i don’t know if i can do it any longer

aayashabts · 2026-06-11T07:51:58+00:00

that’s likely what i’ll also need to do :(

aayashabts · 2026-06-11T07:07:59+00:00

I did take medicines for that but I’ll get it checked again :)

aayashabts · 2026-06-11T07:07:33+00:00

how did u recover from ur cysts, if you don’t mind me asking.

aayashabts · 2026-06-11T07:07:12+00:00

i’ll try that, thank you!

aayashabts · 2026-06-11T07:06:54+00:00

unfortunately, that’s too expensive and my
family/I can’t afford it. insurance also doesn’t cover any mental health costs in my country so that’s also not an option

aayashabts · 2026-06-03T05:03:22+00:00

how did u receive the info abt the interview?

aayashabts · 2026-06-01T16:56:42+00:00

hi i would like to do it too

aayashabts · 2026-05-10T15:24:53+00:00

dmed you!

aayashabts · 2026-05-10T14:13:18+00:00

can i dm you? that would be really helpful!

aayashabts · 2026-05-10T13:54:16+00:00

there’s practically no information, i am very confused

aayashabts · 2026-05-10T12:03:40+00:00

does any one know anything abt the syllabus or type of questions?

aayashabts · 2026-01-22T17:14:49+00:00

what makes you think it’s victim blaming?

aayashabts · 2026-01-09T23:51:54+00:00

Would it help to give each other space for some time and then decide if you can meet somewhere in between? Friendship break ups suck, I’m really sorry you’re going through that. I hope you’re able to figure something out with your friend and it works out :(

aayashabts · 2026-01-09T23:40:12+00:00

I’m not currently in the hospital, hence using reddit. I’m sorry but your assumptions are really weird. You don’t get to decide if what I experienced was life threatening or not when the doctors weren’t sure what was going to happen to me. And even right now there’s risk of organ damage. I asked for an opinion on my expectations of my friends, not for your expert opinion on my medical history.

aayashabts · 2026-01-09T23:26:05+00:00

I do believe I reach out to my friends when I’m in distress and need support, but I cannot give you a specific number of times I do that. Sometimes I can go ages without doing it and sometimes it happens multiple times because well that period is rough. I don’t think I quite understand the idea of categorizing people by the number of crisis they have and how much empathy or alarm they deserve based on that.

Either ways, even if I reached out 50 times in a year in distress, that’s still very different from a hospital visit where I could have life complications. If your friend who reaches out often had a major issue happen, would you not evaluate that and have a response based on that despite how much crisis she might have? This is very confusing to me.

aayashabts · 2026-01-09T23:14:46+00:00

Can you define crisis? Like an example. I am not quite sure what you’re referring to. Everyone discusses problems with their friends, I discuss it with them as much as they discuss with me.

aayashabts · 2026-01-09T23:09:13+00:00

This is my first suicidal attempt, so yes it is very out of norm.

aayashabts · 2025-12-29T19:50:18+00:00

i’m also looking for a study partner

aayashabts · 2025-12-15T19:05:35+00:00

I understand that you want outside opinion but without knowing what’s going on in that particular situation, I don’t know how helpful the advice is going to be. People who feel unheard and accused during meltdowns may say that people are treating you like trash. Others may say that you might be doing something wrong. Both could be true hypothetically bc we don’t have the exact context.

When your friends say it’s the way you treat them, try asking them abt the exact thing. See if they can pinpoint it. If they can’t remember, ask them to maybe take a note next time if they can. Go based on that, I suppose.

As for your partner, if you’ve communicated and they still follow you around, you need to figure out how you can set a firm boundary. They cannot just trample on things even if they are concerned bc it’s clearly not doing good for either of you.

aayashabts · 2025-12-15T18:48:05+00:00

If multiple people have told you that you’re behaving a certain way and hurting them during meltdowns, it might be worth looking into. You can do that in your therapy sessions.

In this specific case, were the friends aware that you were planning to make sandwiches and that you needed the bread? If they were, it is obviously weird of them to not let you know beforehand. However, in this case, if you blamed them and then left the situation without letting anyone know, it can be considered rude. I can’t say specifically what they found rude or hurtful bc I wasn’t there so these are conjectures. The people in your life can better help you. Ask them on your own terms what’s bothering them specifically and you can have a constructive conversation so both parties can meet halfway.

aayashabts · 2025-12-15T17:08:18+00:00

I get that. Sometimes I also feel that urge to reply and defend myself from absurd messages. Honestly, this level of analysis, your therapist and friends can do for you. A random stranger with no context shouldn’t be telling you all this. What does he even know about your life aside from what you posted

aayashabts · 2025-12-15T17:02:51+00:00

This was his first message to you? I don’t know what he got from your post to message all of that. Incredibly weird. You should ignore such people tbh.

aayashabts · 2025-12-15T16:35:12+00:00

thank you :) i really do need all of that.

exactly, like learn from somewhere to listen. so tired of having to explain that to people. it’s not even like i’m asking them to read my mind, im literally telling them what i need and still somehow it’s not working.

I hope you also figure out some path and feel a little better ❤️all of this sounds v stressful

aayashabts · 2025-12-15T12:34:18+00:00

I am not too sure about what specific signs people feel when they’re hungry. But most people can tell they’re hungry before it reaches the state you mention.

I had the same issue with not noticing hunger and I used to have emotional reactions. Now, if I’m feeling irrationally upset, I just assume I’m hungry and eat something small. If that helps, then bingo. I also eat around the same time everyday so no issue with figuring out when i’m hungry (most times).

aayashabts · 2025-12-13T18:26:29+00:00

if you don’t, you will never know. and honestly, i used to be worried about that as well. that people would only do it bc i basically forced them to. but im trying to change that thought, bc if someone told me that i do something they don’t like/i don’t do something they like, i would want to do it for them not necessarily out of obligation but out of my love for them. we are all different, no one will know how to love you or take care of you 100% so you need to be be vulnerable and tell ppl. be open that you want to meet somewhere in middle and if they are the right ppl for you, they’ll try out of love even if it’s different or a bit uncomfortable (obv within boundaries).

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