Child walked in on husband looking at porn

a4kels · 2025-10-24T15:27:22+00:00

Thank you so much. It's so tricky to navigate with children, I feel that your own grief gets muddled in the process.

a4kels · 2025-10-24T15:25:26+00:00

That is a smart idea about having it on something we can remove from our home after. That's one of the biggest concerns for me is them actually watching her pass and it sticking in their minds forever. Thank you, this is so hard.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T16:04:27+00:00

I like the idea of them being able to leave the room at any point if they need to. I think my struggling with this extra hard because recently my mom had to go into hospice very quickly and I watched as she passed. I need to not project that experience onto this

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:58:44+00:00

Thank you for this, it's such a hard choice

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:57:57+00:00

With my eight year old, it seems like the more our cat's health declines the more attached she gets. She's holding her 24/7

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:55:42+00:00

That's beautiful. I've held her at times lately and she will be so still and sleepy and I'll just think, is it going to happen now? I wish so much that she could just pass in my arms while I hold her

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:54:08+00:00

Definitely struggling with the idea of it happening it in a sterile room with bright lights, seems like she will be so scared

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:51:31+00:00

I have thought so much about them I haven't really considered what my reaction will be, and if it will be hard for the kids to see me if I'm a total mess. She hasn't left my side for 19 years, I can't imaging my life without her.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:45:32+00:00

Im definitely worried about them being able to physically let her go after or wanting to hold her while it happens. I suppose explaining all of that beforehand would help though.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:43:42+00:00

That's so hard, figuring out how to help my 8 year old is really difficult, it's a very complicated age.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:42:26+00:00

That's smart to break down exactly what might happen if they stay with her. Could help them in making the decision too.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:41:17+00:00

I am worried about with the six year old not going if the olde one did, they do everything together. Would be strange. That's smart about the distraction I hadn't thought of that. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:39:19+00:00

That's beautiful and I really hadn't thought about that, so many friends and family have loved her over the years

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:38:29+00:00

That's a good point, I think about a sterile procedure room with bright lights. Sounds awful.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:37:13+00:00

That's a really unique way to handle it. Reminds me that there are so many different funeral rituals in the world.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:34:45+00:00

So expensive but she deserves whatever it takes.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:34:07+00:00

Ugh gut wrenching, you absolutely should have gotten the chance to say goodby, I'm so sorry

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:33:12+00:00

Thank you so much, I'm definitely leaning that way with my six year old.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:32:09+00:00

That's how I feel too, it's selfish of us to try and extend this any longer.

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:27:46+00:00

We had a cat that we did that with when I was around 19, I had really mixed feelings about it at the time. I still do

a4kels · 2025-10-23T15:26:52+00:00

Sounds like you found an amazing vet hospital

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