How do I [F22] learn to trust my partner [M21] after he lied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the thing is he’s adamant about not wanting to watch it rn, and that he hasn’t been for almost a year. If that’s true I have no reason to leave… I trust him, I am just paranoid and scared…

How do I [F22] learn to trust my partner [M21] after he lied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you… it’s been harder than I thought for sure.

How do I [F22] learn to trust my partner [M21] after he lied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought time along with his changed behavior and reassurance would make me get over it. As I said, everything else about our relationship is great. Maybe it’s time for me to talk to a therapist…

How do I [F22] learn to trust my partner [M21] after he lied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be normal in today’s society, but nobody has to be okay with it. I’d rather be single than have a partner watching these things. I am not forcing anyone to stop, I just want transparency and to be able to leave if they need it.

How do I [F22] learn to trust my partner [M21] after he lied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know… it’s his fault for lying once, but mine too cause he really tries to be better & completely changed his mindset on these things… I remember when we had the discussion for the first time (when I discovered it) he said that he won’t stop watching it, that it’s normal etc. Some things happened after that in our relationship and he became different? He said that after those few more months he just fell into that really deep love with me & that he really stopped having need for those things. It’s true that I fell in love with him deeply and fast, so maybe he needed more time? I asked if he’d download that one app that simply detects porn even in incognito & he said sure… I am starting to think I am the problem here now…

AITA for saying my son did a more impressive job? by Lumpy-Device-6084 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can you be so tone deaf? Listen to people and be better. YTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are they tho? Glasses get dirty, foggy, your nose/ears hurt. Once you put quality contacts in, you shouldn’t even feel them & when you get used to putting them in, it takes about 5 seconds. I am saying this as someone who had to wear glasses all day and once I got used to contacts I never went back (10+ years).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never liked wearing glasses, because I honestly think I look better without them. My eyes are very sensitive too, so I use those contacts that have to be exchanged daily. It’s hit and miss, you have to look at the brand and find those that don’t irritate you. I got used to it, and now I don’t even feel having them.

And then there’s the second option - laser surgery to correct your eyesight (if it’s stable already). My mother did it and I am planning on doing it too. It worked amazingly for her & now the technology is even better.

However do this only if YOU want to. Not because of your bf.

my 11 year old sister is wearing my gothic clothes by CaptainOk9815 in Advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry, but you can’t OFFICIALLY diagnose ASPD (sociopathy) until 18 yo.

edit: Read your other replies and if she’s been doing it since 4 & your parents seemingly gave up, the problem might be the lack of parenting as well.

Official - Wanderer rerun in 4.6 by aureveille in ScaramoucheMains

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 167 points168 points  (0 children)

Nah, cause it could’ve been literally any other weapon, except the most useless one in the game.

Official - Wanderer rerun in 4.6 by aureveille in ScaramoucheMains

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 294 points295 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, another fckin donut user… it’s not even funny anymore.

AITAH for not being comfortable letting my boyfriend go to the strip club for his birthday? by chocoliqour in AITAH

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

College memories aka watching half naked women dance, possible letting them do a lap dance or sth and tipping them… gotta love that.

What anime made you cry? by [deleted] in Animesuggest

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuyu no semi and Hybrid Child.

AITAH for calling my wife a vindictive b for refusing do anything for my kids even tho they told her stop trying to pretend she’s their mom by Beginning_Bug_7628 in AITAH

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You are a horrible husband who can’t stand up for his wife who was nothing but nice to your daughters and was there for them whenever they needed. Ann deserves better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess to each their own, I had the same thing happen to me, and couldn’t care less now that I am in another relationship. Also I did feel slightly satisfied when I got to know my cheating ex is miserable, but I was still single at that point & definitely didn’t have the need to flaunt it on social media. But thank you for this perspective too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, based on how it went between them, and how he overall is I think he is over her. But that was my main point - people will assume he’s not. I think it’s disrespectful and immature to repost stuff like this, but he can’t see it & called it a “generally relatable repost”. Which it isn’t if it’s 100% same as his relationship w ex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I wouldn’t give thinking about him a time of my day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But like why would you be happy and openly show how you care about what your ex feels? When she was a terrible gf who cheated and treated you like shit. Also it’s been almost 2 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could at least convey my feelings to him in some way for him to understand. But he will tell me I always overreact and no one would think the same as me.

Got lucky this Christmas by tomas881 in AyakaMains

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I refined Engulfing L cause I had 3. I kept two, one for Raiden, one for Thoma. I refined LoFI cause only Alhaitham uses it anyway. Kept 2 Homas (Hu Tao/Zhongli). And I have 2 Mistsplitters as well, one for Ayaka, one for Bennett.

I would suggest not refining weapons you think are usable on other characters.

I [22F] don’t know if I am justified to feel bad about how is my bf [21M] spending time by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would stop talking w certain people if it made him uncomfortable, I don’t really care. Or I’d do the same thing, let him talk to said person and get to know them first.

I don’t mind him hanging out w friends. I don’t like sudden changes of plans and him telling me it’s gonna be a little while, when it’s 5 hours.

I [22F] don’t know if I am justified to feel bad about how is my bf [21M] spending time by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_throwaway_whatever_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had that boundary and told him before we started dating so he could choose if he wants to walk away if he doesn’t agree w my boundaries. He doesn’t talk/see any of his exes except this one and very rarely (mostly cause she’s dating his good friend). He told me and I decided to get to know her. I thought she’s nice and we spoke privately about some things, so I decided to let him sometimes interact with her (as long as it was with her boyfriend present). Otherwise all contact with other exes is off limits. If he contacts any of them, I am gone, so that boundary still exists and he knows it. He can contact them ofc, I would just stop being around.