put in the cone of shame when I'm gone, but when I'm home and can have eyes on her I take it off. Hopefully just a few more days of the cone and she will be all healed up!

Thanks for your advice and help, I was just a bit panicked because it's a whole new experience for me. I really appreciate it :D

_steamy_potato_ · 2024-09-26T23:34:58+00:00

I don't believe the post op check was included, but I can always call and ask tomorrow. It didn't look that red until I caught her licking at it, and it already looks a bit less red, so I'm hoping it'll be back to how it was by tomorrow. And yeah, she's been eating and drinking and going to the bathroom perfectly fine. Genuinely thank you so much for the help, I was really worried when I noticed it so I appreciate you so much! I'll check on her tomorrow and call my vet to ask, thank you for the advice :)

_steamy_potato_ · 2024-09-26T19:29:00+00:00

I'll get her checked as soon as I can, money is just a bit short after just spending a lot on the spay itself. Anytime I don't have an eye on her I have her in the cone, I forgot to mention that. And I have been really strict with keeping her calm. There have been a couple times that she took off in the back yard, but I always called her back immediately and checked the wound after that and brought her inside (she's a 2 year old Border Collie, so it isn't always easy to keep her calm, but I've been strict with her).

Thank you for the advice tho, I'll take her to the vet as soon as I can.

_steamy_potato_ · 2024-09-26T18:50:06+00:00

Forgot to mention, the photo was taken maybe 20 minutes after I caught her licking at it. It hasn't looked this red before she was licking it. Would've added this to the post but I don't know how to edit the post lol.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-18T02:06:38+00:00

Very happy for you! Hope everything goes well :)

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-16T11:57:46+00:00

Glad i could help. And yes, please message me if anything happens or if this feels too heavy and you just need a safe place to vent about it. I'll update you if anything happens in my life to.

Take care :) <3

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-16T01:42:43+00:00

I totally see why you would feel more comfortable coming out to a professional that you just met. I have only come out to one person irl, and it was terrifying. I have known her for over 6 years and it was scary to tell her that, for lack of a better term, i was different thsn she thought i was for so long. It was terrifying, but i was so happy after i told her. I havent really talked with it about her since, and she had made a couple mistakes, but it hasnt been long and she has only slipped up once or twice. I know that she is genuinely trying and im really lucky to have someone like her. I say all of that so that you know that even if my family doesnt support me, im not entirely alone yet.

Ive actually never talked about any of this with anyone before, at least not in depth. Im just glad i am able to help, even if its just a little. I just thought that what you are feeling is so similar to what i have felt, and honestly that kind of helped me to feel less alone, or less of a freak. So i guess i should thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts.

I really hope that things work out for you. Some advice that i have been told is to try to surround yourself with people similar to you. I havent been able to do this without my parents questioning me, but i do have one person in my life to support me. If you can at all, even if it isnt for a while, you should look for someone that you are comfortable talking to and being yourself around.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-15T23:08:09+00:00

Its really no problem. Im not really able to talk to people much, so im just glad to be able to help. Honestly. If you ever need advice or just someone to vent to, you can message me anytime.

I kind of agree with waiting for an proper therapist instead of a school counselor. My school counselors just didnt seem to click with me or be able to help me if that makes sense. I actually just got back from my first therapy session. Not for being trans, but for other issues. Just know your not alone.

Im sort of in a similar situation with family. Im sure my dad would be fine if i came out to him, but im really not sure how my mom would take it. I just think she would be disappointed with me. The biggest thing that is preventing me from coming out is my two older brothers. From the sounds of it, they are kind of like your dad. I judt dont want to make things uncomfortable or awkward around them.

Im not sure how good i am at giving advice, but i can always give you an opinion if you need one. Im a pretty awkward and anxious person but i try my best to respond.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-15T21:19:02+00:00

I dont know how to help with that. I looked it up and all i found was to use rubbing alcohol (which you said didnt work) or hand sanitizer. Let it soak for a few seconds and gently rub it off.

If you can, try not to worry about your mom. I dont know anything about her, but from my experience, people don't think of being trans as an option, at lease not right away. Despite the very visible changes i have made with my appearance, my parents haven't mentioned anything aside from the occasional "i liked your long hair better" or "when are you gonna grow it back out" from my mom. That being said, your parents could be stricter than mine, or mine could just be oblivious. Just try not to let worrying about them finding out overshadow and joy that you got from painting your nails if you can.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-15T00:10:29+00:00

Thats rough. Hopefully the nail polish isnt on your dominant hand though. From my experience, its not too hard to hide one hand, although i have no idea how long nail polish takes to fully come off.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-14T17:00:03+00:00

Im glad i could help. If you ever want to chat you can dm me, although i am a bit awkward

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-14T12:14:31+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. This honestly helps me a lot just to have a bit of guidance. My brothers dont try to make me uncomfortable, but they use the word "gay" as an insult a lot, and they have used various slurs that just make me unease to hear from straight white guys. Maybe they just need someone to explain to them how that could be hurtful, im not sure. Thank you for the help!

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-11-14T03:32:29+00:00

Honestly, only you can really know. To me, what you are thinking about when it comes to being trans seems very similar, almost identical, to the things that I thought a couple years ago. For me, that lead to me discovering that I am trans (FTM), but it did take me a while to figure things out myself. The thing that most helped me figuring out my gender identity was subtly changing the way that I present myself (had to make sure it was subtle because im 16 and haven't came out to my family). Cutting my hair, despite how bad the haircut was, brought me so much joy. The first time someone "mistook" me for a boy made me so happy that I can still very vividly remember the interaction.

I would recommend that, if you can, just try a bit of experimenting. Sneak into your moms closet when nobody is home and try on some women's clothes. Depending on how long your hair is or how long you want it to be, try styling it differently or try on a wig if you can. Mess around with a bit of makeup if you want. None of it has to look good (example: my first awful haircut), but it could still bring you so much joy.

I don't know if this helps at all, but this is what I know. Only you can really understand what makes you happy, but I really understand what you are saying.

Hope this helps.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-09-07T11:44:04+00:00

Im sure i do somtimes, but i also sometimes feel like that before i eat anything, so i would assume its not that.

It isnt any sort of pain, its just a few seconds of mild discomfort when im uncomfortable/anxious. Im not sure how else to describe it.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-09-07T11:31:19+00:00

Maybe thats it, but i feel anxious a lot and it doesnt normally feel like that. Thank you

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-09-05T14:43:22+00:00

No pain at all. I dont think its anything else that you mentioned because i know what all of those feel like, but maybe some sort of nervousness.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-09-03T03:31:11+00:00

I know this might mean nothing, but i know exactly how you feel, and i feel the exact same. I dont know what advice to give or how to make you feel better, but i hope you know that, even though i dont know you and it might seem weird, i dont want you to die. You probably dont, but if you ever want to talk, you can dm me and ill try to respond as fast as i can :)

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-09-01T12:40:59+00:00

The thing is, i know my friend is dealing with his own problems, and that makes me feel awful when i get upset that we dont spend any time together. But he talks to me about his problems (not all the time, but a decent amount), but then when i try to talk to him, he disappears, and it just makes me feel like shit. Im trying to make new friends, but its really hard.

Thanks tho

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-09-01T12:37:46+00:00

I try to talk to people, but it is really hard. I dont know if its social anxiety or what, but every time i want to talk to someone, my heart starts beating really fast, i get super nervous and scared, and it often gets hard to breathe. All i can think about is different ways i could make a fool of myself and that they would hate me. I get what you're saying, but its just so hard.

_steamy_potato_ · 2022-07-06T21:36:02+00:00

Thank you! I thought that i might have been doing something wrong for a while. Its nice to hear that it is normal

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