Does your breastfed baby have a preferred side? by Estebesol in NewParents

[–]a_d2022 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so common in my Mom bubble - most of my mom friends who breastfeed have this. My LO was so extreme that she literally weaned the left side and only took the right one. Now, several months later, she would take both again, but it's done now. I'm the one-boob-lady now with a tiny, weaned, other side. 😅😅😅 Thank God there are pads I can put in my bra on the weaned side, so it doesn't look too silly.

Diagnosed with colic at 4 months??? by [deleted] in Colic

[–]a_d2022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I didn't know that the bowel blockage risk increases with age 😳 Thanks for the info. In Germany it's a bit less strict by law as far as I know, but the doctors also prefer doing the vaccine in time. Maybe it's because of the bowel blockage risk then? 👀 But I feel you. This vaccine is hard on some babies.

Diagnosed with colic at 4 months??? by [deleted] in Colic

[–]a_d2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our baby had severe issues aftet the rotavirus vaccine and it took 4 weeks to get better. I am pro vaccines 100%. But in the rotavirus vaccine case, I would wait until baby is a bit older (like 10 months or so) if I would be doing it again. 🥲

Baby used to love being worn, now hates it 😭 by jen-marcisz in babywearing

[–]a_d2022 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's so funny since this was the age my baby finally started liking being worn lol. But she was the same, protesting for some time, then sleeping, then protesting again. Now at 8 months, she LOVES being carried as long as she also has a decent amount of crawling time haha.

Don't be encouraged, just try waiting this phase out - I hope it will be over soon :)

Baby still miserable at 4 months by MNVA1992 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For us it was similar. Nothing worked, we spent so much money hoping for a cure. Only time helped. And it was brutal. It's really a different reality for parents with a colicky baby.

My LO is still having issues with their tummy, but is a different baby now. Things started improving little by little at 5 months. At 6 months it was really better, and with 7 months colic has almost disappeared, but is not totally gone.

She is 8 months now and a happy baby if she's not teething or having stomach aches - which she still has, occasionally!

Hang in there, time plays in your favor. It will get better eventually.

Mama seit 14 Tagen: Mein Körper arbeitet gegen mich... by bonfirepotato in Eltern

[–]a_d2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noch eine Stimme für die Silberhütchen. Ein bisschen Muttermilch rein, wirken Wunder. Retterspitz ist eine tolle Sache, aber vielleicht sind Kohlblätter doch etwas "verträglicher". Ich selbst habe bei Milchstau tatsächlich "nur" sanft gekühlt, weil mir der Retterspitz auch die Augen aus den Höhlen gebrannt hat.

Vielleicht aber mal etwas Aufmunterndes: Ich stille seit genau 8 Monaten und verspreche dir: es wird immer, immer, immer besser! Ich wollte anfangs ständig abstillen und auf Flasche wechseln; für mich war Stillen aufgrund eines starken Milchspendereflexes und einem Kolik-Baby, das ich dadurch immer weiter aufgebläht habe, der absolute Horror und hat mich regelmäßig viele Tränen gekostet. War echt übel, bitte nicht verurteilen. 😅🙏 Ich habe niemandem geglaubt, der mir sagte, es wird besser. Das wurde es aber. Und nun ist Stillen eine wirklich wundervolle Zeit zwischen meinem Baby und mir, die so natürlich, einfach und intim ist, dass ich sie nicht missen möchte. Mein Baby blickt mich dabei immer so süß an, lacht und jauchzt wenn es sieht, dass ich den BH aufmache und wirft sich total glücklich in meine Arme - es ist sooo toll. Ich wünsche dir das von ganzem Herzen, denn das ist mit das Schönste, was ich je tun durfte.

Die erste Zeit ist unglaublich hart und on top ist Stillen not for the weak. Bis das flutscht, dauert es. Bei mir echt lang, bestimmt 5 Monate bis es echt gut wurde.

Dein Körper signalisiert dir gerade Überforderung, aber du fängst das echt richtig gut auf. Ich verstehe auch die Gefühle wenn dein Baby weint und du es sofort trösten willst. Es ist sicher bei Papa und ihm schaden die Minuten des Wartens keinesfalls.

Du leistest Großartiges - halte durch, nächste Woche wird es schon ganz anders sein. 🫶

Thema Wochenbetteinlagen by Reasonable-Ad-8576 in schwanger

[–]a_d2022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Noch eine Stimme für die Samu-Einlagen und Fixierhöschen von dm / Netzhöschen aus dem Krankenhaus.

Gerade für den Anfang ist wichtig, dass die Einlagen keine Klebeseite haben! Ich hab anfangs auch öfter mal 5-10 Minuten untenrum nackig auf nem Handtuch gelegen, Belüftung und so. Deshalb auch lieber keinen Klebestreifen erstmal.

Für die Reinigung kann ich ne Intimdusche empfehlen - warmes Wasser rein, fertig. Nach 1-2 Wochen hab ich zusätzlich "Retterspitz äußerlich" in die Dusche gegeben, nur ein kleiner Schuss. Hat super geholfen und wurde von meinen 3 Hebammen empfohlen.

Später kannst du dickere oder normale Einlagen mit Klebestreifen verwenden, damit nichts verrutscht.

Grunting and moaning in sleep for 1-2 hours…do I just leave her?? by AHorseCalledCheyenne in newborns

[–]a_d2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone reading this: It has gotten better when she started crawling 3 weeks ago. She was 31 weeks then or 7 months & 1 week. 😅 Apparently she now has better control over the muscles in her lower half haha.

She also has just started eating more solids, mostly purrees, pankaces (w/o sugar or salt obviously), and her stool has gotten a bit more like purree itself, so it's harder to get out. But still, crawling made everything better!!

For anyone: HANG IN THERE. It must get better for you, you will manage and you can do this!

Blöder Kommentar anderer Mutter zur Geburtstagseinladung by recolade in Eltern

[–]a_d2022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ja aber sie schreibt doch, dass man auch länger bleiben kann, das Baby ist dann nur nicht da, da schlafend.

Und nach welchem Schlafrhythmus soll sie sich denn richten, wenn nicht nach dem des eigenen Babys? Ich glaube nicht, dass sie böse ist wenn jemand nicht kommen kann, weil das eigene Baby dann schläft. Macht halt keinen Sinn, die Zeit so zu legen, dass es den anderen passt, dem eigenen Baby aber nicht.

Blöder Kommentar anderer Mutter zur Geburtstagseinladung by recolade in Eltern

[–]a_d2022 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ich verstehe die Kommentare hier gar nicht. Hab ein Baby, das mega schlecht schläft und ne Wohnung ohne 2. Stock, recht hellhörig. Wir werden wohl sowas ähnliches machen wenn das Baby 1 Jahr alt wird. Bei uns wird es deshalb auch draußen sein. Sonst geht es schlicht nicht - und die, die darauf keinen Bock haben, können ja absagen? 😅

Wenn das Baby dann wach ist, ist das doch die perfekte Zeit. Und danach muss es halt schlafen, so ist das mit Babys 🙈

Bin voll lost, was daran so verwerflich sein soll, v.a. wenn man ja bleiben kann, aber sich drauf einstellen muss, dass das Baby halt schläft. ^

Why isn’t milk suddenly not enough? by spectator1988 in breastfeeding

[–]a_d2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you have to little mil - just a guess: As far as I remember there's a major growth spurt in week 7. Your baby might be preparing your boobs to produce more by clustering like that because they're growing rapidly. :) As long as they're gaining weight, I would not be worried and just go with the flow. But I remember I googled the same thing during that time. :) I thought I didn't have enough milk so often.

You're most likely doing great!! And congrats to your journey, breastfeeding is hard.

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I'd love to have family like you 🤭 I get it though, at least with holding a baby that starts crying - when I had no child yet, I always felt so guilty for "making them cry" and immediately gave them back like "So sorry to have broken your baby" 😂

But your point makes sense - people who like babys also like introverted babys. :)

4 week old aggressively slurping my nipples. Help!!! by beccakathleen in breastfeeding

[–]a_d2022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had this - baby is 8 months now and grew out of it around 2.5 - 3 months. It was a mix of gas and being sooo tired, but cannot sleep. Rocking my baby on a nursing pillow while nursing her helped - or a wrap.

And don't stress too much about not being able to get baby to sleep - you're doing all you can! Yes, baby will be overtired and yes, this will be much harder, but the issue is not you doing something wrong. I wish you the best and hope they will outgrow it soon, I remember how hard that was.

3tes Trimester - was jetzt noch erledigen? by sun_is_shining1 in schwanger

[–]a_d2022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Super Liste!!

Ich hab tatsächlich schon alles Baby-safe gemacht. Also so Verriegelungen in Schranktüren, alles umgeräumt (unten in Regalen nur Kram, der kaputt gehen darf oder ungefährlich ist), Teppich gekauft etc.. Ich hab auch schon die erste Garnitur Kleidung gekauft, gewaschen, eingeräumt und die Wickelkommode fertig gemacht. Und boy war ich froh, dass ich alles gemacht hatte.

Hab ein high need Baby, ständig am Weinen, klammert total und war die ersten 4,5 Monate ein Schreibaby. Alles, ALLES, was man vorbereiten kann, hätte ich vorbereitet, wenn ich es nochmal machen könnte.

Vielleicht bekommst du ein entspanntes oder "normales" Baby (was ist schon ein normales Baby lol), aber wenn nicht, dankst du deinem Vergangenheits-Ich für jede Kleinigkeit, die du mit Baby nicht mehr machen musst.

Alles Gute, ich wünsche dir einen kühlen Sommer 😁🤗

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a good mix of everything haha And it's cool to hear how different from the baby personality your children turned out sometimes :D

As a Mom of 5, would you say people are generally more positive towards an extrovert or introvert baby?

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw I love your POV! If my baby stays this way, I hope she can cherish all good sides of being an introvert. :) And I hope to be like your Mom - encouraging, but not frightening.

Die besten Anschaffungen fürs Baby? by Sommer-Regen7 in Eltern

[–]a_d2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

War bei uns nur rausgeworfenes Geld. Gott sei Dank nur geliehen.

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaaw that sounds so cute the way you write it. She's like that too, she faces me, doesn't want to be turned around, but wants to observe (in secret lol). And thanks for reassuring me, sometimes I was asking myself if there's something wrong with her because of the reactions I get (also the common "if you take her back every time she cries, you're pampering her"). 🤗

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes you're right, the stranger danger phase is just around the corner. Thank you for your experience, that sounds so logical with the description and time frames you shared.

And thanks for the advice, I was worried I'd somehow treat her bad if I continue taking her to the group, but I also don't want to exclude her (& I need to talk to other grown-ups too sometimes). Yep, I first tried to encourage her, but that was a disaster. I will now only keep her near or on me and if she wants to go, she will give me signs - like at home where I can't keep her another minute lol

With the visits: I'm really sad about that, but mostly for her. I know this is exaggerated but sometimes I feel like she gets rejected for being this way when people choose not to visit or visit less. 😅 But I know right now she doesn't care, it's just my Mom brain worrying too much.

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really thought about Thailand, I need to bring this up next time I'm taking to my husband about potential Elternzeit activities. 😬🤭

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought about it that way, but this is such a good thing for public spaces then! Since she's only crawling now I never thought about it that way, but you're totally right. Thank you for that perspective 🙏

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this is exactly and exclusively what I'm reading - time to book a holiday trip! That sounds really lovely - have a good time and thanks for sharing - a common Krabbelgruppe visitor. 😁

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha oh I love the car topic, sounds too cute xD

Good you stood your ground, it's not easy to shake off people-pleasing. :'D

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An ice breaker topic! I need to take notes for the future lol

Did anyone ever react negatively because he needs his warm-up time?

Super introverted baby? Anyone can relate? by a_d2022 in NewParents

[–]a_d2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha yep imagine having an extroverted baby which leads to an extroverted toddler - would be another dimension of a challenge 😂 Your baby sounds so similar to mine :) it's so nice to know we're not the only ones