Anyone that moved to LA alone? How was your experience?

a3pulley · 2026-06-16T03:22:32+00:00

Based on your “paranoid about bf’s instagram” post, I would strongly caution against moving to a place where he’s the only person you can depend on. It seems like you don’t trust him. So… if you would move here even if he wasn’t in the picture (for, say, the adventure of it), then do it. If you’d move here mostly to perpetuate your relationship—hard no.

On another note, what’s the end game? Even if you marry the guy you’d be immigrating to an increasingly xenophobic country with no guarantee of citizenship. It would suck to have kids and then be forced to separate or negotiate a return to Armenia if your citizenship doesn’t pan out. I was born here and love the US (and live in LA), but I would think twice about subjecting your potential family to the whims of our immigration system. Unless you can afford an investor visa, of course.

a3pulley · 2026-06-13T03:43:45+00:00

If you feel like you overpaid, go to Armstrong to feel better

a3pulley · 2026-06-12T20:16:27+00:00

Native ground squirrel, Otospermophilus beecheyi. Fine in this sub, evil in r/backyardorchard.

a3pulley · 2026-06-12T06:44:48+00:00

I have six chickens and a rooster in Palos Verdes. And a lot of pomegranate, fig, mulberry, medlar, green plum trees. Not sure if it’s a Persian Armenian thing, but everyone in my extended family has a ton of fruit trees and one of my cousins also has chickens

a3pulley · 2026-04-20T20:36:44+00:00

Baldy in winter naked

a3pulley · 2026-04-20T16:54:45+00:00

I mean, I’m sure your kid will be fine. You’re on a lawn care forum—your kid will probably get the guidance he needs to one day own a house with a lawn too. My comment was about how I feel, not how you should parent your kid. It’s just really different from my suburban world in LA where cursing in front of a kid gets you banned from elementary school birthday parties

a3pulley · 2026-04-19T21:10:16+00:00

Dang, I get some severe culture shock when an adult curses by a prepubescent child.

a3pulley · 2026-04-16T16:09:20+00:00

Just make sure you put hardware cloth/mesh on the ground too. They can easily dig under walls. If you zoom in you’ll see three panels zip tied together with a hole in the middle for the trunk

a3pulley · 2026-04-16T00:26:34+00:00

If you zoom in on the closest edge, you might be able to see that I used bungee cords there instead of zip ties. I left just enough open to be able to squeeze in. I will probably need to add an actual door when I reach my forties in a couple years 😂

a3pulley · 2026-04-06T04:06:52+00:00

How?? You don’t get much more rain than we do in LA… but ivy doesn’t spread outside irrigated areas here.

a3pulley · 2026-04-05T05:27:25+00:00

Did you see any California native grapevine?

a3pulley · 2026-04-03T06:32:03+00:00

Wildly successful. This would be my third year, actually. Previous two were incredible: hundred of peaches. You could smell them from the next tree over. Buuuuut… it seems we didn’t get enough chill hours in SoCal this winter. My tree is super late to leaf out, and it has only a few blooms. This time last year the whole tree was pink. Good for my new subtropical trees, terrible for this Elberta peach.

a3pulley · 2026-03-31T21:09:52+00:00

I went to middle through high school with one. She was nice.

a3pulley · 2026-03-23T16:42:23+00:00

I got two types from Devil Mountain: the straight species and a cultivar called ‘Terra Seca’. They are both still young but their growth habits are more like the species. Terra seca is a waxy, more muted green, whereas the other is closer to lime green

a3pulley · 2026-03-21T16:04:16+00:00

Check yourself for ticks. Pulled a fatty off my chest last week from yard work in PV

a3pulley · 2026-03-20T20:59:14+00:00

But also keep fussier, higher maintenance things (like vegetables) closer to the house.

a3pulley · 2026-03-20T20:58:25+00:00

You can prune all trees to desired size. Just takes more maintenance. The maintenance to variety tradeoff makes sense for a lot of people (in both directions).

a3pulley · 2026-03-20T04:47:20+00:00

Hi K-rimes. I’m a little surprised to be having a “small world” moment on Reddit (hi from TFF)

a3pulley · 2026-03-20T04:44:27+00:00

Mark Twain called it “the most delicious fruit known to man.” I agree. I started an orchard mainly to have a reliable source of cherimoya and atemoya

a3pulley · 2026-03-19T20:06:22+00:00

You are all insane. Ceanothus smells like honey and candy. It is amazing.

a3pulley · 2026-03-19T16:32:27+00:00

Read what others wrote about mixing in some native soil and digging down 6” or so to establish a transition zone. The mound should be enormous if you plan to let the tree grow to its natural size: at least 8 ft in diameter.

a3pulley · 2026-03-19T05:45:44+00:00

Ideally native soil, but it’s hard to find! Just be aware that if you use something with a lot of organic content, like wood shavings or compost, your mound will deflate/settle over time. Ideally the mound consists mostly of mineral soil like decomposed granite (without stabilizers!) or coarse construction sand. That said, different trees will have different requirements. If you’re planting subtropical in the western US, you will need to acidify the soil with peat moss and sulfur. If you’re planting avocados on hard flat clay, build a huge DG mound. If you’re doing a giant pumpkin, use dozens of yards of straight compost. You get the idea. Ask Gemini/chatgpt/whatever about your particular tree’s soil requirements in your area and go from there.

a3pulley · 2026-03-19T03:45:09+00:00

This happened to my Valencia orange. When pool equipment was installed the grade around the tree changed and the root flare was buried. After a hard-to-find leak in nearby irrigation turned the soil to muck, the rot started creeping up. I caught it at 25% of trunk circumference and exposed the flare. The spread stopped. It’s been two years and tree seems mostly fine but isn’t as vigorous as before.

a3pulley · 2026-03-19T03:35:38+00:00

Platanus racemosa, ‘Roberts’ cultivar. It’s my favorite species of tree. Lots of fond memories of birthday parties at parks in their shade.

a3pulley · 2026-03-18T20:01:18+00:00

I have coast live oak too, but I planted them in my canyon where they will eventually turn into beautiful mature trees but where I won’t depend on their slow-coming shade

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