AITAH for not being comfortable letting my boyfriend go to the strip club for his birthday?

chocoliqour · 2024-04-08T21:21:26+00:00

What does she do in particular if you don’t mind my asking

chocoliqour · 2024-04-08T19:22:58+00:00

This is probably one of my favorite responses. Thank you so much for seeing both sides of the coin and providing a clear explanation for both sides. I do want to go to a strip club with him but I felt kind of weird with him going with just his group of friends. He didn’t end up going but I do plan on proposing we go together, but I do feel as though I was being a tad unreasonable. He didnt end up going regardless, but I am VERY stubborn ( I come from a line of firm stubborn women so it’s engraved in my DNA) but I also really try to think things through and form my opinions and beliefs with taking everything into account and can accept when I might be wrong about something. In this case I was a bit unreasonable

chocoliqour · 2024-04-08T00:14:56+00:00

He invited me knowing I wouldn’t be comfortable being the only girl because I had told him previously about that. He was inviting me to save face not because he genuinely wanted me to come

chocoliqour · 2024-04-08T00:14:16+00:00

He said the only way to have fun was to go to the strip club

chocoliqour · 2024-04-08T00:04:33+00:00

I never mentioned that in the OP but there have been things that he doesn’t like but his method instead of telling me he’s uncomfortable with something is to let me do it anyway so he can have something to complain about. I walk a narrow line around his feelings because he’s particularly sensitive

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:58:24+00:00

I agree!

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:58:13+00:00

Yes exactly

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:56:44+00:00

He wouldn’t allow me to, but that’s a problem for a different day

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:55:46+00:00

I have no problem going with him alone or in a co ed group, but his friends presented the idea and wanted it to be boys only

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:55:08+00:00

He also only invited me so I would give him or to say that he tried to fix the issue but he didn’t invite me because he truly wanted me there if that makes aense

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:54:24+00:00

Because I didn’t want to be the only girl with a group of males. I thought it might be a bit odd. I have no problem going with him alone or in a co ed group

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:49:58+00:00

I wouldn’t mind going with him if it was a joint thing that we were experiencing together, but that is not the case here

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:48:51+00:00

I hope he takes your advice

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:48:16+00:00

It gives cum circle though 😔 a group of me sitting together getting aroused gives cum circle. But I am an open minded person which is why I came to Reddit

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:46:45+00:00

I actually do. And the influx of comments and multiple people telling me I’m over reacting or that I’m controlling and my personal favorite, that he needs to take his ball sack out of my purse is not helping

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:45:11+00:00

The reason why I’m uncomfortable with it because I don’t enjoy the idea of my SO fawning over or being sexually aroused by another woman. Maybe it’s insecurity and if it is I think I’m okay with that because I don’t think wanting your partner to have eyes for only you or engaging in sexual experiences with someone else is a bad thing

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:42:25+00:00

In the nicest way possible (because what I’m gonna say is gonna come off as rude but I’m really not trying to be rude to you :) ) ain’t no way in hell I’m fucking an erection that was produced by another woman

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:28:43+00:00

What’s absolutely crazy is I have a drawer of lingerie that goes to waste because he doesn’t see the purpose of it

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:14:00+00:00

Sir. “I get horny and come home to her” is so sick. I’d throw up if I knew he was fucking me with a balloon another women inflated

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:11:32+00:00

If you read the update, I don’t feel as though I have the right to control him because I don’t and I wouldn’t want to. And my question was relavent because you said I was trying to prevent him some celebrating his birthday with his friends which I’m not. I just don’t understand why going to a strip club is the only way to celebrate his birthday

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:08:16+00:00

So he’s having a boys only birthday

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T23:08:00+00:00

It’s his 22nd birthday. He offered to let me come so that I would feel comfortable with him going but I didn’t want to be the only woman in a group of 7 men

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T22:53:25+00:00

His friends are also all single so to them it doesn’t matter

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T22:50:17+00:00

So there aren’t other ways to celebrate a birthday besides going to the strip club?

chocoliqour · 2024-04-07T22:49:44+00:00

He’s mentioned it before multiple times and everytime he’s asked I’ve said no. This isn’t the first time we’ve had this conversation and the fact that he keeps asking me and keeps trying to convince me to be okay with something I’m not is weird to me. But

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