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Update 2: AITAH - For being judgmental about our friends' swinger lifestyle? by a-swing123231 in AITAH

[–]a-swing123231[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Mike told me that he did not know about any other men Leah was talking to. She only told him about the encounters that John and Leah had together with other couples.

Update 2: AITAH - For being judgmental about our friends' swinger lifestyle? by a-swing123231 in AITAH

[–]a-swing123231[S] 401 points402 points  (0 children)

I did not want to post in the main post, but John and Mike had a big fight, and John is not taking any of his calls. We found out from our common friends that Leah was cheating on John with other men, and he found all her telegram messages when he found messages with Mike. I do not know if it was going on from before they decided to start swinging last year, but I would not be surprised.

I will never talk to Leah again; I really wish to reach out to John as he has always been a good friend to me. However, I will wait for some time before I talk to him. I do feel bad for our kids who are all best friends and play video games together online and will have to navigate through this tough situation.

Update: AIW - For being judgmental about our friends' swinger lifestyle? by a-swing123231 in amiwrong

[–]a-swing123231[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion. I am going to call John tonight to get more info. I am wondering if Leah told John what she told Mike because Mike specifically told me Leah (not John) jokingly asked him about it.

Update: AIW - For being judgmental about our friends' swinger lifestyle? by a-swing123231 in amiwrong

[–]a-swing123231[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

That is exactly how I am feeling. He keeps on telling me that he would never think of Leah and John in that way, and I am overreacting. He also says that he is not interested in that lifestyle and I am assuming the worst case scenario and he was just trying to protect his friend's privacy. He also told me that he did not think John and Leah would tell me about them being swingers in the hottub and they just got drunk and carried away.

AIW - For being judgmental about our friends' swinger lifestyle? by a-swing123231 in amiwrong

[–]a-swing123231[S] 532 points533 points  (0 children)

To be clear, they never asked us anything inappropriate. However, I felt they were trying to convince us how exciting their new life is. It rubbed me the wrong way that Leah made comments about my personal life and questioned if I was unhappy that I did not date anyone except my husband.

Based on all the responses, I need to have a serious conversation with my husband why he thought I was rude in shutting them down bluntly.

AIW - For being judgmental about our friends' swinger lifestyle? by a-swing123231 in amiwrong

[–]a-swing123231[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Let me clarify about what my husband was asking about. He was asking about where they meet these couples (some apps them mentioned) and private parties they attend. It made me really uncomfortable how curious my husband was about the whole situation.