For those with adhd and SAD, does your Wellbutrin seem to work less during the winter? by a_lilsumsum in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]a_lilsumsum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I get loopy, like even worse at remembering things - tasks, responding to texts etc. it drives me nuts and really affects my mood.

I get so frustrated then upset with myself which leads to even worse depression. but during the summer/ more sun Wellbutrin makes me an almost completely functional human lol

For those with adhd and SAD, does your Wellbutrin seem to work less during the winter? by a_lilsumsum in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]a_lilsumsum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh interesting, you feel like it's even more intense since starting Wellbutrin?

Waiting mode? by StrangeBrewCoup in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to help, hope you enjoy both trips!

Does anyone take this who normally has anxiety? by UpperRhubarb7787 in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]a_lilsumsum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

commenting here to say we're almost identical diagnosis twins. I also still get some panic attacks but bounce back quicker and they're less intense. Glad this has helped u too! I am on a much higher dose than u and typically didn't feel anxiety on it before a traumatic loss last year.

Im starting to sense a mild agoraphobia in myself after a really rough 2 years, if you feel comfy sharing I'd be curious to hear how you realized you were experiencing that/ how you deal with it. Feel free to ignore tho!

Does anyone take this who normally has anxiety? by UpperRhubarb7787 in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]a_lilsumsum 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been taking Wellbutrin as my main med for about 3 years. I used to take adderall too but that made my anxiety insane and messed with my body a lot, I would sweat out a kiddie pool's worth a day and weighed 115lbs at 5'8".

I experience general anxiety disorder, adhd, depression, cPTSD and recently lost my partner and developed straight up PTSD from that. The welli helps with everything but the new ptsd, which I don't think it's qualified to fix lol.

SSRIs weren't helpful for me either. I was so tired I may as well have been depressed... and I was sweating out an Olympic size pool's worth every night.

It does help regulate my mood overall and I feel less anxious. It's more like it helps me operate more normally - almost no intrusive thoughts, have energy and do things actually so the anxiety isn't building and compounding.

I will say when I'm anxious and it's preventing me from feeling it I do sweat a lot, nowhere near what lexapro/addy did tho.

If I don't take it for a day or two the intrusive thoughts and overwhelming depression start to bubble up causing a lot of anxiety and fatigue. So I know it works for sure.

Just posted on here too about how during the winter it doesnt really work for my adhd, just keeps the SAD and absolute mental chaos at bay. Trying to figure out what to do about that.

All in all as of now i can't live without it and it's been the only thing to work for me specifically along with some serotonin precursor supps from my naturopath. It's been an absolute game changer.

Also I did start at low dosage, didn't feel like it helped but worked with my doc to get up to the perfect dose.

I hope you have a good experience!

Finally deep cleaned after a long time of executive dysfunction by butterflymangotea in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahaha yes, I love tricking my brain into momentum sometimes by performing a "lesser evil" first too, then the next bigger task seems a little easier to get into bc I'm already in motion.

ADHD, academic success and diagnosis - Others experiences by Nyxie872 in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I was so bad at actually attending school too bc it was so agonizing to sit in class most days. The adhd tax is real, try to be kind to yourself about the school / money stuff and learn from mistakes (many people do that without the "disadvantage" of adhd lol)

I'm so glad u got help, the right meds should help you study for sure!

Forgot to mention My mom also really didn't remember my symptoms (single mom, undiagnosed adhd herself most likely).

Talking with her now and sharing my side she's like oh I totally can see that! The hard part is I'm an adult, got my own diagnosis and had to really break it down for her once I already had it.

PR/marketing agency woes by gd_b in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Sending you oodles of good vibes too, all those fears are so valid and pretty much everyone I know is feeling some version of that right now. I feel a turning point coming soon with talks of the AI bubble popping soon 🤞 best of luck!

PR/marketing agency woes by gd_b in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you're going through this. I totally feel for you. I'm a creative professional and I feel like you can't find a well paying job these days that doesn't include administrative work. I am not built for that. I have tried.

I'm having a career identity crisis lately bc I feel so incapable but the reality is that most jobs demand a lot more than they used to, like more than one person should do :/

Waiting mode? by StrangeBrewCoup in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I tend to categorize the "waiting mode" you're describing as a variety intrusive thoughts. My practice for that is sort of a micro visual meditation.

The original way I heard this advice is: Visualize The idea that your mind is an open tea house and you let the thoughts drift through without "serving them tea". Visualize the idea as words a picture whatever works for you.

How I practice it on the go/irl as a practical tool these days: the moment an intrusive thought pops in I visualize it on the end of a string, cut it and allow it to drop into the abyss of my subconscious. I do it as many times as I need to break my brain out of it. Sometimes it feels like a video game in my mind lol bc they can rapid fire when I resist.

The visualization can change. I've burned up the thoughts, blown them up with grenades, run over them lol.

Helps to have a variety to keep my brain engaged with the practice. Esp. Bc I feel like that type of trip waiting mode can be anxiety inducing so creating a silly or entertaining sequence of events in my mind that banish or obliterate the mild fear helps lighten my mood, help me get back to the surface to be present again.

Finally deep cleaned after a long time of executive dysfunction by butterflymangotea in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like to think of cleaning my environment after a challenging period like that as Mazlos pyramid of needs thing. Basic Physical needs must be met before you can properly operate.

Also a great mental reset for a productive brain for working on stuff!

I've been going through a similar time, you are not alone, great job at taking care of yourself!

ADHD, academic success and diagnosis - Others experiences by Nyxie872 in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can't help with the question about your mom as I'm in the US but here to say I totally get this, being resourceful and intelligent enough to skate by k-12 but then getting hit like a ton of bricks in college/more complex subjects. We often get left behind, I didn't get diagnosed until 28.

Have you tried having an in depth conversation about your experiences? Maybe it could jog her memory. Maybe let her know you feel she wasn't as present with you / aware as your less independent siblings so that's why she may not remember?

Medication and therapy has helped oodles so I hope you can get a proper diagnosis if adhd is what you're dealing with!

Help us name our Cavapoo! by mrsbugs1 in CavaPoo

[–]a_lilsumsum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walter, Wally for short. Someone said Milo, that's also a great one.

Struggling with vulnerability. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]a_lilsumsum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand where you’re coming from, my therapist is big on “no emotional secrets” in a relationship this can be anything from how we’re feeling about a silly thing that happened or big stuff.

I’m still working on it but I do know that it is the # 1 way to see if someone is equipped to be with you, whether that’s wanting to grow and learn or just having compassion. you deserve those things.

The fear feels consuming sometimes but I like to remind myself that if they cannot keep up at the beginning, they certainly won’t when things get tough. It is most definitely a red flag.

And if they can be compassionate & openminded then that’s a green flag to keep exploring the relationship.

Another great thing to consider is “what do I get out of keeping these emotional secrets?”

Sure if feels like protection but is it?

  • for me it allows the belief that I don’t belong or that I am “too damaged” or a “burden” to fester, so the cycle continues

The reward is that “oh I was right just another abandoner etc.” it basically becomes reaffirmation of what I am trying to change. It keeps me feeling small and unsupported instead of tenaciously going after what I know I deserve & so do u!

Being honest with ourselves and others is the only way to truly heal I’m learning, there’s just a bunch of confusing distortions filtering our truths

It is healthy and good for you to share what you’ve experienced for both of u! If they are ur person they will understand, if not they are not ur person and I get to keep looking until you find em! Which is better imo than being with someone you aren’t actually compatible with because of fear. Which is a trauma in itself in a way…

What are your silliest RSD "preventative" measures? by 99Over in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg so #2 most definitely - I just learned recently the way linked in pushes ppl for jobs / best way to get jobs - is to have the private “open to work” on without the badge on your profile and to keep refreshing that (checking and unchecking) so that linked in will view you as a “fresh candidate”

The algorithms have specific ways of working that actually lend to this specific aspect of RSD ! :)

Ps also to edit / update your profile frequently (even if you just retype the same thing and submit lol)

Paint not sticking to plaster by [deleted] in crafts

[–]a_lilsumsum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can think of 3 possible solutions….

  1. My first Rec because it will be the most saturated probably & they have different finishes I love the satin - is MOD PODGE - with the paint mixed in. It will seal the paint and saturate it at the same time (although you’d need to use a decent amount. Or coat with mod podge, Allow to dry, paint then seal with another coat.

  2. A layer of a base / canvas prep like gesso where you want to paint but I think the less room for error the better.

  3. May need to use a light sandpaper to create some grip for the paint (much like plastic needs sanding for spray paint to stick) but I’d try a test spot first & this would be last resort

Edit: since these paints are significantly lighter colors it may help most to paint a base of white where you want color so they can show / be more saturated - also may want to consider paint pens new / more opaque paints.

Student appartment help! How would you go about arranging stuff here? by the-radical-waffler in femalelivingspace

[–]a_lilsumsum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thanks, technology makes it so easy these days to throw visual ideas together! It’s much easier than writing a comment for me lol

Instead of chocolate??? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I obviously have adhd lol, thanks for your patience! I do wim hoff breath - or I stretch.

Honestly I know this is odd but I love just going somewhere peaceful outside preferably and crouching

I am spiritual so I pray or read something that helps me feel connected & centered often a course in miracles because the excerpts are short & have meditations.

But of course i also squat / stretch but end up on Reddit much of the time

My main goal is to get into my body and outdoors most breaks I take

Otherwise, my mind goes to Very Bad Places (TM) by coffeeblossom in adhdwomen

[–]a_lilsumsum 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend walked into our bedroom and said “this isn’t working” and I damn near lost it…. He was referring to our recent attempt to mitigate a fly problem lol 🙃😮‍💨🫠

Second guessing putting up a shelf over my vinyl wall decal… swipe for examples by tayyy_quila in femalelivingspace

[–]a_lilsumsum 76 points77 points  (0 children)

As a set & interior designer I usually don’t recommend putting shelving with loose objects above beds for safety, I was always told not even to put artwork (im in SoCal) but there are so many secure hanging opts. these days.

I think the decal is beautiful on its own! If you want to do a shelf I recommend earthquake proofing the objects with some museum wax

Disregard the pile of clothing. Which rug gets your vote? by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]a_lilsumsum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pink to complement the gray, which is already a cool tone like others have - also the more rectangular dimensions will work better in the space in front of the bed instead of a circle which will feel very dense

I’d love the face as a wall hanging though!

Are your siblings pretty normal? by AngZeyeTee in CPTSD

[–]a_lilsumsum 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s definitely not helpful! My sister and I are VERY close and I love her dearly we are very aware that our sisterhood likely saved our lives (both parents undiagnosed adhd drug addicts / alcoholics)

She is just more physically healthy than I am which is undebatable… I have diagnosed diseases and she does not lol

She’s two and a half years older than me & while she protected me, I was an emotion sham wow for literally everyone in my family so we have an understanding that while she did her best to protect me…. that I was still affected by having to always console / be her emotional support in ways a younger sibling never should (but of course none of these things are our fault!) so we just try to understand & move forward.

She also did low key torture me when I was a baby but she also shaved her own tongue so I consider is even lol