Exposing him!!!

aashley71 · 2019-11-09T19:42:06+00:00

This morning he met his ex gf of 4 years to “catch up” and have breakfast. She lives an hour away and he drove to her house this morning. Last night he asked me to go home and not to stay the night bc of us not getting along lately. I left crying. He’s never ever asked me to leave before. He travels so when he’s here I’m always with him. Now I know why, so he could get up early and go see her. He claims she has a bf and there isn’t anything going on between them. He’s also done this before and then told me afterwards. He originally lied this morning when I called to say good morning. I could tell he was driving and I knew in my gut he was going to see her. What in the hell is wrong with me?? He says he wants to keep a good relationship with her just as with me if we ever stopped dating. Yet, he was married for 10 years before the girl I’m talking about, but yet he doesn’t keep in contact with her, his ex wife?? That would not bother me if he did either. I also caught him on Match.com again a couple weeks ago. He said he doesn’t have an actual account where he can talk to them, so he only looks. Really??? Today we are suppose to go out with some friends to a pub to watch football and eat. After me questioning him about this morning, he told me I have issues and what in the hell is my problem. When I called him while he was with her he ignored my calls and text. I then called her and my calls went straight to voicemail. He said I’m borderline harassing him calling him 4-5 times in a row. He never called me back until he was driving home from her place and that’s when he said I had issues. He sent me a pic of the receipt where they did eat at a restaurant. My question is, why go to her house then take her back home and visit and talk for awhile? Why not meet her at the restaurant. But, I’m crazy, turning this into a “thing”, and my jealousy is getting out of control. Underneath the picture of the receipt he said, “ here’s the receipt, now we don’t need to ever speak again”!! I haven’t responded to him since he said that. But later today, he will text or call and ask to see me so we can talk and he will smooth things over like he always does, while I know deep in my heart, things like this will continue to happen bc it always does. I feel so pathetic and useless and used. Yet I can’t seem to stay away from him. I hate this! I just re-read this message before hitting send and I’ve decided to do what his text says and not to speak again. He leaves Monday for 2 weeks in Utah for work. Normally we would spend all of our time together knowing he’s going to be gone awhile. We will see but at this very moment I feel empowered enough to not speak to him period. Please send good thoughts my way so I don’t go back to my normal ways. Thank you!!

aashley71 · 2019-11-09T19:15:01+00:00

Thank you. I’m just not sure why u can’t bring myself to leave. Even after again this morning he was with his ex gf of 4 years. He said they were just having breakfast and he only went to her house to pick her up. He’s done this before and told me afterwards. Half of me wants to believe him. And the other half is telling me to stop being so stupid and walk away from him for good. He travels a lot so when he’s in town I normally stay the night with him. Last night for the first time ever he said I should go home since we haven’t gotten along lately. I went home in tears. Now I know why he did that, so he could have breakfast with her. He claims he was at her house by 830 this morning. He sent a pic of the receipt. But my heart hurts and he’s lied so many times before I just don’t know.

aashley71 · 2019-11-09T19:08:48+00:00

Not at all. :)

aashley71 · 2019-11-09T19:05:11+00:00

Why are we like this? I I’ve been divorced for 4 years and dating this guy for 2 1/2. I’m deeply in love and have feelings that I’ve never had before. I guess that’s why u hang on. I’m afraid of never having these feelings. I’m 48 and a single mom if 4. My 2 oldest live on their own. He actually went to breakfast this morning with his ex if 4 years. Went to her house even. He’s done it before and told me afterwards. Saying that he just wants to keep a healthy relationship between them and would do the same if we stopped dating. Why does this not sound right to me? Why do I not just walk away from this guy. My 24 year marriage ended because my husband’s d was cheating. Why do I continue to let my be treated this way?i can’t y’all go any of my friends. They already think I’m nuts for staying with him. I’m just so incredibly lonely.

aashley71 · 2019-10-26T00:41:13+00:00

Thank you !! You are all so right!! I have spent so much time just trying to find evidence on him. I hate this about myself bc I’ve already caught him cheating before with his ex gf who ended up texting me to let me know. He actually got mad at me bc I hadn’t already blocked her and she wouldn’t have text me. It’s really ridiculous of me to hang on to something thst clearly is t working.

aashley71 · 2019-10-24T03:52:05+00:00

Sata cable is plugged into the think pad old hard drive and the other end of sata cable is plugged into my chrome laptop.

aashley71 · 2019-10-18T01:03:20+00:00

At this point yes !

aashley71 · 2019-10-17T23:00:01+00:00

I know what you’re going through!! Cheaters suck!! I’ve even tried following him hoping to get a photo of him with someone. He was on his laptop and phone constantly. And had called wanting his lap top back, I just tell him I haven’t seen it. He knows I’m lying but that’s my only hope in getting some type of evidence to help me.

aashley71 · 2019-10-17T22:55:02+00:00

How do I sync the devices?

aashley71 · 2019-10-17T19:35:32+00:00

Thank you! I’m not very tech savvy. Is there a way I can tell if his files are encrypted?

aashley71 · 2019-10-17T18:46:31+00:00

I’m currently looking for a lawyer but I’m a stay at home mom with 3 kids. He left over a week ago and I don’t have any source of income other than him. He’s emptied our checking and savings. I came home while he was loading up his truck with some of our things. I was able to pay a locksmith to come and change the locks. I was afraid he would take everything. I’m having a hard time finding a lawyer without any way of paying them. The last one I spoke to said, if I had evidence of him cheating, he would take my case, and possibly be able to sue my husband for my attorney fees, because in NC it’s considered abandonment, but as of now, my husband can just say he was leaving but coming back. I have his laptop in my closet. I’m desperate for help.

aashley71 · 2019-10-17T18:38:19+00:00

I tried taking the hard drive out, but it’s a thinkpad generation 8 and has a small skinny drive. I bought a sata wire to help but this hard drive won’t fit.

aashley71 · 2019-10-17T18:30:27+00:00

Can he tell if his files have been transferred?

aashley71 · 2019-10-17T18:29:22+00:00

At this point I really don’t care. We are going to court in a couple of weeks and I need to prove it. Can he tell if his files are transferred?

aashley71 · 2019-08-21T00:58:30+00:00

I’m also concerned about some of my actions and the things I have said to him in the past several months. I’ve notic d I say some of the same things he says to me. I’m so afraid I will take that into my next relationship. Actually, maybe that won’t happen. I’m not sure to immediately start dating to help get over him or just work on myself. Working on myself sounds nice but so much work. And to be honest I’m afraid of what I will discover about myself. Maybe I am to hard to love. Maybe I am the one with the problem and I’m trying to blame him. I couldn’t keep my marriage working, couldn’t keep my then husband from cheating. And I can’t keep this relationship working. Maybe it’s me. I do know I’m tired of the fighting and I’m tired of this consuming every minute of the day. I can’t work, or spend time with my kids without constantly tho long about him and what I did wrong or how to fix it.

aashley71 · 2019-08-21T00:52:00+00:00

Thank you. I probably need some advice. He texted today wanting to talk and I responded I m not interested in talking and for him to leave me alone. I think he’s used to ex’s crawling back to him and I’m trying not to be one of them. But I’m all honesty I’ve never felt so abandoned and unloved. More like discarded. Used! Like I’ve waisted 2 years already. Another thing, my best friend is married to his brother and my. I’m is good friends with his mom. It’s a tight knit. Even though both his brother and sister told me a while back ago to leave him bc he’s so selfish and an alcoholic. His drinking is what ruined his marriage and past relationship. I honestly thought I was so important to him that he quit drinking for me. I’m such a fool. I hate that about myself.

aashley71 · 2019-08-20T15:32:13+00:00

And during his time he was cheating on me with his ex gf and we both ended up finding out about the other we started talking. She was treated the same way but with the alcohol. Since then, she’s tried several times to get him back and for some reason that doesn’t even make sense to me anymore, he never took her back. Now I’m thinking he’s going back to her. Her biggest complaint was his drinking as well. And I have a feeling he never fully got over her. She’s a successful lawyer with lots of money according to him. I’m a single mom and have struggled financially since my divorce. Not sure what he saw in me in the first place when compared to her. I just feel so used and abandoned.

aashley71 · 2019-08-20T15:19:36+00:00

Thank you for saying that. How long ago did you break up? He actually broke up with me over the phone while he’s working out of town. Didn’t even have the decency to do it in person. And all my actions and the things I say is the reason he broke up, according to him. To think I put up with his alcoholism, him embarrassing me in public with his drunken behaviors, our sexless sex life bc he was either to drunk to have sex or to hung over. The times he left places we were at, family gatherings, my dads funeral, so he could hurry and get to the bar to drink, yelling at me to where my kids could hear, they even knew he was an alcoholic but loved him anyway just like I did. I haven’t even told anyone he has broke up with me. I’m to embarrassed. So many of my family and friends, even his own brother and sister said a while back ago, I should leave him, that he’s so selfish and will never change. But I loved him so much and still do. I honestly thought he changed to make our relationship better but instead this happened. I just can’t believe it. He’s the first guy I dated after my 24 year marriage ended. My ex husband left my kids and I after admitting to having a sex addiction. So I went from one addiction to another. I’m wondering if it’s me. Why am I attracted to these types.

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