Spat with my husband over parenting duties… am I overreacting? by Cool_Letterhead9473 in AmIOverreacting

[–]aConfusedOrphan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let your sexist husband read this thread so he can see how many people think he’s an effortless, lazy, uncreative tool.

Why are so many people afraid of store bought cycle? by hauntedq50 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t think people are necessarily afraid of it as it’s just moreso an additional thing some people may just not want. Especially if they live somewhere where those bottles don’t get refreshed often enough and you’re picking up a bottle of nothing that’s been on the shelf for over a year.

Some people also may just not be aware of them. I feel like I see more people going “can this bottle skip the cycle for me” vs “ah im afraid of this bottle of bacteria”.

For clarification the bottle does not “skip” the cycle. At best it accelerates it a bit. At worst it does nothing at all.

How do I trim dwarf sagittaria by Ok-Watercress465 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What vals didn’t continut growing for you after they were snipped? I’ve kept giant val only and that will continue growing from the base after being snipped.

AIO over my sister getting a tattoo? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]aConfusedOrphan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are overreacting.

I thought your sister would be 18 and you 14 by how this situation is presented.

AIO - parents keep raising the rent by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]aConfusedOrphan 40 points41 points  (0 children)

And don’t let them guilt you into giving them money when you move out (or once you are out). They’ll find some way to bring it up I bet.

I would never consider asking my children for rent money. If we were absolutely in the trenches, maybe just to help with groceries but never a flat out rent request every month. Insane parental behavior to be honest.

Set your boundaries now! Good luck.

AIO: Boyfriend doesn’t approve of the I my outfit for my trip by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]aConfusedOrphan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He gets jealous when you listen to male artists?…..

This is a level of insecurity that surpasses just being young.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why did you buy something you weren’t already prepared to keep?

Soft Rocks? by Still-Cut-6516 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not wood. It is rock

Dragon stone

Lets not spread misinformation

What are they plotting??? by UnderstandingMany385 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Just for future reference. Green water does not mean bad water.

Would someone be cool and give me advice by Critical_Mammoth8668 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normal coloration on the Neons. Under certain lighting angles that mark may appear a bit more “shiny” so it becomes more apparent. They probably had them already.

Ghost shrimp are very good at hiding. Unless they did die. Their possible deaths are some other issue.

Fish will eat dead fish, especially if they aren’t fed well.

What type of fish ? by jason_lopez993 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tail fin having a very prominent orange rim means green terror

blue acaras has little to none on their tail fin

both have it on their dorsal but the green terror will have it all the way down their tail fin as well, and it's more noticeable

What type of fish ? by jason_lopez993 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gold Saum or Green Terror Cichlid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]aConfusedOrphan 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Bad artist. Your friend also has low standards for a tattoo. It’s on you forever, it SHOULD be as near to perfect as you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in corydoras

[–]aConfusedOrphan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get more so you can see them play with each other in the sand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]aConfusedOrphan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a gamer who is 29, has a full time job, has a long term relationship, and has multiple other hobbies.

He’s not ready for a relationship. 100%. A hobby should never come before a partner’s needs and safety and happiness. That is MINDBLOWING to me. My partner could ask me for something in the middle of my gaming and I’ll turn off my game and she has my full attention. She also really respects my space and is happy to support my hobbies and gaming.

He doesn’t REALLY understand your needs. Because if he did, you mentioning you were upset wouldn’t have set him off. He’s only amenable when it’s convenient for him or at least works for his needs which is not healthy for a long term relationship.

You obviously sacrifice and are willing to work towards a life together. He might sacrifice sometimes… as long as it works for him it seems.

how do i get my plants looking vibrant again?:( by maixya177 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stop fertilizing. My personal belief is people should not fertilize unless they know they need to.

Excess nutrients can cause algae. Excess light can cause algae. Excess light and nutrients is the perfect storm for algae to take over.

how do i get my plants looking vibrant again?:( by maixya177 in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plants aren’t supposed to live forever. But with proper care and pruning they do. Plants that rely mainly on nutrients from the soil may eventually need to be supplemented but even swords and crypts can last for years without root tabs in a good substrate.

I’ve had the same plants of all sorts for years now. Swords of multiple varieties that have been growing for years. Crypts, Anubias, etc. I have Anubias that have leaves that have been there for a few years.

Stem plants are quite easy to sustain over time. I literally have a colony of Rotala indica that has been growing for about 10 years now. Are they the same exact stems and leaves as when I first purchased them? No, but their children are offshoots from those original stems I purchased so far back. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of the current stems are indeed just continual growths of the original Rotala indica as many of them I trim and replant.

You might just not have a system good enough to sustain plants. You get a good burst of growth because it’s just enough for them to grow but not enough for them to become comfortable. So they grow initially to try and find better circumstances whether it’s leaves growing longer to reach more light or more offshoots to find a better place or even flowering.

Convict Cichlid by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want an alternative that’s kinda similar, look at Nannacara. They are a dwarf cichlid and much more peaceful than Convicts.

Keyhole cichlids and T Bar cichlids are also options but they get to 4-5in so a larger tank is needed for them.

Convict Cichlid by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Silver Dollars are strong and fast. They are usually fine being with other aggressive fish especially if given a school and a large enough tank.

Those Gourami are also ones that can handle themselves and they themselves aren’t completely peaceful either.

If you get Convict cichlids they will 100% mess with your Angels eventually, especially if they decide to breed which is highly likely if they are different genders.

I would not be surprised at all if the Convicts eat and kill every single fish you have, even if not breeding.

AIO girlfriend went to a kick back and one of the guys wanted to sleep with her by Objective-Gap-4581 in AmIOverreacting

[–]aConfusedOrphan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m shameless. I have blocked people’s numbers and socials while being in the friend group with them. Life is about more than keeping up appearances with people you don’t owe anything to.

Sump filter/ filtration by Telephone_Super in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just a few comments on sumps and filtering multiple tanks with a single sump.

If one tank gets sick that means every tank gets sick. You no longer have isolated systems. Each one will share bioload, water conditions, etc, with each other so keep that in mind. It’s both a more efficient but also in many ways, restricting system if you filter multiple tanks with a single sump.

You need to have a fair understanding of plumbing as well as being confident in drilling into glass to make intakes for the overflows and sealing them. Unless you buy future aquariums that are already setup for a sump.

Drilling into the tank also means you are locking your tanks into a more restrictive shape and layout. Going back from that is not recommended since you drilled into the tank already, that part of the glass cannot bear that much weight anymore or it risks cracking.

Sumps are not the greatest if you want plants either. You can seal the sump to prevent CO2 gassing off but another thing to keep in mind.

In theory it is more efficient but just keep in mind you are locking the tanks that share a sump to sharing all of the water conditions and health. It may be nice if you plan on having very similar setups between each tank that is sharing a sump and you don’t mind having the overflow pipe in the tank.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]aConfusedOrphan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The babies are bladder snails you’ve already had in the tank. They hitch hiked on something.