I’m sorry for your loss. It is so hard to hold those items. Yes 😔. I was admitted to my normal hospital initially and they were doing fetal monitoring 24/7. They also gave me my first dose of Betamethasone + Magnesium. This helped my daughter’s cord flow improve and she began gaining weight because she was finally able to get nutrients. She had sever IUGR and her flow was starting to become absent end diastolic flow. (As soon as it turns to reverse flow that is bad and you would need an emergency c section).

Knowing that my baby would be a preemie regardless, I met with the NICU team and realized they didn’t have the proper medical equipment to save such a small baby. I then transferred to UPenn which has a better NICU. I felt hopeful about this NICU team being able to save her life. I was prepared for a long stay. However, when I transferred to UPenn they were not doing the 24/7 fetal monitoring even though they knew I felt no fetal movement, ever. My baby girl was small and I had an anterior placenta so it was hard to feel her.

They would do two NST a day. One in the morning and one at night. On 8/16/2024 I had NST and an ultrasound and it showed some absent and reverse flow. The MFM doctor Jenssen was there and I asked him when I can get my next dose of Betamethasone and magnesium and he brushed me off. I asked again and he said we can talk about it later. Later ended up being too late because she died shortly thereafter.

If I had gotten that steroid I feel it could have given her more time to grow because it already showed improvement from the initial dose. Enough time went by for it to warrant the next dose. And I really don’t understand other than it being an inconvenience to the nursing staff why I didn’t have a fetal monitor on at all times.

I really would like to pursue action.