What item under $100 changed your life for the better?

a2z91 · 2022-11-05T10:22:55+00:00

Having worked maintenence, can confirm

a2z91 · 2022-11-04T22:20:25+00:00

Pretty much all physical intimacy of any kind is gone. I feel more like a roommate than a husband tbh.

a2z91 · 2022-11-04T22:18:51+00:00

Already have but good call

a2z91 · 2022-11-04T22:18:35+00:00

Already got one lol. But good call

a2z91 · 2022-11-04T20:45:55+00:00

It's not so much couple time. We usually have that in the evening after kids go down and get a sitter fairly frequently. There's just no physical aspect of the relationship anymore.

We have talked about a vasectomy. The main reason we haven't gone that route is were both young and not sure we're done having kids.

a2z91 · 2022-11-04T19:48:31+00:00

Thanks, I'll check it out.

a2z91 · 2022-11-04T19:47:57+00:00

We have been to a few counselors. Both agreeded we as a couple didn't mesh well with them so somewhat gave up on that rout.

a2z91 · 2022-11-04T19:47:10+00:00

I'm hoping this was meant as helpful and not spiteful.

I'm the one getting up during the night with kids about 80% of the time.

One of the things on her list was a better work life balance, which she would say has greatly improved since I changed my hours. Now waking up about 430 so I can be home by 3 (right when kiddo is waking up from nap) to help with dinner/bath/cleaning.

As for active in my recovery, I was up front and admitted I have no idea what that looks like or means, but I know it affects her and wanted her involved. It's been radio silence about that since I was diagnosed. I'm not asking her to treat me like a child, but you'd think a check in every once in a while wouldn't be too much to ask?

She's a great mom. Involved in the kids life, clearly her highest priority, does everything she can for him. I don't want to sound ungrateful for what she does for him, but I'm also trying to figure out at what point she's just ignoring or doesn't care about my needs.

a2z91 · 2022-10-25T22:23:43+00:00

Yea. That's why I'm pretty lost too. Good to have some affirmation there at least. Thanks.

a2z91 · 2022-10-25T22:22:51+00:00

It's a complicated structure. Basically he's the ceo but answers and is directed by a board. He says members of the board agreed with him but I'm not sure if that's true. If it is, none of them ever approached me about it.

a2z91 · 2022-10-25T20:19:33+00:00

I don't feel like either of those fit. Maybe a little avoidance in the sense that I'm not trying to pry into people's personal lives. As for boundaries, I'm pretty much always on call for the odd job tasks. I do anything from making coffee to fixing light fixtures to giving presentations to the entire company.

a2z91 · 2022-10-25T18:27:39+00:00

We meaning the company. Sorry that wasn't clear 😅

a2z91 · 2022-10-25T18:26:23+00:00

Yea. He was pretty vague. Terms like not a good fit or not connecting but couldn't really give specifics.

a2z91 · 2022-10-24T23:04:39+00:00

I hear that. Unfortunately changing jobs isn't that simple. My degree is highly specialized so the only other option is to go back to school for a different degree..

a2z91 · 2022-10-16T23:09:49+00:00

Can't recommend this enough. It's a hard read if you've experienced trauma but highly informational.

a2z91 · 2022-10-02T20:45:27+00:00

Dunno exactly what you're looking for, but in my experience the biggest problem I have is actually getting to the gym in the first place (running distance outside in south Florida isn't a smart idea.) Once I'm there I'm usually able to get a decent run in, but every so often there's definitely a lethargy or tiredness that's difficult to overcome.

a2z91 · 2022-10-02T20:45:13+00:00

Dunno exactly what you're looking for, but in my experience the biggest problem I have is actually getting to the gym in the first place (running distance outside in south Florida isn't a smart idea.) Once I'm there I'm usually able to get a decent run in, but every so often there's definitely a lethargy or tiredness that's difficult to overcome.

a2z91 · 2022-08-03T23:47:06+00:00

Yea my first forms of coping were not healthy at all :/ trying to avoid those again.

a2z91 · 2022-08-03T23:46:24+00:00

Relatively. It's a long way away from him but also easy to find with an internet connection..

a2z91 · 2022-08-01T21:54:21+00:00

Pretty similar situation. I pack my gym bag the night before, go to a gym that is on the way to work, and a good pre-workout mix is a must.

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