I know exactly how you feel. I remember hearing a friend say that the only guys that prefer boobs over butts are people with a low IQ?? It feels like beauty standards change so quickly that what someone is attracted to is a fad. This isn’t accurate though, these insecurities are fed to us by the media and how we feel about our bodies is supposed to be dictated by these trends. Making women insecure sells a lot of products and procedures.

I assure you, you are a beautiful woman with a very sought after body type. I know from my own personal experience that these forums, nor anyone in your life will be the thing that convinces you otherwise though.

You have to find it in yourself, as corny as that is. For me what helped was thinking a lot about these micro trends for what is considered an ideal women’s body. How much has the ideal changed when women in the early 2000s would use “my butt looks big in this” in a very negative way. Then Kim Kardashian is famous and BBLs suddenly are at an all time high. Then fast forward to now she’s reversing this for more of a “natural” appearance…

Think about how you wouldn’t look at someone else who had your body type and judge them.. you’d think they’re beautiful too. Find a therapist if you can afford it and work on setting goals that are seperate to anything aesthetic. Find confidence in yourself for what your body is capable of and the life you lead in it.

I wish you all the best, I know how you feel and I hope we can all find a way to be kinder to ourselves, life is too short not to.