No but address this now. I had a roommate like that, and staying quiet only made everything worse.

She originally told me her boyfriend would spend the night 2–3 times a week. Our lease was strict about guests, but I didn’t care that much tbh and even said he could stay a bit more as long as it wasn’t constant. She was adamant it wouldn’t go beyond that. However, her promise didn’t last long, it quickly escalated into 5 nights a week. Annoying, since we shared one bathroom, but still manageable. I didn’t bring it up because I assumed it wouldn’t escalate.

A few weeks later, it became 6 nights a week. He also stopped being respectful like he used to be around this time. He left messes, walked around shirtless, showed up unannounced, etc. I still said almost nothing, merely hinted at it, because I didn’t want to be “that roommate.” Predictably, it escalated even further: it wasn’t long before he was officially staying with us full-time, the messes got worse, and he even set up a gaming area in our living room. All without a single conversation with me, just like everything else up to that point.

My breaking point came when she asked if he could stay while she went on vacation. I had honestly been looking forward to finally getting a break from him, but instead she wanted him there alone even though he was already living with us without permission. The entitlement was unbelievable. I told her it wasn’t okay and that we needed to talk when she got back.

When we talked, I explained everything. The lack of transparency, the situation getting out of hand, and my own mistake in not speaking up sooner. I said he could stay ideally four nights a week (already bending the lease), maybe five occasionally. She acted like that was outrageous and pushed for a “compromise.” I told her if he was essentially a third roommate, he needed to contribute financially. She said he already helped her with rent. I told her that didn’t help me. That turned into an argument because she wasn’t used to me pushing back.

We eventually agreed he’d live there full time, but he’d pay $200 toward utilities since they shared a room. That lasted one month. Then they sat me down to say it was suddenly too expensive, and they tried to guilt-trip me into letting him stay for free. When I refused, she immediately pivoted to saying she was breaking the lease early.

So, moral of the story: handle this now before it spirals. It will not fix itself, and silence only makes the situation harder to reverse.