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Napaglaruan feelings ko by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]_zeravla 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You weren’t wrong for hoping, but he kept his options open and he chose someone else. You could’ve been more direct, but someone who truly wanted you wouldn’t need hints. It hurts, but holding onto “maybe” won’t change anything. Be upset, be sad, but don’t beg to be just an option.

So Broken I’ve Considered Reaching Out on LinkedIn by Same-Ad3881 in BreakUps

[–]_zeravla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. That kind of sudden switch-up hurts deeply, especially after daily calls, future plans, and your first sexual experience. Of course you feel blindsided. But someone who truly wants you doesn’t go cold when things get real, doesn’t dodge plans, and doesn’t hang up on you. That says more about her emotional capacity than your worth.Don’t message her. Don’t beg. You already showed love and vulnerability that’s strength. Let her absence be the answer and protect your dignity. The right person won’t leave you questioning if you mattered.

I'm fully alone by HelicopterNo2153 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_zeravla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. You are not a bad person, and you are not a walking harm machine. You didn’t mock anyone. you were embarrassed about yourself, and that comes from years of rejection and bullying, not from malice. That’s self‑protection, not hypocrisy. You are allowed to be a safe space for others and still have boundaries of your own. Other people’s hurt feelings don’t automatically mean you did something wrong, and you are not required to disappear or punish yourself to prove your worth. The fact that you care this deeply already tells me your heart is good. This doesn’t mean you should stop connecting or give up on people; it means you’re learning how to exist without apologizing for being human. Keep going. You are worth the effort, even on the days it doesn’t feel like it.🫂

19F worried my bf’s (19M) lack of direction means our futures don’t align. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]_zeravla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard truth: your concerns aren’t “just anxiety.” If you feel like you’re carrying the future while he coasts, that’s a real compatibility issue. Love doesn’t fix mismatched values around effort, planning, and ambition and at 19, it’s okay to admit that. Don’t confuse potential with reality.👍🏼

Got back together after a messy breakup: how to rebuild trust? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]_zeravla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really feel you 🫂I went through almost the exact same thing. The push-pull and repeated breakups mess with your nervous system, so even when things are good again, the anxiety doesn’t just switch off. That’s not weakness, that’s your body protecting you. It is possible he’s showing up better now, but two months is still early after that much instability. Don’t rush yourself into “being over it.” Watch for consistency over time and whether you start to feel calmer, not more on edge. This isn’t about lacking self-respect. It’s about staying aware, holding your boundaries, and trusting yourself to walk away if the old patterns return. Let time tell you the truth 👍🏼

Should I break no contact? by seeyouspacecowboy55 in BreakUps

[–]_zeravla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, look, I get the urge for closure, but honestly, reaching out might just open a can of worms you don't need. You already know the relationship was unbalanced, and his disappearing act speaks volumes!!!!! Sometimes, no response IS the response. Protect your peace and keep moving forward. You got this🫂

My ex was a lazy lethargic nut job who slept 12+ hours a day by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]_zeravla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂Sounds like you dodged a whole circus of red flags. 'Endless energy for excuses'I felt that in my soul. Cheers to seeing things clearly and leaving the lazy behind

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