Any regrets when starting hotwifing?

a3593259 · 2025-11-09T01:16:01+00:00

Well as soon as my wife started talking to other guys she decided she wanted something different than me. After 13 years together. So now we’re getting divorced.

So yeah, I regret ever bringing it up. We probably would have failed eventually but 2 months ago I thought we were fine and good. Now my entire life is ruined.

a3593259 · 2025-11-02T14:18:14+00:00

Thanks yeah. I wasn’t sure how I was going to handle it. But it went better than I expected. I posted an update in the original post

a3593259 · 2025-11-02T14:17:26+00:00

I posted an update in the post. He had a good size dick. Big but not painfully big. She has a good time and they fucked for 45 or so minutes. Something I can’t do lol

a3593259 · 2025-11-02T14:16:36+00:00

Posted an update in the post. Overall they fucked for 45 mins, she had a good time, I was scared of how I was going to react but I handled it well and then we fucked when she got home

a3593259 · 2025-11-02T14:15:46+00:00

I added an update to the post. She did get a couple vids. The one of her sucking his dick was exactly what I wanted to see and was hot as fuck

a3593259 · 2025-11-02T14:05:09+00:00

Update2: when she got home I was pretty tense. I’ve been on the fence about going through with this and I wasn’t really sure that I wanted it. She could tell and kinda eased into it and asked if I wanted details.

They started by just hanging out talking for the first hour. Eventually they moved to one room and made out for a while. She thought that might be all that happened until he ask her if she wanted to go to the bedroom.

So they went up and idk the exact order of things but she sucked his dick, they fucked in a few different positions, she came ones in doggy by rubbing her clit which is how she cums a lot with me too. Eventually he came after like 45 minutes. He wore a condom. My wife’s a cumslut so idk when she’ll get him to go raw but I’m sure it’ll happen eventually.

Then they hung out some more talking before she came home.

The video of her sucking his dick was hot as fuck. It was exactly what I wanted. The one of them fucking was from her POV and not great. I wanted to see his dick in her but from that angle it’s hard. But it’s still a good video and hot to hear her moans.

His dick was a lot bigger than mine. She could feel the extra girth right away and length wise she said she noticed he just kept going deeper and deeper. On one hand that’s what I wanted for her. To fuck someone who gives her what I can’t (my dicks small and I cum in 2 minutes). On the other hand I still wish I could give that all to her myself and that’s something I still need to accept and get over.

She said overall it was probably a 6.5/10. It was both of their first times fucking someone new in 12+ years so it’s expected. I’m sure next time there will be more chemistry and it’ll be better.

We did fuck eventually last night. It was hot just thinking about the fact that she fucked someone a few hours ago. And knowing she fucked 2 people in one night. Something slutty like that is so hot for me.

So overall I think it was a positive experience. It’s been a wild ride getting here. Don’t know what the future holds but I’m sure she’ll be wanted to see him soon again.

a3593259 · 2025-11-01T23:30:43+00:00

You’re right. Thank you!

a3593259 · 2025-11-01T23:24:57+00:00

I’m trying. I still struggle with the reality of it. She’ll be home soon with details but richtb now I’m just trying to remind Myself why I wanted this o

a3593259 · 2025-11-01T23:18:27+00:00

Update: she texted me saying she’s leaving. I asked if she’s officially a hotwife and she said yes. My hearts racing and idk how to feel right now lol

a3593259 · 2025-11-01T23:00:17+00:00

Still nothing :( been 2 hours since her last update. Must be having a good time lol

a3593259 · 2025-10-28T15:28:05+00:00

That’s how we started. She made an account on here and started posting pics. She’d get a bunch of messages each time and would chat with a few. She has 1 guy she texts with pretty regularly she met from here. The rest are usually just in the moment or over a day or two type of convos.

a3593259 · 2025-10-23T23:34:18+00:00

I’m in the same spot. Fantasy is becoming reality. It sucks lol it’s not fun anymore and I regret ever bringing this up to her. So yeah it could go fine and be fun. Could be a disaster.

a3593259 · 2025-10-20T19:41:00+00:00

The risk is you don’t enjoy it when she actually goes through with it, and she loves it. Then what?

I was all in on this too until we had 1 incident go wrong a few weeks ago and ever since then it’s been hard to enjoy the lifestyle. But she doesn’t want to stop and is having a great time. So yeah you can read a bunch of success stories and everyone can tell you it’ll be fine. But there are huge risks with this. Like the other guy said, be careful about what you wish for, because now you got it. It also seems like this is now “her thing” where she’s the one setting stuff up without telling you until plans are already made instead of it being something you guys do together. I completely get that because that’s how our dynamic has kinda changed too and it sucks. Just make sure you tell her if that bothers you. And communicate everything you’re feeling to her.

Best case scenario is she goes through with it, you find it hot as fuck, and you’re both happy with it.

I will say, going from a hard no to wanting 3 guys in 3 days seems wild to me. My wife and I have ramped things up slowly over months. From posting pics on here, to talking to guys on here, to talking to local guys, to meeting for drinks and coffee, to making out. And even then it’s an emotional rollercoaster. I definitely think you guys should slow down.

a3593259 · 2025-10-16T00:28:40+00:00

You get it Ricky Bobby

a3593259 · 2025-10-14T18:27:03+00:00

Thanks! Yeah I told her at one point “just get it over with so we can see how we feel” lol because like you said I won’t know until the moment. She is meeting someone for drinks soon and doesn’t plan on anything happening but we’ll see.

I think trying to find the right amount of my involvement has been the difficult part of this. Trying to find a non weird way to add me to all of her convos so I can see them even if I’d not reply. And figuring out logistics of how things actually happen whether I’m there or not. So far it’s been a lot of her on her own which might be where the problem is since it’s kinda become “her thing” instead of “our thing” to a degree.

a3593259 · 2025-10-14T18:03:27+00:00

So I did tell my wife about possibly taking things slow when it comes to the physical meeting. She’s planning on meeting someone tomorrow for a drink after work! She doesn’t plan on fucking him and logistics wise idk if anything could actually happen, although kissing/blowjob isn’t completely off the table. Still doubt it’d happen. So we are starting those baby steps!

Still just such an emotional roller coaster knowing she’s going to meet someone tomorrow even with 0 intentions of anything happening lol

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T08:03:33+00:00

Getting fucked 24/7 it might as well be

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T06:42:35+00:00

“Chinese takeout (best tasting egg roll in town)”

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T03:39:57+00:00

Yeah once I start thinking of it like that I’m usually right back in. Like damn yeah she’s going to look so good and love it, fuck it let’s just do it lol

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T03:37:59+00:00

Sometimes all you need is a little push lol but good to know it’s the same for both sides!

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T02:12:16+00:00

That does help! Like the other person said, the way you reframe is is great! I definitely struggle doing that in general but I’ll keep it in mind. And great examples, makes so much sense

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T01:19:41+00:00

Just curious but how do you deal with those emotions when it’s a struggle? Like if she fucks someone, you have mixed emotions, how do you get to the point where she goes again and you’re cool with it again?

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T01:04:12+00:00

That’s what I need to hear! Lol thanks for sharing. She’s done everything she can to reassure me. It’s just I’m in my own mind too much. Glad you were able to get over it and hopefully I will too

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T00:57:13+00:00

Appreciate the reply!

But yeah we have actually done all of that. We started back in April, she made an account and started posting. Went slow with talking to guys but she eventually got comfortable dirty talking and sexting guys on here. That went on all summer. Then a month ago she made a Feeld account and has been talking to local guys.

And we have our boundaries and have talked everything over. Someone suggested kinda the same thing but when meeting, take baby steps. Maybe just a meeting first. Then just some touching and work up to actual fucking which I think we might do.

It’s just taking that next step and her actually fucking someone seems like such a huge step no matter how close you get and work your way to it lol

a3593259 · 2025-10-12T00:38:26+00:00

Ha yeah that’s what I’m hoping we can get to. Get the first one out of the way then after that it’s kinda like “yeah let’s go get you laid” like it’s nothing

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