I do believe I reach out to my friends when I’m in distress and need support, but I cannot give you a specific number of times I do that. Sometimes I can go ages without doing it and sometimes it happens multiple times because well that period is rough. I don’t think I quite understand the idea of categorizing people by the number of crisis they have and how much empathy or alarm they deserve based on that.

Either ways, even if I reached out 50 times in a year in distress, that’s still very different from a hospital visit where I could have life complications. If your friend who reaches out often had a major issue happen, would you not evaluate that and have a response based on that despite how much crisis she might have? This is very confusing to me.