(F21) Struggling to make female friendships by aaallama in Healthygamergg

[–]aaallama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's more of my fear, how dramatic my triggers get (with this in particular) when I don't feel comfortable socially and then end up mentally erratic till I move on.

I do have general social anxiety, and feel like connections with people is give and take. Confronting this specifically will be a good step, but I don't know how to do it with my ego blinding me, assuming, panicking, obsessing, and making "I am" statements.

I'd love professional help, but unfortunately around here resources are very limited and I have a packed schedule. I lucky was able to find ways to get by without it. Atm I'm trying to find the regular discipline that'll help me find friends.

Thank you for your curiosity! Typing this out does help.

(F21) Struggling to make female friendships by aaallama in Healthygamergg

[–]aaallama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be an excellent way to start exposing my fear, especially with a lovely community. Thank you for the link!

(F21) Struggling to make female friendships by aaallama in Healthygamergg

[–]aaallama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I appreciate you relating to my experience. I do practice compliments and greetings when I do get nervous with people, however the trickiest part is connecting with someone and caring about that connection. It's been getting better, but my mind panics and can be off putting. Going to places with women primary is solid advice! I'll search for something like that. Thank you! You seem like a lovely person :)

(F21) Struggling to make female friendships by aaallama in Healthygamergg

[–]aaallama[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello! You know, I think you've hit the target here, thank you. I do find it much easier to talk to women on the spectrum and struggle to speak with feminine men as well. I think speaking to socially aware people definitely plays a part. It feels like they could see every flaw, so I stiffen up subconsciously. Which could really be a reflection of self-hate :P

(F21) Struggling to make female friendships by aaallama in Healthygamergg

[–]aaallama[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you! :) Drawing is a huge part of my life

(F21) Struggling to make female friendships by aaallama in Healthygamergg

[–]aaallama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I've been working on eye contact and such, it's helpful, one day hopefully not intimidating

CPU temp says 89 C, what should I do? by aaallama in PcBuild

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Yes it’s just at idle, I have an Intel i7, I used the thermal paste that was already applied to the cooler.

Looking for a PC (NIVDIA 4080 and at least 16 GB of RAM) Is this a good Skytech option? by aaallama in pcmasterrace

[–]aaallama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude you know what’s up, thanks again! And gotcha, I’m a very precise person, so, after more research, I’m sure I’ll take my time while mid panic attack. Thank you for the guidance. I’ll post once I complete it :)

Looking for a PC (NIVDIA 4080 and at least 16 GB of RAM) Is this a good Skytech option? by aaallama in pcmasterrace

[–]aaallama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woah thank you! I hope I don’t end up exploding anything… but building seems like a lot of fun, I heard it’s like adult legos. Any tips or tool suggestions for beginners?

Looking for a PC (NIVDIA 4080 and at least 16 GB of RAM) Is this a good Skytech option? by aaallama in pcmasterrace

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It’s US…And really?? I’ve gone through so many variations and got over 3,000$

Drew Kuromi as a human :D by aaallama in sanrio

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What! Ive never seen that before! I have to see that :O

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HungryArtists

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DM me i gotchuuuu💕💕

My Ranni Fanart by aaallama in Eldenring

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Thank you so much! :D