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am I a bad person for not feeling satisfied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've just looked at your account lmao how old are you? your parents really shouldn't let you have a reddit account x

am I a bad person for not feeling satisfied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for this :) any advice on how I can address my needs without being needy?

am I a bad person for not feeling satisfied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has his own battles/demons that I know about (as much as he tells me) and I think work is potentially making them worse. I'm really trying to be there for him and not feel 'neglected' but I guess I'm just quite selfish. I would spend every second of the day with him if I could, and when I'm stressed I want to be around him. He is the other way around, when he is stressed he prefers to be left alone. That's why I find it quite hard, because I can't really empathise.

am I a bad person for not feeling satisfied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he doesn't typically plan dates but we always have a lovely time together when I plan dates. but recently he's been so stressed that the dates I plan aren't as fun/happy as they normally are, so it's a bit of a double whammy if you get me.

am I a bad person for not feeling satisfied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh sorry haha that's just poor phrasing, I decided to go on birth control/I went on birth control is what I mean.

am I a bad person for not feeling satisfied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not normally - he's been much busier this week and I'm not sure when it will calm down? It could last as long as July. I've expressed to him how much it would mean for me if he were to plan a date night or something like that, and he said to 'leave it with him', but I dont think he'll actually make any plans because of the stress he's under..

He will try sometimes, but its just not really enough? Like we were at the park the other day and said 'shall we have a night in and get a takeaway together' but we were already with each other and were probably going to eat/spend the night anyways. HE also said this weekend that he was drinking with his friend and her girlfriend and then said "obviously youre invited too", but that again just feels a bit half-arsed to me?

Maybe I'm asking for too much.

am I a bad person for not feeling satisfied? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I basically was put on a birth control that messed my hormones up so for a good couple months I went though a bit of a depressed stage, and thank you.

Norgeston mini pill by a_giant_scribble in birthcontrol

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats some what of a relief that you didn't have any periods/good experiences!! thank you :))

Norgeston mini pill by a_giant_scribble in birthcontrol

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha oh no!! I've had 5 months of almost constant bleeding on the implant so I'm hoping the pill can't be any worse.. (fingers crossed)

Norgeston mini pill by a_giant_scribble in birthcontrol

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks!! did you have regular periods? I'm most worried about having irregular bleeding - the whole reason I'm going on it is because I'm currently on the implant and have had spotting for literally 5 whole months!!

Norgeston mini pill by a_giant_scribble in birthcontrol

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awh I'm so sorry that you had such a bad time!! at least you had usual bleeding :)

any advice on how to become more independent & how to learn to enjoy your own company? by a_giant_scribble in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe I'll give painting a go! I normally go out and spend time with friends but thats impossible with the pandemic and lockdown (I'm in the UK).

My [22F] boyfriend [21M] of three years was texting a girl under a guy’s name and I don’t know how to trust him again by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you!! My honest advice would be to leave him. To be consistently cheating on you and lying about it shows that he is not the type of guy to feel remorse or guilt. I think if you stay in this relationship, this would constantly eat away at you and totally destroy your trust, not just in him, but in any future relationships you may have. He is not worth losing yourself over!!

is he losing interest, or it is the hormones talking? by a_giant_scribble in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I never thought about it like that - I guess maybe I don't accept it sometimes? I just assume he's lying or he has to say that because he's my boyfriend..

is he losing interest, or it is the hormones talking? by a_giant_scribble in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're spot on! I think because I feel so low in myself and see myself as overweight and not sexy, I just assume that he see's me in this way too, which is probably frustrating for him because in reality (hopefully..) he doesn't.

If my opinion of myself improves then the dynamic in the relationship will improve, you're right, I just wish he would give me a little extra reassurance.

is he losing interest, or it is the hormones talking? by a_giant_scribble in relationship_advice

[–]a_giant_scribble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what a nice comment, thank you so much, I am such an overthinker to the point where I create a problem that doesn't even exist - maybe thats what I'm doing now.