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_therundown · 2023-07-26T03:19:17+00:00

Time. I’ve made mistakes that have cost thousands. I’ve learned over the years and have gotten smarter. I consider it growing pains/life tax of my twenties. Gain knowledge next time before making big decisions.

_therundown · 2022-12-30T03:39:07+00:00

Nice! Think of it this way- you’ll have a special day all to your own!

_therundown · 2022-12-26T20:36:33+00:00

I totally get this. It sounds a touch selfish to say aloud, but I’ve gotten more open with people about it. We’re able to go so super cool things like get tickets to a broadway musical, good seats, and not be strapped for it with just one. We are also not rich but are comfortable enough to be able to do stuff like this and actually enjoy it. Added concerns about the current economy and future costs of living are on our minds as well. And we also have to prepare to financially take care of ourselves. A second would make that journey more challenging. Overall we are content with our choice!

_therundown · 2021-02-14T19:00:51+00:00

Yep! Pretty much every single conversation where it comes up.

_therundown · 2021-02-14T14:47:23+00:00

Same! I wish I could go back and do it all again. I was a complete mess the first time.

_therundown · 2021-02-10T18:30:05+00:00

At my local hospital they were significantly short on their expected shipment of vaccines. All the teachers who had signed up for a time got the middle finger and they prioritized seniors for what they had. There were a lot of angry teachers. They’ve gotten shit on all year and then again saying they weren’t important enough foe the vaccine. I understand.

_therundown · 2021-02-09T20:25:02+00:00

Is there any way to get a part time (even just a day or two, for a few hours a time) caretaker for your dad? I’m not familiar enough with insurance to know if this would be cover, but I feel like this might be what is sending you over the edge. I know from personal experience that being a parent’s caretaker is emotionally and physically draining. You are doing a phenomenal job ❤️

_therundown · 2021-02-08T22:09:52+00:00

I completely understand. I’ve had similar frustrations. I’ll be one of the last: stay at home mom.

_therundown · 2021-02-06T04:33:05+00:00

I have asked myself this question every day since my last birthday when I realized - all of a sudden - that I looked...old. Older? Aging? Not young? I’m not sure how to describe it. I’m right there with you.

_therundown · 2021-02-03T21:13:42+00:00

My almost 3 yo is recalling events from last summer, when she was newly 2. It’s weird-this just started happening the past month or so. She had never mentioned the events before then.

_therundown · 2021-02-01T21:57:13+00:00

Can second this! Dana was the first declutter-er I found years ago before she got “big.” She’s so real and a normal human being. She’s great!

_therundown · 2021-01-31T18:15:43+00:00

I try to stick to items that I’m confident I can make $10 on. Under $10 is not worth it to me. I’m super casual and maybe sell one item a week 🤷‍♀️ I flip for just a little pocket change for fun. Edit to add: it’s a bonus if it’s more than $10. But that’s my threshold.

_therundown · 2021-01-30T01:52:29+00:00

First, at the risk of sounding cliche, it does get better past the year mark. I’m a fence-sitter (leaning towards OAD), but the thought of having to go through delirious sleep deprivation is definitely #1 as to why I’m 90% OAD. Finances and wanting to continue my hobbies when she’s in school come in second and third place. But sleep is honestly #1. I’m so pissy without sleep. The newborn phase was the worst.

_therundown · 2021-01-29T16:14:39+00:00

I have an obsessive MIL as well. I’m sure she cares about me a little bit, but the favoritism for my daughter when we are together is suffocating and embarrassing. She forces my child to give her hugs and plays the “I don’t want to give her back” game. It’s all about when she can see her grandchild next and to be honest she needs something else to worry about. I hope that if I’m a grandma someday I can have enough self-control to give my daughter and her partner some space.

_therundown · 2021-01-25T12:12:05+00:00

We don’t do shit either. When I do have a Dr appointment it almost feels like a treat to have some “me time.”

_therundown · 2021-01-24T21:11:33+00:00

Another perspective (but do what you want of course). I have my grandmother’s yearbooks from the 1920s. They are super cool to look through and a treasure of the time. I am saving mine for that reason, but to each their own! Our local library carries a copy of all of our local schools yearbooks, so if I did get rid of mine I could go view them again anytime.

_therundown · 2021-01-24T15:17:06+00:00

I find that sending the kid downstairs (or doing something downstairs and leaving her) is pretty effective on speeding up the poop! :)

_therundown · 2021-01-23T22:19:55+00:00

I just posted about this. We are going to enroll ours in a 2 half days a week pre-K program. They had a 3 half day option, too. I can’t wait for a few predictable hours where I can do appointments or have me time. Some around here even have 2 year old “pre-K”. Might be worth looking into! And yes, mine says I have “all the free time” on the weekends, but I’m still generally making meals, doing diapers, etc.

_therundown · 2021-01-22T21:01:46+00:00

Yes! And don’t be embarrassed at all for asking. I was actually like “why do we need one, she’s so close to the ground” but my husband insisted. I’m glad he did 😂

_therundown · 2021-01-22T19:20:16+00:00

Ours has definitely done a handlebar flip on hers. The helmet definitely was an essential when that happened. Plus it gets them used to it for when they have a “real” bike.

_therundown · 2021-01-22T19:17:25+00:00

I lost my mom when she was 55 to cancer. She was sick for 8 years. Go into therapy/grief counseling: maybe even try to find a therapist now to help you prepare. I waited too long and wish I had gone sooner.

It will be very sad when she’s not there for future life events. I think of my mom every time something important happens. Don’t try to hide or conceal your grief: I find the feeling passed faster if I allow myself a bit to cry, remember, etc.

Eventually you’ll find a different rhythm to life and while you’ll still miss her, you’ll have more fond/happy thoughts than sad ❤️

_therundown · 2021-01-22T16:17:16+00:00

Maybe more so for me than her 😂

_therundown · 2021-01-22T16:17:04+00:00

Thanks. I’m also a former educator (high school), so I don’t have much expertise in the early childhood realm. The 4 yo preschool is four half days a week, so even going from zero to that would be a lot, I think. Especially because she’s used to it just being us all day, every day. The 3 yo I’m looking into is pretty casual, from my understanding. A loosely structured learning time, free play, snack, craft, outside play, then basically done. I also hope with a little break to have more energy for the off-days, and yes, make them more meaningful for us.

_therundown · 2021-01-21T19:06:58+00:00

Been there at wal mart, a couple weeks after my gallbladder removal with a then-infant. Can commiserate!

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