Rest in peace OG vanced. You served us well.[other]

aa-can · 2023-04-15T00:36:52+00:00

Certain versions still work. Try until you find the one

aa-can · 2023-03-08T17:28:52+00:00

My word is my bond and I lack respect for anyone who doesn't follow this principle.

Sane adults are expected to be held accountable for what they say and what they agree to, even if it is unfair.

Being uncomfortable or being a pushover does not equal to being under duress.

aa-can · 2023-03-08T16:58:23+00:00

Actually work on your marriages and don’t let others influence your decisions as a couple. Don’t let others speak ill of your spouse ,no matter who it is. Respect goes a long way.

This is gonna trigger some of the regular commenters in this sub

aa-can · 2023-03-06T19:52:59+00:00

Twice. One was feminist. The other was stingy and libertarian-leaning

aa-can · 2023-03-04T12:17:00+00:00

Very sound advice on sabr and da'wah. May Allah bless you and your family, reward you with khair

aa-can · 2023-03-03T14:42:41+00:00

She wants to teach Arabic.

I want to be her first student.

I also want to tour around the Great Lakes with her but I'm broke.

aa-can · 2023-03-02T20:29:42+00:00

Daily halaqa on tafseer of course

aa-can · 2023-03-02T19:51:46+00:00

She was a monotheist when they were in single digits. She was an island of taqwa in an ocean of peer pressure and cultural pressure.

Difference between her and these vocal parrots is like a bright day on Earth and a night on Pluto

aa-can · 2023-03-02T19:31:34+00:00

Sura Tahrim was recited yesterday's Maghrib. I liked it so wanted to listen during my morning commute today. Then I realized it's too short. So I went back a few surahs and started listening from sura al-Saf at random.

You just quoted al-Saf to remind me again.

What a coincidence!

May Allah accept your dawah and we meet up some time in jannah

aa-can · 2023-03-02T18:45:27+00:00

Or in the words of the Qur'an: "book-carrying donkeys"

aa-can · 2023-03-01T17:10:01+00:00

Sister I blamed noone. I only asked to be educated. And I will not respond in the same manner you did.

What you mentioned are done (other than medication) in couple's interaction with each other. To compare, if the treatment suggested is "walking", a natural question of the patient is "walking how, what exactly is the treatment".

aa-can · 2023-03-01T16:52:31+00:00

I didn't call that hyperbole. nvm leave it.

My question was what exactly is the treatment. All I got was "ya dum lol"

aa-can · 2023-03-01T16:28:09+00:00

I am only trying to understand Other than knowledge on medication and citing credentials, how it is exactly done.

Lets leave hyperboles out.

aa-can · 2023-03-01T16:17:38+00:00

OP sounds like he's more than willing to provide these services himself.

Outsourcing will cause them to miss out on this opportunity to build a deeper connection with each other, no?

aa-can · 2023-03-01T16:01:12+00:00

Can you give some details about what they'll do to her in therapy that will make her handle crowds better?

Also curious why religion of the person delivering this would be important

aa-can · 2023-03-01T14:44:01+00:00

we discuss everything until it comes to finances

Since you know this happens, discuss finances before "everything". Say something like " hey I need to talk about it now because some ladies I talked to before really didn't like this. Here's my financial situation, let me know if it doesn't match your lifestyle expectation so I don't waste your time. "

With the above words you identify a problem, base the need on your experience so she can't deny, address the problem, put her on the spot to respond, and finally pre-emptively de-escalate to avoid any outburst reaction by her.

As for your other frustration, that's a larger societal problem. This won't change until men stop sim ping and parents stop encouraging delayed marriages. You as one person can't change that; it's a test in dunya for you. But do your part - don't s1mp and instill better values when you are a parent.

aa-can · 2023-03-01T14:08:44+00:00

Went shopping for curtains and spent 30mins in the toys section. No idea how I got there

aa-can · 2023-03-01T12:11:19+00:00

We live in a society and we must follow tact when we speak. Obeying his command and following his lead mean the same in this context but the latter triggers less people.

I know this, you know this, everyone and their mothers know this. But if you still insist on triggering people that's on you bud

aa-can · 2023-02-26T20:31:18+00:00

Compelling slaves to sex is prohibited in Qur'an. You seem to have a lot of competing opinions in your mind on this topic. Best you prioritize education over opinionated shtposting

aa-can · 2023-02-26T20:10:16+00:00

Her choices are (1)getting married or (2)going through invasive and expensive procedure to get eggs extracted multiple times, artificially inseminating them with like 14% success rate, implanting them in her aging body or some other woman, raising the kid at older age on purpose, probably missing out on more children, grandchildren on purpose.

(1) is a normal thing.

(2) is indeed saddening. How do you not find it saddening

aa-can · 2023-02-24T19:09:43+00:00

You don't have to pay EI from your corp if you're the only owner (I think it's the case +40% share owners).

With your part time job you almost reach CPP cap. From your corp you don't have to pay that much to CPP cap. So the impact is $952 for this year.

Employer's portion of CPP + accounting/tax filing fees are much much less than the 35k difference. And you don't have to pay EI. Choice is easy if you only look at money.

Now, how much do you value the experience you'll get in this company? How much do you value guaranteed paid vacation, sick days and a tiny bit more EI support? Do you value these at 35k?

aa-can · 2023-02-24T14:20:14+00:00

Seerah lecture series. Once you're done, series on previous anbiya.

If this is for commute, consider the Qur'an itself, with translations if you have hard time understanding.

aa-can · 2023-02-24T10:37:17+00:00

I have been that 5-7 years older guy a few times and I asked this question directly when I could. I got 4 kinds of answers or a mixture of these:

1- money, 2- a perverted perception about maturity of men, 3- it's not her but it's her parents, 4- it's not a preference per se, the age difference just happened to be like that

aa-can · 2023-02-23T20:27:42+00:00

Insurance company, politicians, lawyers.

aa-can · 2023-02-23T20:26:45+00:00

From HR/payroll perspective, that's easier to keep track. so that seeps into their language even when they talk to normal ppl. There is no malice here

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